Um...isn't marriage the solution for struggling with sexual immorality?
I Corinthians 7:2: "But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband."
I Corinthians 7:9: "But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."
It's in moments like these that I like to click the "reset" button; pull back and review the Master's views. On the subject of sexuality, what he said is that you're NOT being immoral JUST when you sleep with a woman who's not your wife, BUT starting the very moment you feel like you want her.
"Sexual immorality", from the Lord's viewpoint, takes place the very moment your heart starts to burn with these passions that you're not supposed to have in the first place.
So here we are; myself, Justin, DCrawshawJr and the apostle Paul... gathered in this room, trying to figure out what Justin ought to do. And please, do keep in mind that we're all attempting to find a more "acceptable" approach to deal with this situation.
Paul's says that Justin should marry. From his viewpoint, it's the "civil" solution. (And we consider ourselves to be civilized people). DCrawshawJr agrees with Paul, just adding that Justin should first pray to Jesus about it (not sure what exactly the Master will be being asked here); so pray, then speak to the girl's parents. Yet if I remember correctly, Justin isn't so sure about committing himself to marry this girl. "
I am kind of attracted to her and she's cute but not really my type." Says Justin.
So we're back to square 1: What should Justin do?
The fact of the matter is, whether he sleeps with her or not, whether he marries her (to then sleep with her) or not, the "misfortune" has already happened: Justin has already sinned (for "lusting"). Therefore in my view, whatever way Justin decides to handle the "situation" (civilized or not), it won't make matters any worse. Which begs the question: Which is least worst choice?
1. Marrying the girl just so he can sleep with her?
2. or Talking to the girl, and confessing the truth (i.e. "Will you sleep with me?")
If he's presented with just the 2 choices, then which one is the least worst?
Now that I think about it a little more, "praying to Jesus" (as DCrawshawJr suggested), would be the best decision here. And you wouldn't pray asking: "Should I marry her or not?" Instead you would pray asking for strength. He promised that anything we want we can have, that all we need to do is ask. So why is it that you're still struggling with these things that aren't supposed to "dare" attack you anymore?!?! That's the real problem... and it's a completely unacceptable predicament for a son of God to suffer.
So: Don't ask the girl if she wants to sleep with you. And don't decide to marry her. Instead, take a little time to meditate on your NOBILITY (as a Prince of the King of kings), how such things as lust are a stain on your character/dignity, then you will find clear and concise words to use when you kneel down before the Lord to pray (asking for strength).
I wish you good luck, and please keep in mind: Whatever happens, He loves you. He always will, no matter what.
