Anger ... how it changes a person

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Ayan0512

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For the past three days, I let myself be drowned by my anger. I became a monster, a different person than who I was and who I came to be. I wonder why it is so hard for acceptance to come by? I do not want to be this horrible person, but sometimes, in desperation and helplessness, I cannot help it. Lord, please teach me to be gentle and to be accepting. Teach me to be strong and wise, and please give me the strength to set anger aside and let love rule my heart once again.
 
Joidevivre

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Have you forgiven the one you need to forgive? Even if it is God, Himself? Or yourself?

We all have those days like you have. And somehow the Lord never removes His hand while we have our tantrum. After awhile, we feel that hand and begin to calm down.

Thank you for sharing yourself.
 
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Ayan0512

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Joidevivre said:
Have you forgiven the one you need to forgive? Even if it is God, Himself? Or yourself?

We all have those days like you have. And somehow the Lord never removes His hand while we have our tantrum. After awhile, we feel that hand and begin to calm down.

Thank you for sharing yourself.
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Hi Joidevivre,

I'm sure I have not. With God's help, I know I'm getting there.
 
mochi

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Keep praying and take a deep breath, start count 1-2-3-..10 before you angry.. lol.. eventhough that everything seems unfair to you and even its very reasonable for you to get angry but try to be patience and give forgiveness.. God will handle all of the bad situation/bad person for you :) just bring light and be a blessed to other.. not instant and need process.. step by step :) once again take a deep breath! :p
 
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iveseenworse

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reset....God forgives....now stop doing that. ha ha
 
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Ayan0512

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Praise Your Name, Lord Jesus. You are my God, my King, my Salvation and my strength. I know, it takes a lot of courage to admit that I have lost, moreso to forgive a person who has hurt me. Please touch my heart. Let Your light shine through me, so that I may be able to forgive and be gracious. Let not anger consume me, please give me the strength to accept what I already lost and believe that You have far greater plans for my life. I surrender my anger to You. By Your grace, I will be able to conquer my pains. Amen.
 
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Sirk

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What was it that touched you off?
 
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Jeff_56

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Ayan0512 said:
For the past three days, I let myself be drowned by my anger. I became a monster, a different person than who I was and who I came to be. I wonder why it is so hard for acceptance to come by? I do not want to be this horrible person, but sometimes, in desperation and helplessness, I cannot help it. Lord, please teach me to be gentle and to be accepting. Teach me to be strong and wise, and please give me the strength to set anger aside and let love rule my heart once again.
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compare ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
with


  1. Colossians 3:15 - Let the peace of Christ rule in your - Bible Gateway

    https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Colossians...‎

    Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you
    were called to peace. And be thankful.
  2. Colossians 3:15-17 KJV - And let the peace of God rule in your ...

    https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Colossians...17...‎

    And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in
    one body; and be ye thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you.
  3. Colossians 3:15 - Bible Gateway

    https://www.biblegateway.com/verse/en/Colossians 3:15‎

    [SUP]15[/SUP] And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire
    continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that ...
 
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Ayan0512

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Sirk said:
What was it that touched you off?
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If you meant what led me astray. Sin, and the knowledge of that sin. Despite the convictions of the Holy Spirit, I went ahead and justified my sinful act. It was a demon disguised as "Love". I knew deep in my heart that I cannot continue my fellowship with Christianity if I continued to wallow in sin, so as time passed, I distanced myself from the folds of God, because I knew I was not worthy. Until it came to a point where I believed the lie to be the truth.
 
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Ayan0512

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Jeff_56 said:
compare ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
with


  1. Colossians 3:15 - Let the peace of Christ rule in your - Bible Gateway

    https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Colossians...‎

    Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you
    were called to peace. And be thankful.
  2. Colossians 3:15-17 KJV - And let the peace of God rule in your ...

    https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Colossians...17...‎

    And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in
    one body; and be ye thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you.
  3. Colossians 3:15 - Bible Gateway

    https://www.biblegateway.com/verse/en/Colossians 3:15‎

    [SUP]15[/SUP] And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire
    continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that ...
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Yes, thank you. I hear you, although, God is Love. Perhaps the two are not interchangeable.
 
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Sirk

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Ayan0512 said:
If you meant what led me astray. Sin, and the knowledge of that sin. Despite the convictions of the Holy Spirit, I went ahead and justified my sinful act. It was a demon disguised as "Love". I knew deep in my heart that I cannot continue my fellowship with Christianity if I continued to wallow in sin, so as time passed, I distanced myself from the folds of God, because I knew I was not worthy. Until it came to a point where I believed the lie to be the truth.
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what was it that made you angry?
 
