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. Hope everyone is well and not going absolutely insane with all this craziness out in the world.
I don't want you to get angry with me and of course I don't know your MIL so this is just my take on what I've read. Why was it a big deal that your MIL wanted to hold the baby? She's his Grandma.
I think in order to have a healthy relationship sometimes we need to think of what's irritating you about the person and ask yourself, Is this something I should be angry about or is this something that isn't a huge deal? Again I'm just going by what I read, I'm not there so this is a very distant observation.
I was a bit older when I had my kids, 35 when I had my Son, 36 when I had my Daughter. My in law's weren't young. But they never stopped over and when we wanted them to see the kid's we'd have to bring all of our stuff there. They loved the kid's but I could tell when it was time to leave. I thank God my Mom was around as much as she was. I was exhausted and she'd watch them when I worked part time. My in laws weren't really comfortable babysitting. I could have them watch them for a couple of hours but that's about it.
My Father in law passed away 5 year's ago he was 80 something. My MIL is 81 now and she spends a lot of time with the kid's now. I wish they had gotten to know their grandfather better, but they were young and he was older.
I have learned that if someone just stops by they get what they get, messy house, me with bad hair and maybe not ready for the day. It is what it is, we are who we are. I have never had anyone complain, I don't stress about it.
I'm not saying you're wrong and their right, I'm just saying next time you're frustrated with them take a step back and a deep breath and ask yourself if there really is a reason to stress or get angry.
I think in order to have a healthy relationship sometimes we need to think of what's irritating you about the person and ask yourself, Is this something I should be angry about or is this something that isn't a huge deal? Again I'm just going by what I read, I'm not there so this is a very distant observation.
I was a bit older when I had my kids, 35 when I had my Son, 36 when I had my Daughter. My in law's weren't young. But they never stopped over and when we wanted them to see the kid's we'd have to bring all of our stuff there. They loved the kid's but I could tell when it was time to leave. I thank God my Mom was around as much as she was. I was exhausted and she'd watch them when I worked part time. My in laws weren't really comfortable babysitting. I could have them watch them for a couple of hours but that's about it.
My Father in law passed away 5 year's ago he was 80 something. My MIL is 81 now and she spends a lot of time with the kid's now. I wish they had gotten to know their grandfather better, but they were young and he was older.
I have learned that if someone just stops by they get what they get, messy house, me with bad hair and maybe not ready for the day. It is what it is, we are who we are. I have never had anyone complain, I don't stress about it.
I'm not saying you're wrong and their right, I'm just saying next time you're frustrated with them take a step back and a deep breath and ask yourself if there really is a reason to stress or get angry.
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Some very good advice, Fenner. Especially since you have experience as a mother etc. From my completely inexperienced understanding it seemed the problem more concerned boundaries. It's her and her husband's house and child, they should be calling the shots. If others intrude and don't give them space, that's not loving. Also, the water-works she used strike me as incredibly manipulative. She does that to get what she wants (her grandchild) and it worked, so why wouldn't she do it again and again. I'm sorry, but it seems to me she's acting like a selfish toddler and that's not acceptable.
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lol, one of my internet rules is not to participate in "what's on your mind" and "stream of consciousness" type threads of which this is one. That was what popped into my mind when I read the thread title and description. And yet, here I am.
Hmm. I feel a bathroom attendance in the near future. Yes, you wanted to read that. TMI? No, no. Editing what's on my mind for what I type here would destroy the purpose of the thread.
I have few plans for the next 6 hours except to wash some dishes, finish my pyramid, play some music, go to the store and try my best to go to sleep so that I can actually utilize the daylight for things I need to do during the day but usually sleep through.
Hmm. I feel a bathroom attendance in the near future. Yes, you wanted to read that. TMI? No, no. Editing what's on my mind for what I type here would destroy the purpose of the thread.
I have few plans for the next 6 hours except to wash some dishes, finish my pyramid, play some music, go to the store and try my best to go to sleep so that I can actually utilize the daylight for things I need to do during the day but usually sleep through.
Today I am going to be one of the seven dwarves. No I am not that short. But I ate a rather thick slice of sharp cheddar with my tuna sandwich on sourdough bread. So today, due to a mild dairy allergy, I will be Sneezy.
AND IT WAS WORTH IT! It was delicious! I wish I hadn't eaten it yet so I could eat it now. Three hours from now, when I'm at work and sniffling, I will still say it was worth it.
AND IT WAS WORTH IT! It was delicious! I wish I hadn't eaten it yet so I could eat it now. Three hours from now, when I'm at work and sniffling, I will still say it was worth it.