I don't really like successful men

[Susanna]

Okay, we've had a thread on guys liking or not liking girls wearing make up or not. Let's play this game the other way around. I'm sure men too has got a lot of "make up" to cover their flaws with. It's just aint called make up. Men's make up is, the way I see it, success. And ladies...would y'all go for the man wearing his "make up" or would y'all go for the guy not wearing any of it...and dishonesty here is a total no go.

 

[Loveneverfails]

Good idea, but it's hard to compare. Makeup is really specific, but "success" is way too broad of a concept which is defined in many different ways. Were you perhaps referring to financial abundance?

 

[Ugly]

Within the field of dating success = $$$. And of course money = power. But money, for women, tends to be the primary motive.
Its been established that many women will pick a mans finances rather than the man.

 

[Loveneverfails]

Okay. I know money is a form of success, but I've never thought of it as "the" form of success when it comes to a man's attractiveness.

Well, guess my answer to the OP is I don't care. My fiance didn't even have a car when we first got together and I never viewed him as unsuccessful or undesirable. If anything I guess I'm the opposite. I'm actually wary of men who flaunt their wealth, much like I was wary of extremely flirty men. It just comes across as showy and fake to me. It's fine if a guy has money, but it's the 'flaunting' it that rubs me the wrong way.

 

[Lynx]

I agree with the second post - what are we using as the parameters of "successful?"

My pastor is 82 years old, not rich by any means - but he's still in good health, he's led a lot of people to God, many of his church have become preachers themselves and everyone in town knows and likes him. I mean EVERYONE! He can't just make a fast trip to the supermarket for one thing - it takes him a good 20 minutes of talking to random people he meets there before he even gets to the aisle he's going for. That's successful to me. And if you have read the "A Friend of Mine" poem I left in the poetry forum you'll know what a good man he is.

 

[cinder]

Well I don't know about "success", but a guy who is too polished and smooth with his lines will instantly set my alarm bells off. Better to be your awkward self than to come across as a guy who is expert at picking up or seducing women.

As far as job / money goes, if a guy around my age has never had a job or lived on his own that's going to raise some questions. Won't necessarily disqualify him, but he is going to have to find a way to prove that he is ready to consider starting and providing for his own family. A guy who makes enough to support himself would be my ideal and as seoul pointed out in another thread that has a lot more to do with his priorities and money management skills than it does the number on his paycheck.

A guy who throws money around like he has an endless supply? I'm not for sale and I'm not impressed. Next please.

 

[MissCris]

Well I don't know about "success", but a guy who is too polished and smooth with his lines will instantly set my alarm bells off. Better to be your awkward self than to come across as a guy who is expert at picking up or seducing women.

As far as job / money goes, if a guy around my age has never had a job or lived on his own that's going to raise some questions. Won't necessarily disqualify him, but he is going to have to find a way to prove that he is ready to consider starting and providing for his own family. A guy who makes enough to support himself would be my ideal and as seoul pointed out in another thread that has a lot more to do with his priorities and money management skills than it does the number on his paycheck.

A guy who throws money around like he has an endless supply? I'm not for sale and I'm not impressed. Next please.

That...is awesome. Wish I'd thought of that a couple times in my past.

 

[Roh_Chris]

I think it's harsh to say that successful men use a lot of "make up". You need to scratch the surface and see if the man is really as successful as he claims to be or if it just an illusion. If he is truly successfully, I think you must commend him for it rather than write him off with contempt. I say this because I have a few friends who have lived the "rags to riches" story. Their success has come from years of hardwork and sweat. Yes, they own BMWs and Range Rovers but that is the fruits of their success, not some "make up" that they are wearing to make themselves look good. If God truly blessed a man for the work of his hands and gave him abundant riches who are you and I to call it "make up"?

This attitude can be compared with a thread that Artsie had posted about how some people get jealous/bitter against pretty people. If you look at it closely, both these attitudes come out of the same issue - our own insecurities.

 

[MissCris]

If we're all going around writing people off based on what they wear on their face or what's in their bank account, that makes us...you know, judgy and superficial. These kinds of threads are kind of silly to me (though I admit I'm sort of a pro at super silly threads)...not that I don't respect people's opinions on it, but just this idea that there's something inherently wrong with a man who makes a lot of money, or with a woman who wears makeup...I dunno.

Lots of broad, generalized statements being made...

Why not be more specific? "I don't like men who try to buy my affection" or..."I'm not impressed by expensive cars and fancy dinners".

I've just seen so many threads very similar to this one and to Liamson's, where the whole thing is based off of one person's specific preferences, and it just doesn't really GO anywhere, beyond members of the opposite sex rushing in to defend their own wearing of makeup, or their own success, or...you get the idea.

You know what I don't like? Cheese puffs. They're basically just air, pretending to be a Cheeto, hiding behind powdered cheese, and it's misleading and kinda gross.

 

[tourist]

If we're all going around writing people off based on what they wear on their face or what's in their bank account, that makes us...you know, judgy and superficial. These kinds of threads are kind of silly to me...not that I don't respect people's opinions on it, but just this idea that there's something inherently wrong with a man who makes a lot of money, or with a woman who wears makeup...I dunno.

Lots of broad, generalized statements being made...

Why not be more specific? "I don't like men who try to buy my affection" or..."I'm not impressed by expensive cars and fancy dinners".

