The problem with attracting "ALL" women?

[Deliver]

I think you went off topic.. but whatever

I think stupid women like men with confidence. Anyone can have confidence... heck you can act it out. I just don't think its a vague cliche... a lazy way to explain what women like and more importantly... what women ought to like.

There are women who like the bad boys... see why I think stupid women like men with confidence? You should now.

Confidence in Christ would be more appropriate.

I like your list though... I guess a man who can do those would be attractive. No doubt in the humor point lol

I like to think that God has already implicitly gave us some points to go for... and it automatically makes us attractive to each other... for example..

Men are meant to be leaders in the home. What's that mean for men who are not yet married? Get to it and get yourself in leadership positions.. practice.. someday your gonna need to make decisions for your family. A man that can make decisions, I think naturally is attractive to women and we didn't have to think about attracting women... just think about what God has told us already.

God says love your wife... understand her as the weaker vessel... women emotional... get emotionally intelligent.

I think we'll be fine in attracting christian women as long as you follow God. Anyways...

What do you think of my op.... and topic? lol xD

whoa, hold your horses... It's not stupid to like a man with confidence. Let me explain...
I've had a boyfriend who was on the less confident side and he got ridiculously jealous over me. A little jealousy may be cute and all but when it gets excessive, and every decision you make is questioned for a motive... Well not cool.
A less confident man will - not all the time but likely - be seen as weak, needy, needing reassurance. It can be attractive to some women but for the main part, we want strength shown.

That doesn't mean arrogance. It doesn't mean show no emotion and be like a cold fish. It just means use that masculine energy you have to the best of your ability.
THAT is attractive. And men don't realise just how attractive masculine energy is. It allows women to be feminine, when you open her door, and compliment her so she blushes and focus on making her happy.
In return, you'll have a feminine woman who makes you feel like a man, and gives you love and respect and makes YOU happy.

 

[Lynx]

Here's my thought.

Follow God. Be a man of Christ. Forget trying to be attractive to women in general.

When a woman who's following God, being a woman of Christ, comes along? She'll likely find you attractive.

Maybe, but... well, it hasn't worked for me yet. Still single.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Maybe, but... well, it hasn't worked for me yet. Still single.

But you seem to be not looking for a spouse, which changes the results too.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

Seasoned kale chips from Trade Joes are surprisingly good.

 

[seoulsearch]

Seasoned kale chips from Trade Joes are surprisingly good.

So those kale chips might be scrumptious... but the REAL question is, does eating those yummy kale chips make you more attractive to women?! And not just "women", but ALL women??!!

 

[mailmandan]

Maybe, but... well, it hasn't worked for me yet. Still single.

Have you tried any of those Christian dating websites? Match.com; Christian Mingle; eHarmony etc.. Play the numbers game long enough and you are bound to find that special someone.

 

[seoulsearch]

Have you tried any of those Christian dating websites? Match.com; Christian Mingle; eHarmony etc.. Play the numbers game long enough and you are bound to find that special someone.

Hate to tell you but it doesn't quite work, or else I'm just hopelessly unmatchable (quite possible.)

Let's see... 12 years, 3 dating sites (eharmony, Cafe, Mingle) on and off for about 6 years total, 1 "live" dating service... equals... a big hole in my wallet and still only me and the crickets when I get home!

I HAVE gone on dates... just haven't found the "right" person.

Yet.

Hopefully.

 

[JesusLives]

Seasoned kale chips from Trade Joes are surprisingly good.

I just love this random thought out of no where....I will join in with you....

Here have a cookie.....

 

[secularhermit]

If godly men are so attractive and @surely@ draw more than one Christian lady, why do I OFTEN see them alone, retired and ignored like a Franciscan priest?

Yesterday I had the chance to correct the syntax of a letter one divorced man was sending one of his friends *in English*, because that woman took more than 2 days to answer him 2 previous texts se sent before. This mornig, by 10 am, she replied... (I don' t know her and I ignore how Christian she is) but, my unansered question will be the same> Those are prone to other sort of men, not simply godly Christians so, this part of my limited world, someone lies.

 

[Calmador]

Actually, I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to please other people or be pleasing to other people. It just shouldn't be our MAIN concern or supplant our service to God. However, even the bible tells us that as far as possible we should be at peace with all people. (A separate idea from attraction, I know, but just an example of how pleasing people isn't necessarily contradictory to serving God).



