often we have situations where we are soliciting advice from others, and i think it's great that we can give encouragement and suggest solutions for others here on this (and other forums). but one of my favorite sources of advice has always been older people.
anyone who knows me even a little bit knows that i adored my grandparents. their words and wisdom have been seared in my brain. so often i find myself longing for another opportunity to ask "one more question". and if you were to visit my church during any of our "socials" you'd almost always find me sitting among a bunch of older folks--i love their wisdom, and the fact that they draw on so many years of experience and stages of life.
this week i was reading an article about relationships, and i found this cool little site, a compilation of elderly wisdom. this has provided a fantastic source of reading for me. much of this project was motivated (as i understand) from a desire to seek marriage/love advice from those who have been married for many years. i thought this was brilliant.
note: this isn't a christian site, so i'm sure not all the advice will fit into that kind of criteria, but a great deal of it is.
anyway. since this is the singles forum, i wanted to specifically post one list, by an older single woman, liza.
here is an excerpt from her list, which i think holds a lot of value for those of us who are single:
1. You will NOT experience regret over a decision to remain single and childless. Creating your own life can be as exciting as the predictable stresses (and even the joys) of the procreation and education of progeny.
2. Friendships should fit your emotional and intellectual needs. You should have many different kinds of friends – never depend upon just one or two. Understand that you, and thus your friends, should be expected to change over time. Life is far richer if you vary the nature of your relationships – it is stifling to hitch yourself to/depend upon/share experiences with only one other person.
3. Always take advantage of an opportunity to have new experiences – travel, activities or in the realm of ideas. You learn as much from unpleasant experiences as you do from pleasurable ones.
4. Strive throughout your life to achieve a clear sense of who you are, what you want, what you want to be recalling as you die, and how you wish to be remembered.
anyone who knows me even a little bit knows that i adored my grandparents. their words and wisdom have been seared in my brain. so often i find myself longing for another opportunity to ask "one more question". and if you were to visit my church during any of our "socials" you'd almost always find me sitting among a bunch of older folks--i love their wisdom, and the fact that they draw on so many years of experience and stages of life.
this week i was reading an article about relationships, and i found this cool little site, a compilation of elderly wisdom. this has provided a fantastic source of reading for me. much of this project was motivated (as i understand) from a desire to seek marriage/love advice from those who have been married for many years. i thought this was brilliant.
note: this isn't a christian site, so i'm sure not all the advice will fit into that kind of criteria, but a great deal of it is.
anyway. since this is the singles forum, i wanted to specifically post one list, by an older single woman, liza.
here is an excerpt from her list, which i think holds a lot of value for those of us who are single:
1. You will NOT experience regret over a decision to remain single and childless. Creating your own life can be as exciting as the predictable stresses (and even the joys) of the procreation and education of progeny.
2. Friendships should fit your emotional and intellectual needs. You should have many different kinds of friends – never depend upon just one or two. Understand that you, and thus your friends, should be expected to change over time. Life is far richer if you vary the nature of your relationships – it is stifling to hitch yourself to/depend upon/share experiences with only one other person.
3. Always take advantage of an opportunity to have new experiences – travel, activities or in the realm of ideas. You learn as much from unpleasant experiences as you do from pleasurable ones.
4. Strive throughout your life to achieve a clear sense of who you are, what you want, what you want to be recalling as you die, and how you wish to be remembered.
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