The idea of unrequited love
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I had a personally bad experience online, to a guy who really lied and said he was a believer. But this was when I was young in the Lord, aka vulnerable. I think your dice rollin' worked out! So you set for us a a great example!! I may roll my dice again real soon. I just pray that the other person does too. lol...
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If i didn't think i was good for a person, or a person was good for me. I wouldn't have anything to do with him. I certainly wouldn't drag things out or become good friends and then say, ''I'm no good for you!'' That's such drama.
Anyway, as for the subject at hand. I'm not sure i have experienced unrequited love. I've only been in love with one person. And he loved me back. There was someone that loved me i didn't love back though. And i was really straight forward with him about not feeling the same. I didn't want there to be any misunderstandings about it.
I kind of have a question though. This unrequited love is about loving someone you can't have. Obviously age, availability and if the person feels the same factor in to that, but other than those things... why wouldn't something work??
And If you really loved someone and this someone loved you back... Wouldn't you want to find a way to make it work?
Anyway, as for the subject at hand. I'm not sure i have experienced unrequited love. I've only been in love with one person. And he loved me back. There was someone that loved me i didn't love back though. And i was really straight forward with him about not feeling the same. I didn't want there to be any misunderstandings about it.
I kind of have a question though. This unrequited love is about loving someone you can't have. Obviously age, availability and if the person feels the same factor in to that, but other than those things... why wouldn't something work??
And If you really loved someone and this someone loved you back... Wouldn't you want to find a way to make it work?
Ummm....... I just kinda go where God calls. He's kept me single and whispers secrets in my ears. Then He does this weird stuff with my heart. I start obsessing about a country or area, He shows me pictures, and I find no peace in my life until i book the flight. Then He quickly makes me fall in love with the people and the place. Next thing I know, I'm offered a job in China teaching at a University. I go with it and love it here. Im just trying to walk out my crazy life. I could use all the prayers I could get. Thanks! I have asked for supernatural language acquisition and memory, etc. I came here with no knowledge of the language but my life has changed drastically and I am suddenly learning. I've never felt such peace. These are my people!
I keep waiting for wisebeardman to say "wots love?" or "wots unrequited love?" or something...
Nice definition of stalking Charcoal. Gonna have to remember that one.
I've never been on either end of unrequited love (at least not that I know of... if a girl has a crush on you but never gets up the nerve to ask you out, how will you know?) but I've heard stories of people who died of a broken heart when the object of their affection wouldn't return their love. I always thought that was all well and good for stories, but in real life it seems there are other things to enjoy, do, live for. But as I said, I've never experienced it so I wouldn't know.
Nice definition of stalking Charcoal. Gonna have to remember that one.
I've never been on either end of unrequited love (at least not that I know of... if a girl has a crush on you but never gets up the nerve to ask you out, how will you know?) but I've heard stories of people who died of a broken heart when the object of their affection wouldn't return their love. I always thought that was all well and good for stories, but in real life it seems there are other things to enjoy, do, live for. But as I said, I've never experienced it so I wouldn't know.
Gosh I had to pray about this one today. I was thinking about these words as I was walking along the street today. I took a leap of faith with that man, and I think it was a test to see if I could do that. Now, I am in a new place with a new life. I think you can take a leap of faith and God sees that and rewards it and then says ok, he was not ready nor did he have time for you, NEXT! But, I still do not fully understand His plans for me, sometimes.
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Yeh, I've rejected guys who said they were in love with me, as gently as possible. I can only remember being rejected one time. The way I look at it is I'll take what I can get- friendship, a hello, a smile is better than nothing to me. The more I get from my crush the happier I am. But I would rather get nothing from my crush then settle for someone who I don't feel that way about. Yes, I'd rather be alone and miserable for the rest of my life than to be with someone that's not my soul mate.
Wow!
Can i say, publicly, I have loved you since I read many things about you?
Without saying it outloud, will I fear you or would I be afraid of people´s reactions (or objections)? (My age vs your´s or your likes or core emotions).
Again, many people here and around, are betting in love to loose and not to win (please, count me within those who don´t want to bet neither to lose).
Recently I have found myself happy and laughing at people I don´t know and I have liked. In the subway people greet me with their laugh or salutations and, when I wondered why, I touched my own face and found I was smiling while looking at them and they didn´t know that´s my everyday´s facial expression.
Last week a chinesse family greeted me with their smiles, and I checked myself what was the face or expression I had deserving such an honor when they were living their car to get into their home: I was the same I´m all days (but these said hello, and I know they seldom say it to extrangers).
Is it deserved? Do we need something to be loved or liked?
