How to increase your attractiveness to women

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SoulWeaver

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Being 100% honest and straightforward and simply expressing yourself, in honesty without pretense is very attractive (main trait of my beloved :eek:).
As long as you're not rude of course...
 

p_rehbein

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You are rite and wrong... I don't think it is about jumping through hoops, but yes, i think it is about finding what is good about you, opening more positive facets of your personality and being happy with who you are.

It is never a good idea to 'jump through hoops' and all that to convince a woman to like you, because if you succeed, all you have done, is convince a woman to like someone who isn't you!
I'm perfectly happy with who I am, that is kinda the point.......It's them who aren't happy with who I am.......I don't need to be dissected to discover which particular quality someone might like more than others, and then have them magnified. Where is the reality in that? And, with more than a few women, it really is "jumping through hoops." That is the sad reality. Maybe not with Christian women, but in the harsh reality of this world, it is certainly true.

Now, I understand that a bunch of the comments here have been tongue in cheek, but there is more than a modicum of truth in them as well, especially as it pertains to the world/society.

One final point........I'm talking about me........so I'm not sure how you can say I'm right and "wrong." I kinda know who I am......so, I'll go with me on this........ :)
 

maxwel

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#63
pretty sure that's called "stalking."

(wee elephant shrubs and walks away)
Hiding in a woman's shrub can HARDLY be called stalking.


It's really more like...

errrr....

allowing her to experience you as part of her environment.
 

seoulsearch

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#64
Hiding in a woman's shrub can HARDLY be called stalking.


It's really more like...

errrr....

allowing her to experience you as part of her environment.
My bad. I totally mistook Maxwel for the lawn-care guy... I figured he was just spraying for bugs!

Revealing your true intentions to someone can surely increase your attractiveness.

Of course, it can also greatly increase the chances that the object of your affections will swiftly dial 911...
 
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ServantStrike

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#65
Hiding in a woman's shrub can HARDLY be called stalking.


It's really more like...

errrr....

allowing her to experience you as part of her environment.
Plus, if you remember to bring a pair of shears, you can just say you were doing some light gardening.

Women like a man who can garden, or so I hear.
 

kodiak

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What women find attractive is COMMITMENT.

If they see you hiding in their shrubs EVERY SINGLE DAY,
even when it's bad weather...
that's almost certain to get their attention.
so are we going to hear this later on that it was love at first site...."she looked right into my binoculars errr I mean eyes"
or are you going to be on the front page of a newspaper? :p
 

JonahLynx

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Looks help, but their not everything, attitude is the big ticket item that will get you over the line

But the good news is if you have the looks nothing else really matters as much, lol.
 
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jeremyPJ

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#68
I've always wondered, why do some gals (hopefully just the non-Christians) make their men "jump through hoops"?

They don't respect you for it...Is it just entertainment of female empowerment? Maybe one of the gals will answer this...it looks like something they would do on a TV sitcom.

I've always found it interesting, yet discouraging in a way, when I get around married couples, or older people who complement me on what a nice guy I am, why don't I have a lady? This has been this way most of my life. Ladies, what am I doing wrong?

It always seems that "available" gals aren't interested. Seems they like guys who treat them badly, this has always baffled me.
 
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mystikmind

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#69
I've always wondered, why do some gals (hopefully just the non-Christians) make their men "jump through hoops"?

They don't respect you for it...Is it just entertainment of female empowerment? Maybe one of the gals will answer this...it looks like something they would do on a TV sitcom.

I've always found it interesting, yet discouraging in a way, when I get around married couples, or older people who complement me on what a nice guy I am, why don't I have a lady? This has been this way most of my life. Ladies, what am I doing wrong?

It always seems that "available" gals aren't interested. Seems they like guys who treat them badly, this has always baffled me.
Perhaps you are being to reliant on life circumstance to bring you the right lady? Don't trust circumstance, you have to get out there, i would highly recommend internet dating!

I suppose the best thing about internet dating - if your a gentleman, already your vastly ahead in the game agaist all the other guys that think with their 'other' brain, those guys make it so easy for us, honestly!!
 
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mystikmind

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#71

But the good news is if you have the looks nothing else really matters as much, lol.
Actually, what i meant by 'getting over the line' is finding an opportunity to start a long term relationship. But sure, if you don't mind all your relationships to be transient, then i guess looks are pretty much all that matters?
 
