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finally, to the OP...i really, really hope you avoid romantic relationships for a long time. seriously. after going out on some dates with divorced guys, i'd highly encourage you to take the time to do a real relationship autopsy of your failed marriage, and learn what it is you need to learn from it. you owe that to yourself and your future relationship and relationship partner. also, if you're harboring ANY ill will towards your ex, it will come out in all kinds of ways, and it will scream to every astute woman that you are not ready for a new relationship (something so very unattractive, yet common that i could write a book on this). look at this as an opportunity to be MORE CAPABLE for the next relationship by learning what it is that you need to know, whom it is you're looking for, and leaving your baggage behind.
no one deserves to pay the price for what your ex did, the resentment you've developed, be your "soft place to fall" or play therapist to your wounded ego/soul. you need to work out that stuff alone, with God. and a trained therapist, ideally.
no one deserves to pay the price for what your ex did, the resentment you've developed, be your "soft place to fall" or play therapist to your wounded ego/soul. you need to work out that stuff alone, with God. and a trained therapist, ideally.
(Apparently, I do not spread reputation around enough. -_- )
Seriously though, brother...Gypsy hits the nail on the head with this. A broken heart that stems from a broken union is not something quickly mended; our God is a God who takes us THROUGH the pain, not away from or around it. There must be real time for healing, and it cannot be the responsibility of your next companion (should God see fit to bless you with one) to heal those wounds.
God didn't even present me (or my...uh...sort-of-significant-other) with ANY kind of remotely attractive options until He was done with the healing process in me. I had said for two years that I felt ready, but HE knew better, and made things available in HIS time. Have patience, brother.