I would agree - 100%
crazy begets crazy
People want what is bad for them - even spouses
People take abuse from others, because they have a twisted view of themselves, i can't do any better, I deserve the way they treat me
Then they realize, oh that nice person, was way better than this loser, hey nice person, I like you now that I have screwed up my life, can you help me as I put this burden on you that somehow I expect you to carry?
I tried to be non-gender specific lol