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Rosesrock

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Ayan0512 said:
If you meant what led me astray. Sin, and the knowledge of that sin. Despite the convictions of the Holy Spirit, I went ahead and justified my sinful act. It was a demon disguised as "Love". I knew deep in my heart that I cannot continue my fellowship with Christianity if I continued to wallow in sin, so as time passed, I distanced myself from the folds of God, because I knew I was not worthy. Until it came to a point where I believed the lie to be the truth.
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Been there, thanks for sharing. Satan is such a liar.
 
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Ayan0512

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I went through 3 deaths in less than a year. I lost an Uncle, a brother and a grandmother all in less than a year. And to top off that, my partner of nine years left me for another woman. I was not even through recovering from the loss of my loved ones, and then another one left me. Him, whom I counted on to help me get through my pain.
 
Lifetrack

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It must be terrible to go true that pain, Job could maybe comfort you. Also i must think now that we better do not give our trust in only human if that human is not in Gods hands at the moment.
 
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Ayan0512

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Lifetrack said:
It must be terrible to go true that pain, Job could maybe comfort you. Also i must think now that we better do not give our trust in only human if that human is not in Gods hands at the moment.
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Thank you, it was not. So, when the break-up happened, I think I vented all my pent-up anger from all the loss that the death of my loved ones caused me in that break-up. I began to feel depressed, I felt unworthy and felt unloved. In fairness to the boyfriend, he tried to reach out to me to make sure I was ok, but how can he reach me? I was so angry at him for leaving me, I didn't want to have anything to do with him anymore. I felt like, how can he leave me at the lowest point of my life? And then, I discovered that there was another woman involved, and that was when I let loose all of my anger. I've said things that were very hurtful, and perhaps he deserved it, but I still feel that giving way to my anger did not help me at all.

In my helplessness, I browsed around the internet, trying to seek for any online chat page, where I can just connect with anyone and talk to them. I don't know what came over me, but I typed in Christian Online chats, and it led me here. And being here is a great blessing, because not only was I able to share my thoughts with people whom God touched to care enough, but also it has paved the way for me to remember that I have a God who loves me ... a God whom I forgot, but did not forsake me.
 
Wornwarrior

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Ayan, I had been living outside of Gods will for so many years and God has recently shown mercy on me and brought me back. I have learned a lot in that time. All the things that I was doing to find happiness was making me miserable and I could find no satisfaction anywhere and this made me terribly angry. It was getting to the point where I could hardly even hide or hold it in any longer. I may have looked a little stressed on the outside but there was a battle raging within me. This verse is my explanation to what was happening to me: "When I refused to confess my sin, I was weak and miserable, and I groaned all day long. Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat." - Psalm 32:3-4 But I was SO far from God. In His great mercy, He brought me back. Since then, the rage is calm. When the negative emotions in our lives start to take over, we have no strength to do much about it. But, if we fall on our knees before God, spend time with Him, pray... read His Word... pray some more, all the pain, all the anger, all the self-loathing will be turned into such a peace that words can not describe. He wants to be close to us sister. God bless you, Ill be praying for you . xx
 
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Ayan0512 said:
Yes, thank you. I hear you, although, God is Love. Perhaps the two are not interchangeable.
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the common colloquial phrase used
in the untied states and churches and religious people "God is Love"

means nothing.

Likewise, "let love rule" means nothing also, it's not meaningful or useful in Scripture or in english.

The Scripture quoted is simply a start to finding out Yahweh's Way, Yahshua(Jesus), by faith and trusting in HIS WORD instead of in what men have said and taught.
 
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Ayan0512

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Jeff_56 said:
the common colloquial phrase used
in the untied states and churches and religious people "God is Love"

means nothing.

Likewise, "let love rule" means nothing also, it's not meaningful or useful in Scripture or in english.

The Scripture quoted is simply a start to finding out Yahweh's Way, Yahshua(Jesus), by faith and trusting in HIS WORD instead of in what men have said and taught.
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Thank you.
 
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Sirk

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Ayan0512 said:
Anger because of desertion, infidelity, and loss.
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So you felt abandoned. That's a lonely feeling. Do you think you stuffed directed or escalated the situation?
 
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