Here's the beauty of all of this... We are all different and react differently. I grew up in a house that hated each other. Have been verbally and emotionally abused all 24 years of my life and counting. Had someone did the whole "You're going to hell" thing to try to save me, guess what? It wouldn't have worked. My opinion of God would have been vastly different, and in a negative way. You mention Christ taught you. Christ also taught us to love our neighbors as ourselves, and to reach out to those in sin without stumbling ourselves. So you can cherrypick all you want. Bottom line is feeling loved is the number one thing we as humans want, and when we finally know we are loved by Christ, that makes it so much better. Just ask the prostitue that Christ knelt down to when He said "Go, and sin no more."