Is it okay for men to cry?

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Is it okay for men to cry?

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Lynx said:
Mitspa: The reason I suggest starting over with a clear statement of your position is because in your last few posts you seemed to be admitting you cry if the situation is extreme (which is understandable, quite) but your last few posts seem in direct contravention of previous posts from you. I have to admit I'm currently confused as to what exactly you believe about this.
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well I think I might be in part to blame? Because I was trying to be a funny...but I was still trying to make a point. The men in my life who have been the places of strength and stability was not men who cried...and most of the Godly men I know now are not emotional but very steady in how they deal with the issue of this life...Yes we cry in the presence of Our God and we all understand the effect Gods love has on our heart...but in general as it relates to life issues and representing ourselves to our family and others we show a stability apart from a lot of emotionalism that seems to help others?
 
You know that friend that visits, but then never realizes that he has worn out his welcome and he should leave? Mitspa is that friend.
 
Nautilus said:
You know that friend that visits, but then never realizes that he has worn out his welcome and he should leave? Mitspa is that friend.
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I guess your right? I guess you cry a lot? Does it make you a more gentle and kind person? A better Christian? maybe that's what I am missing...if I cried more I would have a better heart like you? :)
 
Look...to those who think I will leave because people are rude or mean to me? Im not that kinda person...I don't run or cry when things get hard. :p
 
Interesting the Biblical view Jesus gave about the future of people on these verses:

Luk 6:25 "Woe to you who are full now, for you shall be hungry. "Woe to you who laugh now, for you shall mourn and weep.

Joh 16:20 Truly, truly, I say to you, you will weep and lament, but the world will rejoice. You will be sorrowful, but your sorrow will turn into joy.

Even kings will be known as they were:

Rev 18:9 And the kings of the earth, who committed sexual immorality and lived in luxury with her, will weep and wail over her when they see the smoke of her burning.
 
[h=1]Jeremiah 31:9King James Version (KJV)[/h]9 They shall come with weeping, and with supplications will I lead them: I will cause them to walk by the rivers of waters in a straight way, wherein they shall not stumble: for I am a father to Israel, and Ephraim is my firstborn.
 
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Its well known that babies fake crying to get attention...I think some of you just like the attention ... :p
 
Mitspa said:
well I think I might be in part to blame? Because I was trying to be a funny...but I was still trying to make a point. The men in my life who have been the places of strength and stability was not men who cried...and most of the Godly men I know now are not emotional but very steady in how they deal with the issue of this life...Yes we cry in the presence of Our God and we all understand the effect Gods love has on our heart...but in general as it relates to life issues and representing ourselves to our family and others we show a stability apart from a lot of emotionalism that seems to help others?
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Mitspa: Well that makes a lot more sense. That I can understand. But really, from most of your posts we really did get the impression you were deriding any man who cried at any time. And... well it didn't look at all like you were joking.

Maybe some smilies next time? Or a "Just kidding" at the end of the post? It's hard to hear your tone of voice in a text-based medium.
 
Mitspa said:
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Its well known that babies fake crying to get attention...I think some of you just like the attention ... :p
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[h=1]Genesis 21:17King James Version (KJV)[/h]17 And God heard the voice of the lad; and the angel of God called to Hagar out of heaven, and said unto her, What aileth thee, Hagar? fear not; for God hath heard the voice of the lad where he is.
 
[h=1]Psalm 56:8-9King James Version (KJV)[/h]8 Thou tellest my wanderings: put thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book?
9 When I cry unto thee, then shall mine enemies turn back: this I know; for God is for me.
 
Roh_Chris said:
I wonder if it is manly for men to cry.

Personally, I think it is okay for men to cry once in a while when things get difficult. Men also have emotions. They also deal with problems, frustrations, losses, disappointments and pain. Hence, I feel that it is okay for them to cry.

What do you guys think about this?

Question for the women:
Do you think it is unmanly for men to cry?
If someone you know very well cries, how would you react? (Comfort him, leave him alone, smack him across his face, etc.)


