I've decided that Eharmony teaches you that you don't know as much about yourself or what you want as you originally think you do, and that you're not what most others in your matched group are looking for by at least 2+ things. ^^0
Most people have VERY LITTLE CLUE as to who they actually are. We believe grandiose things, overly positive things, overly negative things about ourselves. We lie about and to ourselves and/or make up personas because we think people will like or love us more if we change who we are. It's not always malicious. In fact, it rarely is. We do these things as children and teenagers because we want friends or family to adore us, to love us, to never be upset with us.
Now, for all of you who are reading this saying, "I've never changed for anyone!" Think about that statement first. Is it actually true? Have you never considered changing for someone? If you haven't,
really and truly haven't, you are part of about 2% of the ENTIRE populace. And the 2% estimation is generous. Psychological researchers have found that people will change who they are at the drop of a hat to be emotionally fulfilled. The core of who we are as people doesn't change. That's biblical. However, our trappings, our likes and loves, our decisions change daily.
We change daily. And we are capable of absolutely anything.