Actually, BDSM has several "meanings" that overlap with the DS. It stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism. Dominance and submission is a clear part of the BDSM lifestyle, whether or not it is accompanied by the other aspects of BDSM.
The fact that so many women "loved" Fifty Shades of Grey doesn't mean that women want a more dominant partner, anymore than Die Hard, 007, or Fast and Furious mean that men want to steal cars, shoot people, and blow things up. It's *fantasy.* Additionally, (and this may be making too fine a point), Fifty Shades of Grey has little/nothing to do with actual BDSM.
As for the idea that men "hardly know what it means to take a stand," here's what I have to say: Stop being an acculturated sheep. The examined life IS worth living. If an individual can't be bothered to make the effort to engage in self-examination and determine which aspects of their acculturation are useful and which are not, then that's the problem of the individual. It's not society's job to feed into every possible ideology regarding manhood. It's certainly not a secular society's job to create in men a religious sense of manhood. The very idea that society should make it possible for an individual to avoid self-examination by teaching them perfectly is completely ridiculous.
The fact that so many women "loved" Fifty Shades of Grey doesn't mean that women want a more dominant partner, anymore than Die Hard, 007, or Fast and Furious mean that men want to steal cars, shoot people, and blow things up. It's *fantasy.* Additionally, (and this may be making too fine a point), Fifty Shades of Grey has little/nothing to do with actual BDSM.
As for the idea that men "hardly know what it means to take a stand," here's what I have to say: Stop being an acculturated sheep. The examined life IS worth living. If an individual can't be bothered to make the effort to engage in self-examination and determine which aspects of their acculturation are useful and which are not, then that's the problem of the individual. It's not society's job to feed into every possible ideology regarding manhood. It's certainly not a secular society's job to create in men a religious sense of manhood. The very idea that society should make it possible for an individual to avoid self-examination by teaching them perfectly is completely ridiculous.
You seem to be treating 'master' as a buzz-word; and building it into a warped lifestyle without foundation.