Actually, not even 10 minutes after I posted my last one, she called and asked if I was up for a couple of visitors. All I told her was "not today".
It was the DAY after I had my little boy, that she came over to visit. I wanted her to be able to see her grandson, but she decided that she was going to take over and change him for us, when BOTH my husband and I were right there. I had to leave the room before I screamed at her. My mom has usurped my authority over my children a couple of times, but I don't have to be scared to tell my mom what's what in my home, because she doesn't get all whiny and manipulative on me when I do.
One of the times I told my MIL that she couldn't hold my son when she asked to, because we were in the middle of a meeting, and my husband was holding him, she went and sat back in her chair and sulked until my husband felt sorry for her, and got upset at me for telling her no. That time was also the time that I had to get up to go make sure my daughter didn't run off, and the MOMENT I left, I saw her get up to ask for my son. Because she knows my husband will say yes to her all the time. She waited until it looked like I was gone, to come get my baby. I had to make sure to get back there before she actually got him. I wouldn't have cared so much, if he wasn't brand new at the time, and she hadn't tried to GO AROUND ME to get the baby.
I'll admit, I'm not good at letting things like space invasion go, at all. But I'm a lot like my dad in that area. My space is my space, and if you disrespect that, you're not allowed anywhere near there until I'm comfortable with it again.
Honestly, I love my in-laws, I want to get along with my MIL; I get along fine with all of her kids (except one, because she's a lot like her mom). I get along with my FIL, all of my husband's aunts and uncles. But the reason, is that they gave me time to get used to them, and let me have my space until I invited them into it. They didn't come in on their own terms. My MIL did, and because of that, I backed off, and she just kept doing it. I'm not sure I'll be comfortable with her for a while, or ever if she keeps it up. To put it simply, I don't trust her. She didn't give me the time to learn to trust her. I don't see myself trusting her any time soon.
I don't like not being comfortable with her. I wanted to not conform to the stereotype of not liking the in-laws. And I don't dislike all of them. It's just her.