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If I had a gf that was all paranoid because she'd been cheated on, and she asked politely to look through my things because of her terrible insecurity... if I was really serious about her, then I would let her.
However, if she just tore through all my private things without asking me,
that's the last day she would be my girlfriend.
I don't have anything to hide,
but I'm still serious about others respecting my privacy.
However, if she just tore through all my private things without asking me,
that's the last day she would be my girlfriend.
I don't have anything to hide,
but I'm still serious about others respecting my privacy.
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I don't even have a cell phone ( I know I know! Its weird..), if I did sure why not? I don't even use social media accounts that much anyways and I mostly stick to Christian chat sites over all. If he came across anything rather questionable or personal he probably would have already been told this by me ahead of time. I am not currently seeing anyone but I'd hope that we could be very open with each other and be comfortable around each other to where we could always prove to each other we are trustworthy. If I was dating someone I don't think I'd have anything to hide and if I did its more than likely going to just be between me and God, not on my social media sites or on my cellphone.
When there are no secrets to hide, there is no concern. I've about decided to live my life as if there are no secrets. Then I have no reason to worry someone will find one of them.
Besides a girlfriend would never figure out how to use my phone. And if she did, she's pretty smart and I'll probably stick with her. =^.^=
Besides a girlfriend would never figure out how to use my phone. And if she did, she's pretty smart and I'll probably stick with her. =^.^=
I would have no problem with my girlfriend wanting to look through my phone or social media in the future in regards to me. However, I do have a couple of friends who have shared some personal things they are dealing with in messages on FB and have asked advice, and I would be somewhat concerned for her to read them. It isn't about me in that case, but the privacy of my friends and the information they are sharing being believed to be private.
I am not sure what the resolution would be in that situation, but I would not want to violate the trust held by anyone in that situation.
I am not sure what the resolution would be in that situation, but I would not want to violate the trust held by anyone in that situation.
Without trust there is no basis for a relationship. I would and I have let my fiancée use my cell phone. It is now our phone. She has no need or desire to go through my personal information as she trust me and I trust her. Besides, we operate on full-disclosure and neither of us has anything to hide or to be kept secret.
As crazy as it may sound tourist and I were full disclosure right off the bat. I told him every bad thing I had ever done in an effort to let him run in the other direction if that's what he chose to do. I am almost 60 years old and if I can't trust someone now with my entire life history then they don't need to be in my life. I do not play games what you read is what you get like I said I am almost 60.
I would trust my fiancée with anything I own even the bank account....car, house, my life....it's called marriage until death do you part.....I'm all in.
I would trust my fiancée with anything I own even the bank account....car, house, my life....it's called marriage until death do you part.....I'm all in.
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I have nothing to hide and feel that in a serious relationship there should be no secrets. So I would have no problem with them using my phone or even looking through it. I would at least hope they would be honest about it and tell me what they did (or will do) and that they do not use personal conversations against me because sometimes there are people we talk to that we can bounce off words and things we normally would never have someone to talk things over with.
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THE REASON I POST THIS was because I was watching a court case where the plantiff's bf ask for her phone to take a photo(he didnt have his at tht time). She gave him n he went to her twitter and post a joke about ebola. How they cant have it bc they r white etc. The lady's boss saw the twitter comment n fired her. She sued her boss for breach of contract.
I am a person who values personal space. While I am open and transparent, there are some boundaries which I believe are good for any relationship. One of that is interfering with my emails, mobile phone, social media accounts etc. It is not because I have something to hide, but it is because I value my personal space.
I would not go through the following things of my gf -
- Her social media accounts
- Phones/laptops
- Her bag/purse/whatever-you-ladies-call-it
- Attending calls/messages meant for her
- Her personal diary or Bible
- Her circle of friends (it is okay to get to know them but it is not ok to 'invite yourself' into the circle)
In short, anything that she calls as personal, is off-limits for me.
I would not go through the following things of my gf -
- Her social media accounts
- Phones/laptops
- Her bag/purse/whatever-you-ladies-call-it
- Attending calls/messages meant for her
- Her personal diary or Bible
- Her circle of friends (it is okay to get to know them but it is not ok to 'invite yourself' into the circle)
In short, anything that she calls as personal, is off-limits for me.
I am learning to totally trust God too and I would like to think that in order to start a heaven on earth situation that I could also learn to trust a human too. As long as that human also is putting God first in their life it should be an easy thing to do. I trust God will look out for me as He is the one who knows what is in my heart and the heart of the other human. Got to learn to trust somewhere and I am willing to give God, fiancée and trust a chance. It's called going outside the box, out on a limb, hanging by a thread, faith and trust.....
P.S. By the way I don't own a cell phone so no problem......
P.S. By the way I don't own a cell phone so no problem......
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Of course,
Have a bit of trust
If they went through my Social media accounts though, I would be out the door if it was someone I was just getting to know and be having issues if it was a longer relationship. If they dont trust me and are crazy enough to go through my social media (It makes no difference if we use the same computer etc and Im logged in etc, but actively going through my messages...) then they obviously dont trust me, and are a little crazy
But I have no problem with them borrowing my phone/laptop etc, no problem with them seeing anything on social media, but going through my messages without asking etc is a betrayal of my trust and not acceptable
Have a bit of trust
If they went through my Social media accounts though, I would be out the door if it was someone I was just getting to know and be having issues if it was a longer relationship. If they dont trust me and are crazy enough to go through my social media (It makes no difference if we use the same computer etc and Im logged in etc, but actively going through my messages...) then they obviously dont trust me, and are a little crazy
But I have no problem with them borrowing my phone/laptop etc, no problem with them seeing anything on social media, but going through my messages without asking etc is a betrayal of my trust and not acceptable