Why do so many girls / women expect a man
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Laughing is fun, can be physiologically healthy, it can be social ("Hey, honey, check out this week's comic strip."), it can remind one of past settings of comfort and security (I remember camp counselors getting to have an ice-cream party and tell jokes and laugh some funny events together.) Laughing calls for acceptance. (For instance, "If a guy can make me laugh, then he will probably accept my laughter." ) The "make me" laugh can be code for, "I want him to be able to connect with me in intentional conversation and during random circumstances; I want him to be logical and laugh with me at the illogical." It can also mean, "I want him to have compassion and help me through rough times, stressful times, by helping me look at the bright side of a dark cloud." Laughing means so much.
It can be taken too far, as can being serious. It can be the goal rather than a means to relating or thinking more positively. It can be unabashedly at the expense of others. It can be for life noise, like when people leave the TV on as a filler. We can laugh and pretend everything is ok, even though real mouths are really hungry for bread-- and real souls are seeking the Lord (but do not know it Him they are seeking).
I just wrote some ideas that came to mind. They are not meant to be read as "the law on laughter."
They are just ideas in a forum.
In closing, some of the funniest people are godly men and women. But some of the funniest people are also the most depressed, avoiding pain, while not accurately attending a deeper problem. If you are one of these people, thanks for your humor; you are appreciated and God loves you.
--IDEA
It can be taken too far, as can being serious. It can be the goal rather than a means to relating or thinking more positively. It can be unabashedly at the expense of others. It can be for life noise, like when people leave the TV on as a filler. We can laugh and pretend everything is ok, even though real mouths are really hungry for bread-- and real souls are seeking the Lord (but do not know it Him they are seeking).
I just wrote some ideas that came to mind. They are not meant to be read as "the law on laughter."
They are just ideas in a forum.
In closing, some of the funniest people are godly men and women. But some of the funniest people are also the most depressed, avoiding pain, while not accurately attending a deeper problem. If you are one of these people, thanks for your humor; you are appreciated and God loves you.
--IDEA
Thank you, sir! Those ideas + sharing them is very welcome.
Allow me eleborate: When I started the thread I felt there were a big amount of ladies expecting a lot UNILATERALLY and it seemed it was men´s burden and their main responsability... Now my mind changed, partly dued to a better understanding of our ways to convey our ideas and expectations since we, men, also would appreiate that character or "feature" in any person, whatever the sex: No one would like or love a gumpy person and, most of those who are humbly smart, funny, etc., could be sought or liked, to some extent.
I, for example, like Adam Sandler´s movies. I don´t know how he´s personally, but there are things in his humor I would appreciate, same way those ladies he often had in his movies, because I have liked those girls characters and "features" and hollywood knows things well to sell whatever thing that could be sold out (with those exception each would acknowledge personally).
Jesus seemed to be funny, sometimes (Mat 7:4). I bet David did more funny things (1Sa_21:13)... ¿How come a boring person would lead thousands of people if they were grumpy? David got a lot of people because he had something good God had given him, same way Mary, Martha and Lazarus enjoyed Jesus´humor.
Allow me eleborate: When I started the thread I felt there were a big amount of ladies expecting a lot UNILATERALLY and it seemed it was men´s burden and their main responsability... Now my mind changed, partly dued to a better understanding of our ways to convey our ideas and expectations since we, men, also would appreiate that character or "feature" in any person, whatever the sex: No one would like or love a gumpy person and, most of those who are humbly smart, funny, etc., could be sought or liked, to some extent.
I, for example, like Adam Sandler´s movies. I don´t know how he´s personally, but there are things in his humor I would appreciate, same way those ladies he often had in his movies, because I have liked those girls characters and "features" and hollywood knows things well to sell whatever thing that could be sold out (with those exception each would acknowledge personally).
Jesus seemed to be funny, sometimes (Mat 7:4). I bet David did more funny things (1Sa_21:13)... ¿How come a boring person would lead thousands of people if they were grumpy? David got a lot of people because he had something good God had given him, same way Mary, Martha and Lazarus enjoyed Jesus´humor.
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By the way! Rereading this "If a guy can make me laugh, then he will probably accept my laughter."... I remembered that two months or more, I was met with a little girl sat next to her mom in the subway. The moment she saw at my face she offered me the most kind and sweet smile I have seen ever (such as those babies who stared at you and suddenly smiled at you).
Each time I remember what little girl conversed with me those minutes I find myself smiling.
Each time I remember what little girl conversed with me those minutes I find myself smiling.
That´s you who are smart!
I have seen a lot a persons who don´t look funny, though they are full of joy, easy to cope with but Yeraza bat hit the nail: There should be mutuality. If I gave, I except to receive something good in turn, but the job of "happiness" do not depend on a person solely or unilaterally and, if God is "out" no real joy could be possibly expected for sure.
Thanks!
I have seen a lot a persons who don´t look funny, though they are full of joy, easy to cope with but Yeraza bat hit the nail: There should be mutuality. If I gave, I except to receive something good in turn, but the job of "happiness" do not depend on a person solely or unilaterally and, if God is "out" no real joy could be possibly expected for sure.
Thanks!
Good! Perhaps you are that meek.
By June 2014 it downed on me that someone wanted me to be the one she thought I "should" be... Soon after I knew she wanted another person, not the one she actually have met and, as far as my memory goes back, I never enjoyed those persons who wanted me to be another way around and, if I was near someone, it was because I accepted them. It wasn´t that I had hopes to change them, because if I cannot not change myself, easily, how come will I change another person?
you are all right!
By June 2014 it downed on me that someone wanted me to be the one she thought I "should" be... Soon after I knew she wanted another person, not the one she actually have met and, as far as my memory goes back, I never enjoyed those persons who wanted me to be another way around and, if I was near someone, it was because I accepted them. It wasn´t that I had hopes to change them, because if I cannot not change myself, easily, how come will I change another person?
you are all right!