sydlit, no offense but ever since you joined here, you've done nothing but bemoan the wrongs that have been done to you. It seems that you're very bitter and unwilling to let go of all those hurts. Someone here asked if you've ever been married, which is a simple yes or no question.. But you come out with "I hope you're being sincere but how can I be sure about that." Please stop assuming that everyone has a hidden agenda when they ask you something, because they don't.. And until you give this hurt and anger and mistrust over to God, you're NOT going to be able to move on.. jmo