Each time I walked somewhere, I have found me looking at babies or children and, to check myself, I see I was laughed looking or staring at them (well! At those I liked, because I don´t like everybody, but few, like you Jesuschick).
In short! If I´m rejected the problem is NOT mine if I haven´t done anything wrong. If I did it, I deserved rejection but, if I don´t, the problem is not mine, but theirs and, please, don´t take this public approaching as an assault or insult, I´m not expecting your acceptance or nobody´s, I´m just telling I have liked many things I have read about you, and probably I have had my face that way I cannot watche when I liked things I have seen or read... Just that!
Can i say, publicly, I have loved you since I read many things about you?
Without saying it outloud, will I fear you or would I be afraid of people´s reactions (or objections)? (My age vs your´s or your likes or core emotions).
Again, many people here and around, are betting in love to loose and not to win (please, count me within those who don´t want to bet neither to lose).
Recently I have found myself happy and laughing at people I don´t know and I have liked. In the subway people greet me with their laugh or salutations and, when I wondered why, I touched my own face and found I was smiling while looking at them and they didn´t know that´s my everyday´s facial expression.
Last week a chinesse family greeted me with their smiles, and I checked myself what was the face or expression I had deserving such an honor when they were living their car to get into their home: I was the same I´m all days (but these said hello, and I know they seldom say it to extrangers).
Is it deserved? Do we need something to be loved or liked?
Each time I walked somewhere, I have found me looking at babies or children and, to check myself, I see I was laughed looking or staring at them (well! At those I liked, because I don´t like everybody, but few, like you Jesuschick).
In short! If I´m rejected the problem is NOT mine if I haven´t done anything wrong. If I did it, I deserved rejection but, if I don´t, the problem is not mine, but theirs and, please, don´t take this public approaching as an assault or insult, I´m not expecting your acceptance or nobody´s, I´m just telling I have liked many things I have read about you, and probably I have had my face that way I cannot watche when I liked things I have seen or read... Just that!
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I personally developed really REALLY strong feelings for my childhood friend in highschool. He was smart, wonderful musician, quirky, energetic, ect. But I knew he would never go for me, but I still couldn't help being drawn to him. The thing that separated us was his getting a girlfriend. I didn't know how to handle it. We still talked and everything but realized I was emotionally detaching myself from him. Even when he was sitting next to me I would find myself shifting away from him.
Sadly now we have no relationship now, and he left our church. I think the worst thing for me was never telling him how I felt, and every once in a while I have sleeping/waking dreams of what would have happened if I had.
Sadly now we have no relationship now, and he left our church. I think the worst thing for me was never telling him how I felt, and every once in a while I have sleeping/waking dreams of what would have happened if I had.
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In highschool I really liked this girl, but being as introverted I was at the time, I never said anything, then 2 years later I made a facebook profile and a little while after I saw she had a profile, I messaged her and said hi, I said that used to really like her in highschool, and she said "and you waited until now to tell me?". At the moment my heart dropped cause I knew she was right. Anyway by this time in my life I was drinking, smoking weed heavily, I was rarely sober actually, I was in with the wrong crowd, getting arrested. This was completely the opposite of where this woman was heading, she was studying hard in university she doing great and I was heading nowhere fast. We messaged eachother a couple times, but being the doped out drunken state of mind I was in, I found myself saying the wrong things to her, eventually she blocked me I think, which is probably a good thing now that I think about it. It's only now that I'm sober I look back on things and realize how wrong I was, haha approaching her through the internet!! it's quite embarrasing really. But ya know you live and you learn I guess, I cleaned up my act drastically over the past 3 years.
I think there's many things I've learnt from this experience which is... Don't ever ever never tell a woman you like her through facebook or online stuff, it's rather pathetic. Don't wait too long to tell her, cause you snooze you lose. don't do drugs and alchohol of course!! AND DON'T EVER FACEBOOK WHILE DRUNK!!! haha ohhh man.
I think about this woman occasionally, I don't feel for her anymore, I feel sympathy towards her for the silly things she put up with while I was messaging her. I hope one day I could meet her face to face just to say sorry.
sorry for the long story.
I think there's many things I've learnt from this experience which is... Don't ever ever never tell a woman you like her through facebook or online stuff, it's rather pathetic. Don't wait too long to tell her, cause you snooze you lose. don't do drugs and alchohol of course!! AND DON'T EVER FACEBOOK WHILE DRUNK!!! haha ohhh man.
I think about this woman occasionally, I don't feel for her anymore, I feel sympathy towards her for the silly things she put up with while I was messaging her. I hope one day I could meet her face to face just to say sorry.
sorry for the long story.