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Nemakiza

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Let me add others, because almost I fall for these kind of men.

1.Involve yourself to God and mean it . Like be Christian community

2. Be smart, If you wear white shirt, make it looks white and try to have good smell.

3.Go beach and behave yourself

4. Avoid alcohol and smoking
 
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mystikmind

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#73
Let me add others, because almost I fall for these kind of men.

1.Involve yourself to God and mean it . Like be Christian community

2. Be smart, If you wear white shirt, make it looks white and try to have good smell.

3.Go beach and behave yourself

4. Avoid alcohol and smoking
Re point number 1 - Getting a woman is probably not the best motivation to get closer to God.... but better than no motivation, and for sure, people who start off with the wrong motivations often find the right motivations further along that road! Glory to God.

The rest is easy!

And there is one other thing that is easy, so easy, anyone can do it! and yet so many fail at..... being honest!!
 

Descyple

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I can only increase my attractiveness to half-blind women (I'm a great story teller with the gift of exaggeration!!!).
 
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Let me add others, because almost I fall for these kind of men.

1. Involve yourself with God and mean it . Like be Christian community

2. Be smart! If you wear white shirt, make it looks (really) white and try to have good smell.

3. Go the beach and behave yourself

4. Avoid alcohol and smoking

Do ALL these apply for women too? :p

Someone in here liked CATS?


Watch this video and tell us WHY?

:eek:
 
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ServantStrike

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I can only increase my attractiveness to half-blind women (I'm a great story teller with the gift of exaggeration!!!).
No no no brother, that won't do.

You don't call it exaggeration - it's creative redefinition and selective emphasis.
 
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MollyConnor

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#78
Being a man of God and a gentleman! You know, someone who opens the door and treats all women like ladies.
 
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AnnaBou

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1) Join a rock band. No, not the chior! A rock band. If you have to ask why not the chior, you probably wont get much out of this thread. This is NOT for the groupies. Its to make you have groupies so other women will find you attractive. Its complicated to explain, but trust me it, its effective.

No, I would rather a man sang in a chior. Scruffy rock band types are not for me.

2) Go extreme with the hair. Either shave it all off or grow it long and wavy. You might want to try one of those goatee beards (they always remind me of the old satanic characters in the old horror movies for some reason).

Long hair can be OK if well kept or shaved if going bald lol but smart short hair is better.

3) Ride a motorcycle. This is an easy 3 points up the attractiveness scale. Why? Because women dig guys who ride motorcycles (the exceptions I think are those women who had bad relationships with guys on motorcycles). I think its some kind of primordial thing going back to when manly-men rode horses.

I would prefer a man who rides a horse.

4) Learn how to make a woman laugh. Yes, this is actually THE NUMBER ONE way to a woman's heart if you ask me. Unfortunately its also the one that is hardest to figure out. You have to find the fine line between being witty-and-funny, and wierd-and-embarrassing. Dont ask me, I have no clue where to start!

LOL

5) Learn how to dress well. Yes women can instantly tell when a man knows how to dress himself. Its not about buying expensive clothes. Its more about style and coordination. A guy can look just as good in the right pair of jeans and a t-shirt as he would in a dress shirt and slacks.

Yes dress well. Smart too.

6) Healthy appearance. You know that youthful glow you get after a good workout? Not from sweat, from your skin being flush with plenty of rich, oxygenated red blood cells. That gives the appearance of health and virility and is something women will take note of. The best way to maintain this is through regular, vigorous exercise. Eating right helps a lot too. And getting enough sleep!

Yes. Always exercise, eat well and be healthy.

7) Know how to talk to a woman. Be easygoing. Dont sound like you are nervous or worried. Sound like you are nonchalant and relaxed. A woman can tell if you are nervous or anxious and its never a good thing. Ever notice how the first thing women say is that they want a man with 'confidence'? Exactly.

Yes. Definitely a man with confidence.

Trouble with this I suppose is that a man with no style who is nervous and tends to be scruffy could read the list and be unable to change. They could always join a rock band and get a motorbike to get a scruffy girl with no style lol
 

mailmandan

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I was told by this infomercial that the T-25 workout will increase my attractiveness to women. :p

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