Question for the men:
Do you think it is unmanly for men to cry?
How would you react if your guy friend/brother cries? (Step away awkwardly, pretend you don't know him, comfort him, etc.)
On a personal note, have you ever cried recently? (Feel free to ignore this question if it is too sensitive for you)
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Q: Do you think it is unmanly for men to cry?
A: No. The greatest men I have known have cried: My father, my grandfather, and my father-in-law. They all were Christian men with soft hearts and bore the responsibilities of holding down a job, taking care of their families and loving others.

Q: How would you react if your guy friend/brother cries?
A: I will comfort anyone crying---man, woman, or child.

Q: Have you cried recently?
A: Yesterday, when I posted the moment of my salvation.
 
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JesusLives said:
PM me your address and it could be arranged.......but I will take a loaf of white or wheat I don't do sour dough only sour cream in the Banana bread.....lol
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tourist said:
This belongs in the What's Cooking thread and not in the crybaby thread.
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What do you mean it doesn't belong here? She doesn't do sourdough? That's worth crying over! :p

Of course she may be thinking about the "sourdough" that they sell at Wal-Mart. That stuff is an abomination in the sight of God and man. Or she might have tried a loaf of "sourdough" that was made from packaged yeast. I swear, the things some people do to save time - and it comes out all wrong, and frankly tastes bad.

Now if she has had real sourdough, and still thinks it is not good... yeah, that would be something to cry over. :p
 
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Lynx said:
What do you mean it doesn't belong here? She doesn't do sourdough? That's worth crying over! :p

Of course she may be thinking about the "sourdough" that they sell at Wal-Mart. That stuff is an abomination in the sight of God and man. Or she might have tried a loaf of "sourdough" that was made from packaged yeast. I swear, the things some people do to save time - and it comes out all wrong, and frankly tastes bad.

Now if she has had real sourdough, and still thinks it is not good... yeah, that would be something to cry over. :p
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So send me a loaf of each White and sour dough - I will let you know whether you should cry or not.....lol
 
Mitspa said:
LOL Yea if I didn't think I had a valid point I probably would... My father never cried..but he loved...and it sounds like some others know the kind of man I am speaking about? Men who you really don't ever know of them crying...But they are good men and know love...and I have seen some that cry at everything and are really monsters...so crying in itself is not evidence of the goodness in a mans heart.
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Do not even evil men give good gifts to their children? So how then is a loving father an excuse to be a jerk?


I was in the military for a very interesting 6 years. At no point was anyone ever shamed for crying. There is a brotherhood that exists in places, where men are at their finest, and in these places real men show you their true colors. That bond is forged through going through the hardest and toughest things imaginable designed to break people. It is not the people that do not cry, that are stronger, it is the people who can suck it up and move forward.

There is a proper emotional response to pain, grief, loss and suffering. To feel is to be whole, to be human to be alive.


Numbness is not strength. Playing at the role of smug jerk looks good in movies, but the real truth is, the guy who you want to have your back when it matters most is the guy who is plugged in. Having seen it first hand, its the people who pretend at strength are the people who freeze up and lose it at the worst possible moments.


If you want to know how to be alone for the rest of your life, never let anyone see who you are and what matters most to you.
 
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Mitspa, I used to have some respect for you. Now I have none. It's all down the toilet. Your posts and your attitude have put paid to that. So, well done on being a total donkey. I hope you've enjoyed alienating everyone.
 
Mitspa said:
Look im not saying there is no place fro a man to cry some tears ..but this idea that men should cry all the time is just not making any sense to me? And the men I know would think something odd about a fellow like this...like maybe he had some sugar in his tank...if you know what I mean?
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No one said they should cry all the time. If someone does that then there is a problem. Fhere is a neurological disorder that will cause some to go into frequent outbursts of laughter or crying. When I worked in nursing homes, I'd see this with one of the residents now and then.
 
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