Maybe it's a difference between men and women. (Maybe others can clarify better than I seem to be doing here.)
Although I'm not meaning to stereotype anyone here, and I do realize individuals think differently.
From the first post you made here (post #22), I'm assuming that by "sexual attraction", you're meaning that if you feel you'd want to have sex with a woman, you'd consider her a potential date.
I'll just speak for myself here, but I guess I think a little differently. If I'm considering dating him, I'm not thinking, "Yeah, I could see myself having sex with him." I understand sex is a big deal and that most men will probably say sex is a big deal (I mean that as fact and not a stereotype), but... in the context of Christianity...
Maybe I'm just a big prude. Because as I said, at that point I'm not thinking about sex because if we're both Christians, sex isn't going to happen, especially when we're first getting to know each other. I guess... Am I the only one who feels uncomfortable with the thought of a guy deciding that yes, I'd be dating material because "I could definitely picture having sex with her!!!"
I understand what you're saying. But I just see it as being disrespectful to both parties. I guess... In my prayers over finding someone... How would that fit in? "Lord, please send me someone I'm totally attracted to and most definitely know off the bat that I could see myself having sex with that person!"
I just don't want to reduce a man's dating worthiness as to whether or not I can picture things I shouldn't be picturing in the first place--it seems terribly disrespectful to him as a son of God, and I would feel disrespected if that's what made him decide he wanted to date me as well. (I'm not sure how to express what I'm feeling here, but I'm trying.)