are you kidding me? a HEALED marriage where both parties are now in CHRIST and the past is forgiven...isn't that like how GOD compairs the church (the BRIDE) to the GROOM (JESUS)..bringing them together, as in a marriage? I say, let the Holy Spirit do the guiding..not some old dusty misinterpreted understanding. Nothing wrong with someone getting remarried to the same spouses if healing, forgiveness, understanding, a little counselling, etc. has occured....after all, it is NOT the unpardonable sin. My brother remarried his wife and now, 10 yrs later, is going strong. Both are now role models and they share with others to mend broken marriages....lets slap the devil in his face and take back what he tried to rob from us, shall we?
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Just a thought since you said you are still making up your mind.My sister married a man that had been divorced from his first wife.He had married his first wife,twice.After the first divorce he was told by other Christians he should remarry her.He did not feel it was the right thing to do.There were reasons they divorced in the first place.He married her again because of pressure and they divorced again.He seemed to be clear of her and then one night she called him in distress.He said he felt something was telling him not to go to her but he did.That night he had a daughter out of wedlock.
Now he is married to my sister but his ex wife gives him no end of troubles and he has to deal with her because of his daughter.When things aren't going well with my sister he has told me in confidence how proud he is of his ex wife who became a nurse,my sister is a stay at home mom.They have been married 13yrs and in my opinion he is still looking over his shoulder.His ex is now remarried.So I said all that to say this...stay with your current wife.Find a way to work it out.You are borrowing trouble.You need to commit to this wife and be a Godly husband.You are going to cause a mess in your life and your wives lives if you cant commit to one wife.You made the choice the first time,you took a second wife.Of course you'll look back at your ex with favor when things arent going well with your current wife.Get your head in the game and be the best husband you can be to your current wife.Let sleeping dogs lie.You will come to regret it if you dont.
If you divorce for any reason but fornication the bible calls it adultry. Now how can you call what God said is a sin honorable by Him. If that is the case you can do whatever you want and God will agree. We take the word of or King and make it what we want and then say King you will accept this and tell others He accepts it. This is a sin and will always be because God said so.
Well there are somethings that you have one shot at and if you mess that up there is no second chance. What is hard to get that God said if you divorce for any other reason then fornication and remarry it is adultery. Divorce is not listed as a sin just that God hates it because it is the seperation of a family. Which is why Jesus came to remove the seperation of family from God. If we join another family besides God's he calls that adultery also. So the sin is not divorce but remarrying, so you have to repent for adultery. If you do that then you cannot sleep with that second wife again or each time you do you are continuing in adultery. Also read about the woman at the well and what Jesus told her about her five husbands to the last one which he said is not yours.
John 4
[SUP]16 [/SUP]Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband:
[SUP]18 [/SUP]For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.
John 4
[SUP]16 [/SUP]Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband:
[SUP]18 [/SUP]For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.
Exactly. Perhaps, to ease the conscience, it may be better to just shack up and say you are sorry each day. Actually, that is the easy way and what is usually done, minus the being sorry part. Marriage does not seem to be a big deal in this current day and age for one reason or another.
The bible says a lot about marriage and remarriage and I do believe that each case is a unique event and there is no pat answer. It is my belief that there are those that live in extreme fear of God that inhibits their life and weakens their personal relationship with the Lord. I do not fear God - I respect God. I believe in each and every word of the bible but I do not pretend that I understand all of it or even a small part of it. I try to do the best with what has been revealed to me.
I try to operate on the basic premise that God is love and to live accordingly in my own personal life and to treat the least of my brothers and sisters in a way that is acceptable to the Lord.
Divorce is a horrible thing and takes a long time to recover from, if ever. I don't believe that the Lord will throw salt in the wounds of someone who is lonely and has love in their hearts to share if they pray to know a certain measure of joy and happiness in their life. This seems cruel to me but maybe I am wrong.
Adultery is always a sin but I believe that it is biblically naïve to say that all instance of remarriage would constitute adultery without adultery being the cause of the divorce in the first place.
The bible says a lot about marriage and remarriage and I do believe that each case is a unique event and there is no pat answer. It is my belief that there are those that live in extreme fear of God that inhibits their life and weakens their personal relationship with the Lord. I do not fear God - I respect God. I believe in each and every word of the bible but I do not pretend that I understand all of it or even a small part of it. I try to do the best with what has been revealed to me.
I try to operate on the basic premise that God is love and to live accordingly in my own personal life and to treat the least of my brothers and sisters in a way that is acceptable to the Lord.
Divorce is a horrible thing and takes a long time to recover from, if ever. I don't believe that the Lord will throw salt in the wounds of someone who is lonely and has love in their hearts to share if they pray to know a certain measure of joy and happiness in their life. This seems cruel to me but maybe I am wrong.
Adultery is always a sin but I believe that it is biblically naïve to say that all instance of remarriage would constitute adultery without adultery being the cause of the divorce in the first place.
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whenever this dead horse comes back up I always think of king David and how he first tried to stage a pregnancy...then when that didn't work having the husband murdered to cover up the "indiscretion"....and then the fact that scripture would hold a guy up who obviously committed adultery murder and remarriage...as an example of how to pray, repent and to trust and otherwise follow the Lord.
One fact is remarriage without fornication happening God says it is adultery that is clear in the NT. It does not matter how we fell or what we think our King makes the rules for us to live by, how can we change them because of how we fell it should be. As I asked earlier in the post when does sin become righteousness to God, when does what God said is not OK become OK and when is what God says is unacceptable become acceptable?