I have read these pages and pages of comments. It’s extremely difficult to even consider some of the responses, especially the sexist comments that stink of bitterness and arrogance toward women. There’s also a lot of good common sense advice and legal counsel posted throughout.
I did post a response a few weeks ago about emotional bondage. I don’t know if you really pondered it much but I believe you’re overlooking something important. You’ve said a whole lot in these pages and what I’m discerning is that you’re not too awfully aware of your worth in Jesus Christ. In fact, you don’t seem too focused on what the Lord wants for you.
I don’t mean what Jesus wants you to do regarding your marriage. I mean, you are spending plenty of time writing these messages to strangers online. How much time are you investing communicating with Jesus? Moreover, are you listening to what He is saying to you about your relationship with Him?
You previously said the Lord gave you two messages and I believe you. However, perhaps Jesus has been talking to you all along and you only paid attention to those two messages. Perhaps you’re too focused on the battle and not enough on the Victor. Maybe all these responses are keeping you from hearing clearly what the Lord is telling you. There’s certainly a lot of conflicting advice given here. I honestly don’t know how you could possibly find a genuine remedy for your situation in a storm of people’s opinions (including mine!).
Here’s the clincher: It doesn’t matter if you are married to the best spouse in the world or the worst spouse. Your spouse will NEVER keep you from being hurt in this world. Your spouse is not your savior. You came into this world without your spouse; you are going out of this world without your spouse. If your intimate relationship with Jesus Christ isn’t priority, you are doomed for heartbreak and loneliness. An imperfect human being can never take the place of Jesus Christ in your life. Nobody can do for you what the Lord Jesus can.
Honestly, I wish there was a teaching forum on this site. The Bible Discussion Forum is just harsh debating so that room is out. Nevertheless, there needs to be a forum where people can learn the reality of Jesus Christ. So many try to incorporate Jesus into their lives rather than surrender their entire lives to Him. So many need to learn that Jesus is LORD and abandoning ourselves to Him is the only way to know joy and to live in liberty.
Brother, I know nothing is impossible with God. You and your wife can be reconciled. If could take less than a year, it could take 20 years. Or you could let it all go like dust in the wind. Either way, Christ the Lord wants you to know He loves you more than anyone ever could. Whether or not your wife returns to you, you should learn what Almighty God thinks of you. I’m not talking about religion. I’m talking about a father and son relationship with the LORD.
I’m just reading low self-esteem all through your posts , lack of ambition, timidity, weariness, confusion, sadness, frustration. I believe someone in here put it like this: a truckload of unprocessed pain. My heart goes out to you and your wife both. But since you’re the one who came in here requesting support, I am directing this to you: The LORD is the only Authority on what you are worth. And you are worth everything to Him. When you truly know that, when Christ the LORD is your foundation, no storm of life will ever uproot you.
Jeremiah 17: 7 & 8 Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD And whose trust is the LORD. For he will be like a tree planted by the water, That extends its roots by a stream. And will not fear when the heat comes; But its leaves will be green, And it will not be anxious in a year of drought; Nor cease to yield fruit.
Faithful Lord, I ask that this dear brother hear Your Voice that You can guide him to genuine godly counseling and legal advice. I pray gracious blessings to him and that his mind and heart be renewed and that You be glorified in his life. May he know You as Father. In the name of Jesus Christ our Lord!
) and realize that your marriage is over and it's fruitless for you to hang on to something that is completely gone now. Don't live in the past. Divorce her and move on because God has something much better in store for you. 
