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Only the love card should be pulled by the husband. Respect for the husband comes from the wife, it may be earned by the husband but the husband must not demand it. Husbands should love their wives but should not think that they are the boss of their wives. A good husband will put the wants and needs of the wife above his own hopes and desires. A wife is not the personal slave of the husband to wait on his every whim. A husband who loves his wife will earn her respect by who he is in his walk with the Lord and this will show by his actions toward to her as his wife in how he protects and provides for her. A loving and faithful husband will be the best friend of the wife and a loving and faithful wife will be the best friend to the husband.
Well, I may be coming from a way-off perspective, since I am a "new" Christian. I'm not completely sure what a Godly husband is supposed to be. But, I would guess that he is someone who the family (wife and kids) look to for guidance on things. Someone who has the final say (after discussions with his wife) about matters like finance, discipline, etc. Someone who leads the family down the righteous path, keeping everyone in line with God's ideals and beliefs.
My quote feature isn't working correctly right now, so I'll just say I really appreciate a lot of the thoughts that have been shared. It seems like most everyone is somewhat in agreement (except for Maxwel 
).
From my own personal experience, I know several mature Christian men that I admire for the way they love and lead their wives and children. The concept of a husband's leadership (or headship, as Matt Chandler put it -- thanks for sharing those awesome vids, Chandlerfan!) was familiar to me but it never became so real to me until I was in a relationship.
In short, my answer to the original question "what does it look like?" is "it looks like Christ". Don't get me wrong, I don't expect any person, male or female, to be flawless. But when someone is growing in their walk with the Lord and expressing Christ-like attributes in a way that is appropriate to their spiritual maturity level, that is something exceedingly precious. When a man loves a woman in a pure and selfless way, when he seeks to serve, protect, and humbly set a godly example for her (in the face of both success and failure), when he is sensitive to her needs, when he sees her worth as a fellow child of God, when he passionately pursues Christ and encourages her as she does the same, it does something to her heart. At least it did for me. To me, it just looked like Christ. That type of love is clearly not of this world. That's the sort of love that can only stem from the heart of a man who is captured by Christ. That's the sort of love that makes me feel cherished and beautiful. It's the kind of love that makes me feel safe enough willingly and joyfully submit as I have been called to do.
A man can never be perfect, and I wouldn't expect him to be, but a man worth submitting to is a man who submits to Christ.
). From my own personal experience, I know several mature Christian men that I admire for the way they love and lead their wives and children. The concept of a husband's leadership (or headship, as Matt Chandler put it -- thanks for sharing those awesome vids, Chandlerfan!) was familiar to me but it never became so real to me until I was in a relationship.
In short, my answer to the original question "what does it look like?" is "it looks like Christ". Don't get me wrong, I don't expect any person, male or female, to be flawless. But when someone is growing in their walk with the Lord and expressing Christ-like attributes in a way that is appropriate to their spiritual maturity level, that is something exceedingly precious. When a man loves a woman in a pure and selfless way, when he seeks to serve, protect, and humbly set a godly example for her (in the face of both success and failure), when he is sensitive to her needs, when he sees her worth as a fellow child of God, when he passionately pursues Christ and encourages her as she does the same, it does something to her heart. At least it did for me. To me, it just looked like Christ. That type of love is clearly not of this world. That's the sort of love that can only stem from the heart of a man who is captured by Christ. That's the sort of love that makes me feel cherished and beautiful. It's the kind of love that makes me feel safe enough willingly and joyfully submit as I have been called to do.
A man can never be perfect, and I wouldn't expect him to be, but a man worth submitting to is a man who submits to Christ.
T
My quote feature isn't working correctly right now, so I'll just say I really appreciate a lot of the thoughts that have been shared. It seems like most everyone is somewhat in agreement (except for Maxwel ).
From my own personal experience, I know several mature Christian men that I admire for the way they love and lead their wives and children. The concept of a husband's leadership (or headship, as Matt Chandler put it -- thanks for sharing those awesome vids, Chandlerfan!) was familiar to me but it never became so real to me until I was in a relationship.
In short, my answer to the original question "what does it look like?" is "it looks like Christ". Don't get me wrong, I don't expect any person, male or female, to be flawless. But when someone is growing in their walk with the Lord and expressing Christ-like attributes in a way that is appropriate to their spiritual maturity level, that is something exceedingly precious. When a man loves a woman in a pure and selfless way, when he seeks to serve, protect, and humbly set a godly example for her (in the face of both success and failure), when he is sensitive to her needs, when he sees her worth as a fellow child of God, when he passionately pursues Christ and encourages her as she does the same, it does something to her heart. At least it did for me. To me, it just looked like Christ. That type of love is clearly not of this world. That's the sort of love that can only stem from the heart of a man who is captured by Christ. That's the sort of love that makes me feel cherished and beautiful. It's the kind of love that makes me feel safe enough willingly and joyfully submit as I have been called to do.
A man can never be perfect, and I wouldn't expect him to be, but a man worth submitting to is a man who submits to Christ.
). From my own personal experience, I know several mature Christian men that I admire for the way they love and lead their wives and children. The concept of a husband's leadership (or headship, as Matt Chandler put it -- thanks for sharing those awesome vids, Chandlerfan!) was familiar to me but it never became so real to me until I was in a relationship.
In short, my answer to the original question "what does it look like?" is "it looks like Christ". Don't get me wrong, I don't expect any person, male or female, to be flawless. But when someone is growing in their walk with the Lord and expressing Christ-like attributes in a way that is appropriate to their spiritual maturity level, that is something exceedingly precious. When a man loves a woman in a pure and selfless way, when he seeks to serve, protect, and humbly set a godly example for her (in the face of both success and failure), when he is sensitive to her needs, when he sees her worth as a fellow child of God, when he passionately pursues Christ and encourages her as she does the same, it does something to her heart. At least it did for me. To me, it just looked like Christ. That type of love is clearly not of this world. That's the sort of love that can only stem from the heart of a man who is captured by Christ. That's the sort of love that makes me feel cherished and beautiful. It's the kind of love that makes me feel safe enough willingly and joyfully submit as I have been called to do.
A man can never be perfect, and I wouldn't expect him to be, but a man worth submitting to is a man who submits to Christ.
K
That's easy- compare it to Christ and His bride (the church)- He leads her but does not force her into submission, and she submits to Him of her own freewill. If he loves you enough to die for you he is not going to mistreat you, and a man like that deserves great respect and love. 1 Corinthians 11:3 " But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God." What is Christ's attitude toward the Father? He said He came to do the will of His Father. A wife should do the will of her husband, and a child should do the will of their parents. If a man has not put childish ways behind him, and thinks of himself before others, don't even date him. However, having said all that, the highest authority of us all is God. If a man (or anyone) tells you to do something that goes against God, you do what God says instead. I say this saying, and I think it's a really good place to start...
Boys play house...Men build homes! Boys shack up...Men get married! Boys make babies...Men raise children! A boy won't raise his own children, a man will raise his and someone else's! Boys invent excuses for failure...Men produce strategies for success! Boys look for somebody to take care of them...Men look for someone to take care of! Boys seek popularity...Men demand respect and know how to give it.
Boys play house...Men build homes! Boys shack up...Men get married! Boys make babies...Men raise children! A boy won't raise his own children, a man will raise his and someone else's! Boys invent excuses for failure...Men produce strategies for success! Boys look for somebody to take care of them...Men look for someone to take care of! Boys seek popularity...Men demand respect and know how to give it.