Sexual Attraction

[RachelP03]

Have you ever met someone or didn't know anyone and was just drawn to them. Standing there without saying a word you knew there was chemistry and you knew the other person felt it too, but no one said anything? This has happened a couple of times to me with 2 different people and to be honest, I wasn't even physically attracted to them, but I was just drawn to them. One of the men I'm talking about, we ended up being in an unhealthy relationship and even after we both moved on, we were like kryptonite when we saw each other. Now I have felt it again and I'm starting to study about it, I guess before I never thought about it actually being a thing.

 

[CatHerder]

When that is part of a healthy relationship, it's a great thing.

When it IS the relationship, it is short lived.

 

[GandalfTheWhite]

While doing my articles I met one of our clients. She was a mail order bride but out of her relationship for a long-time. She had the most beautiful blue eyes and long dark hair, a real beaut of a girl (a body you only see in magazines). She walked into our reception (I was alone at our office for some reason) and when she saw me I knew we had a moment. Her son was with her and she started to sweat and couldn’t take her eyes of me. Her son told her that it is not that warm so why is she so hot and she just couldn’t talk straight. I never moved on my feelings that day because I knew that it would be unhealthy (one of my prouder moments in life).

When we had our moment I knew that it would only be a sexual thing as her personality was domineering and not something I was after. Sometimes I think God tested me that day for some reason .

I had the same kind of attractions after that but never again that intense.

 

[GandalfTheWhite]

Rachel I don't want to make this thread awkward so I will give you my opinion without trying to hammer on the topic. If you have this attraction, get to know the person because the initial feelings can be overwhelming. Try to look past this sexual tension and look for the real person behind the tension. Trust God to keep this person in your life if he is your real soul mate.

When I met my wife we had our doubts (circumstances were not perfect) but we gave God our questions and He showed us the solutions. I know it is frustrating and difficult but don't lose faith and keep your focus on God. I am sure He will not allow you to falter and make the same mistake again

 

[Ugly]

These attractions can be caused by various circumstances, most likely more than one. Body language, for one. Or there's something about them that triggers a memory of someone close from your past. I know there are others, but i'm blanking on them at the moment.

 

[hoss2576]

... She was a mail order bride but out of her relationship for a long-time. She had the most beautiful blue eyes and long dark hair, a real beaut of a girl (a body you only see in magazines). She walked into our reception (I was alone at our office for some reason) and when she saw me I knew we had a moment. Her son was with her and she started to sweat and couldn’t take her eyes of me. Her son told her that it is not that warm so why is she so hot and she just couldn’t talk straight.

Rachel I don't want to make this thread awkward so I will give you my opinion without trying to hammer on the topic. If you have this attraction, get to know the person because the initial feelings can be overwhelming. Try to look past this sexual tension and look for the real person behind the tension. Trust God to keep this person in your life if he is your real soul mate.

Yeah, too late.

 

[GandalfTheWhite]

Yeah, too late.

Yeah, yeah, yeah I was actually thinking about it while driving to my client. Fortunately at that stage of my life I was single so it was not awkward but thinking back on it (being married) it is a bit embarrassing

 

[Lynx]

First thought: I'm up in the middle of the night waiting for the ibuprophen I took to settle so I can get back to sleep despite this toothache... and this is a (bleep) of a thread to stumble into. ^.^

Second thought: Maybe it's because I'm a nerd, but I never did pay much attention to physical attraction. I have experienced it, acknowledged the fact, analyzed why I felt it, and it always had to do with body language and physical appearance which I don't find important anyway so I moved on.

Third thought: I know of many women who study how to attract a guy through body language. I've always believed that they deserve the kind of guys they get. >.>

 

[seoulsearch]

Let's see... Tall, dark, richly frosted with complex, colorful layers and intricate design.

Yup, I was INSTANTLY and hopelessly attracted.

To a very ornate chocolate layer cake I saw in the store...

(But, I resisted the temptation!) Doesn't that warrant a medal or something?

 

[Lynx]

Depends where you saw the cake. If it was at Wal-Mart, anyone with sense can resist that just-out-of-the-freezer junk. If it was at a real bakery... that takes a bit more willpower.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Have you ever met someone or didn't know anyone and was just drawn to them. Standing there without saying a word you knew there was chemistry and you knew the other person felt it too, but no one said anything? This has happened a couple of times to me with 2 different people and to be honest, I wasn't even physically attracted to them, but I was just drawn to them. One of the men I'm talking about, we ended up being in an unhealthy relationship and even after we both moved on, we were like kryptonite when we saw each other. Now I have felt it again and I'm starting to study about it, I guess before I never thought about it actually being a thing.

They must've been wearing some of that pheremone stuff..

 

[didymos]

They must've been wearing some of that pheremone stuff..

... or just forgot to shower in the morning

 

[Lynx]

Nice one didymos. I'm reminded of an old song:

Oooh that smell!
Can't you smell that smell!
Oooh that smell!
The smell that surrounds yoooooooou!

 

[melita916]

Have you ever met someone or didn't know anyone and was just drawn to them. Standing there without saying a word you knew there was chemistry and you knew the other person felt it too, but no one said anything?

i can honestly say this has never happened to me. not that i remember lol sure, i've been attracted to a guy at first-sight. but i'm an awkward person to begin with, so i'm concentrating more on not embarrassing myself lol :\

 

[blue_ladybug]

there is such a thing as lust at first sight.. but I do NOT believe in LOVE at first sight.. all you're seeing is their physical appearance and demeanor for the first time ever, so how can you know you love them right off?

 

[tourist]

There may be such a thing as love at first byte.

 

[Lynx]

Yes, you and your wife met online. Was that a bit or a byte? Eight bits in a byte y'know.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

There's a considerable amount of study on this topic.

http://cusebs.org/?p=1563

Though "top 10" lists often seem a little dubious to me, that gives you a synopsis and links to additional reading on each item. If you're really interested, feel free to peruse that.

 

[CatHerder]

There may be such a thing as love at first byte.

Yes, you and your wife met online. Was that a bit or a byte? Eight bits in a byte y'know.

{sarcasm font}He met his wife here? Didn't know that. Do tell.{sarcasm font}

 

[Willie-T]

Because they are my special memories, I'll just say, "Yes, I have."