I honestly don't get the logic here. The idea of leveraging one's abilities, gifts, genetics, etc., for the purpose of presenting your best possible self doesn't seem so awful to me. People do it to get jobs, why not to build a relationship? Throughout time, men and women have always done things to make themselves more attractive for the purpose of marriage.

I do get that our culture places a lot of emphasis on things that quickly fade, instead of increasing aspects of our character that will beautify us for all time. So, ya know, don't do that. Don't be a slave to acculturation. But getting a nice haircut, having manners, smelling good, etc., are not in violation of scriptures.

I also don't think they are a waste of time either. A Christian man, for example, who wants to marry should marshal his resources to prepare for the task of supporting a wife and children. No one would consider a man "carnal" or "mankind pleasing" if he bought a decent home to provide for his wife...even if he had no wife at the time. No one would consider a woman "mankind pleasing" if she diminished her debt load in anticipation of eventually marrying....or if she took folic acid with an eye to eventually marrying and having children.

These are real human concerns. Most people should marry. Doing things to make this happen is completely within the norm.

What I DO think is dangerous is the idea that we must be PERFECT in order to find a mate. Not only is it NUTS, it's also self-defeating.

A few posts ago... I was thinking about the same line of thought... that there's a right way to think about all this. Christian men/brothers could be considerate enough to their sisters to try to be attractive for them... not for themselves but for them. Does it glorify God? I guess so... in "love thy neighbor as you would yourself."

I think I was looking at it in a different context... in a sinful context, people oriented only context.

Galatians 1:10

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

You went into a slightly different topic... "Is it sin to prepare for marriage?" Not sure how to respond to that... The reason I'm not sure is because I think everything can be sinful without God. I'd appeal to "filthy rags". Moral goodness can only come from God... Isaiah 64:6 All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.

God's goodness is so far from us... that even our "good" deeds are actually filthy rags. That seems to be the thought.

So, in God, when we prepare for marriage.. it's fine.. in God.

Yeah, the idea that we must be perfect is not right according to God's love and mercy. We don't need to be perfect for God to love us. However, according to God's justice system... God will send you to hell for not being perfect which is why Jesus Christ is perfect for us and died on the cross for us. So, yes, I agree in the context of God's love and mercy.

 

[Calmador]

whoa, hold your horses... It's not stupid to like a man with confidence. Let me explain...
I've had a boyfriend who was on the less confident side and he got ridiculously jealous over me. A little jealousy may be cute and all but when it gets excessive, and every decision you make is questioned for a motive... Well not cool.
A less confident man will - not all the time but likely - be seen as weak, needy, needing reassurance. It can be attractive to some women but for the main part, we want strength shown.

That doesn't mean arrogance. It doesn't mean show no emotion and be like a cold fish. It just means use that masculine energy you have to the best of your ability.
THAT is attractive. And men don't realise just how attractive masculine energy is. It allows women to be feminine, when you open her door, and compliment her so she blushes and focus on making her happy.
In return, you'll have a feminine woman who makes you feel like a man, and gives you love and respect and makes YOU happy.

I should just give people the benefit of the doubt... yeah, don't worry about it. I just have this thing.. about being clear.

Don't worry about it. I agree with you.

 

[violakat]

As if all women were attracted to Hugh Hefner. Pfft

I think there has been a misunderstanding of the thread's intention. It was a question of what women find attractive in general. The intention was not to attract "all women" à la Hugh Hefner, but to know what most women like and dislike and thereby, to appeal to the woman of one's dreams.

 

[kodiak]

As if all women were attracted to Hugh Hefner. Pfft

Isn't he the guy who flew or made the airplane with the biggest wingspan? Spruce Goose? What does that have to do with attraction?

 

[tourist]

Isn't he the guy who flew or made the airplane with the biggest wingspan? Spruce Goose? What does that have to do with attraction?

I believe that you are thinking of Howard Hughes. Hugh Hefner is the ladies man.

 

[mailmandan]

Hate to tell you but it doesn't quite work, or else I'm just hopelessly unmatchable (quite possible.)

Let's see... 12 years, 3 dating sites (eharmony, Cafe, Mingle) on and off for about 6 years total, 1 "live" dating service... equals... a big hole in my wallet and still only me and the crickets when I get home!

I HAVE gone on dates... just haven't found the "right" person.

Yet.

Hopefully.

Some people make it sound easy but you make it sound like a quest!

I hope that you do find the "right" person one day.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

Isn't he the guy who flew or made the airplane with the biggest wingspan? Spruce Goose? What does that have to do with attraction?

Lol!

Are you saying that plywood and resin are unattractive?!