I've just seen so many threads very similar to this one and to Liamson's, where the whole thing is based off of one person's specific preferences, and it just doesn't really GO anywhere, beyond members of the opposite sex rushing in to defend their own wearing of makeup, or their own success, or...you get the idea.

You know what I don't like? Cheese puffs. They're basically just air, pretending to be a Cheeto, hiding behind powdered cheese, and it's misleading and kinda gross.

I agree about the cheese puff. I prefer Lay's as the chips are not pretentious and are more up-front. They have a clean taste.

 

[Susanna]

You know what I don't like? Cheese puffs. They're basically just air, pretending to be a Cheeto, hiding behind powdered cheese, and it's misleading and kinda gross.

This one made me laugh.

 

[ardchoille]

What is the desire of your heart? I feel the answer to this question will define whether or not one is successful.

Jesus wasn't born in the most expensive or elaborate inn, didn't wear the most expensive or elaborate clothing, nor did He own the most expensive or elaborate home or means of transportation. I believe these things were to be examples for us.

"For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Matt 6:21

 

[Lizathrose]

I agree about the cheese puff. I prefer Lay's as the chips are not pretentious and are more up-front. They have a clean taste.

Regular Lay's chips are a bit too salty. The lightly salted ones aren't too shabby, though.

 

[Susanna]

I think it's harsh to say that successful men use a lot of "make up". You need to scratch the surface and see if the man is really as successful as he claims to be or if it just an illusion. If he is truly successfully, I think you must commend him for it rather than write him off with contempt. I say this because I have a few friends who have lived the "rags to riches" story. Their success has come from years of hardwork and sweat. Yes, they own BMWs and Range Rovers but that is the fruits of their success, not some "make up" that they are wearing to make themselves look good. If God truly blessed a man for the work of his hands and gave him abundant riches who are you and I to call it "make up"?

This attitude can be compared with a thread that Artsie had posted about how some people get jealous/bitter against pretty people. If you look at it closely, both these attitudes come out of the same issue - our own insecurities.

Cheer up, this thread isn't that serious.

 

[biscuit]

The most critical process or step in a relationship is knowing what type of mate you want then pursue him or her. You will be surprised how easily the others steps fall into place.

The majority of men & women don't have a clue as to what type of mate they wish to live their lives with. They will too often get intimate with the person that looks good or feel good about without really knowing who that person really is (lack of investigation). Sadly, the majority never survive the first step and are suffering from it daily.

 

[wisebeardman]

so who wants to live under the bridge with me?

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

I think it's harsh to say that successful men use a lot of "make up". You need to scratch the surface and see if the man is really as successful as he claims to be or if it just an illusion. If he is truly successfully, I think you must commend him for it rather than write him off with contempt. I say this because I have a few friends who have lived the "rags to riches" story. Their success has come from years of hardwork and sweat. Yes, they own BMWs and Range Rovers but that is the fruits of their success, not some "make up" that they are wearing to make themselves look good. If God truly blessed a man for the work of his hands and gave him abundant riches who are you and I to call it "make up"?

This attitude can be compared with a thread that Artsie had posted about how some people get jealous/bitter against pretty people. If you look at it closely, both these attitudes come out of the same issue - our own insecurities.

Best post here so far.

 

[JesusLives]

I like God's attitude on this one....Meaning I go for the heart of the matter. What I look for in a guy is his heart - Is it a good one? Is he gentle and kind? Is he loving does he have a good work ethic? It doesn't matter what the job is he holds but does he do his best at it? Is he loyal, faithful, does he love me for me? This is above and beyond successful in my book. Because if a guys heart is in the right place and he is putting God first and following God's direction how can this man be anything but successful?

So my question to the OP would be Why don't you like or want a successful Man? Usually a successful man would have a good self esteem and I know that men like respect so what is so wrong with any of that? Now if you are talking about an arrogant man I am with you all the way.

But God had it right when He said He doesn't look on the outside but God looks on the heart.... I would like to think this Blond also goes to the heart of the matter. I Respect Successful Men as long as they put God first and follow Him. My Love is now reserved for One Successful Man and we all know who that is.....Blond out.

 

[tourist]

I like God's attitude on this one....Meaning I go for the heart of the matter. What I look for in a guy is his heart - Is it a good one? Is he gentle and kind? Is he loving does he have a good work ethic? It doesn't matter what the job is he holds but does he do his best at it? Is he loyal, faithful, does he love me for me? This is above and beyond successful in my book. Because if a guys heart is in the right place and he is putting God first and following God's direction how can this man be anything but successful?

So my question to the OP would be Why don't you like or want a successful Man? Usually a successful man would have a good self esteem and I know that men like respect so what is so wrong with any of that? Now if you are talking about an arrogant man I am with you all the way.

But God had it right when He said He doesn't look on the outside but God looks on the heart.... I would like to think this Blond also goes to the heart of the matter. I Respect Successful Men as long as they put God first and follow Him. My Love is now reserved for One Successful Man and we all know who that is.....Blond out.

First I want to thank my wife and the members of the academy...

 

[Roh_Chris]

Oh, this was a silly thread. My bad. I apologize. I just read the OP and "flew off the handle". <.<

I agree about the cheese puff. I prefer Lay's as the chips are not pretentious and are more up-front. They have a clean taste.

Lay's is 80% air and 20% chips. Now that's the kind of "make up" which I don't like. Why inflate a pack to make it seem like it is stuffed with chips only to find that there are hardly any chips? Oh the nerve to swindle us like that!