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Donkeyfish07

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Hey guys, long time no see. Just poppin in to say hi for a minute :p. Hope everyone is well and not going absolutely insane with all this craziness out in the world.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Uploading some pics of the island real quick for anyone and everyone's viewing pleasure:

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blueorchidjd

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I like your humor lol
Let's be fwends :D
LOLOLOL Oh my gosh! I can't believe when I read that, I thought you said "hungry" instead of angry!

I was VERY confused for a few seconds, like.... "did I miss something earlier in the thread? Some inside joke?"


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Fenner

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Actually, not even 10 minutes after I posted my last one, she called and asked if I was up for a couple of visitors. All I told her was "not today".
It was the DAY after I had my little boy, that she came over to visit. I wanted her to be able to see her grandson, but she decided that she was going to take over and change him for us, when BOTH my husband and I were right there. I had to leave the room before I screamed at her. My mom has usurped my authority over my children a couple of times, but I don't have to be scared to tell my mom what's what in my home, because she doesn't get all whiny and manipulative on me when I do.
One of the times I told my MIL that she couldn't hold my son when she asked to, because we were in the middle of a meeting, and my husband was holding him, she went and sat back in her chair and sulked until my husband felt sorry for her, and got upset at me for telling her no. That time was also the time that I had to get up to go make sure my daughter didn't run off, and the MOMENT I left, I saw her get up to ask for my son. Because she knows my husband will say yes to her all the time. She waited until it looked like I was gone, to come get my baby. I had to make sure to get back there before she actually got him. I wouldn't have cared so much, if he wasn't brand new at the time, and she hadn't tried to GO AROUND ME to get the baby.
I'll admit, I'm not good at letting things like space invasion go, at all. But I'm a lot like my dad in that area. My space is my space, and if you disrespect that, you're not allowed anywhere near there until I'm comfortable with it again.
Honestly, I love my in-laws, I want to get along with my MIL; I get along fine with all of her kids (except one, because she's a lot like her mom). I get along with my FIL, all of my husband's aunts and uncles. But the reason, is that they gave me time to get used to them, and let me have my space until I invited them into it. They didn't come in on their own terms. My MIL did, and because of that, I backed off, and she just kept doing it. I'm not sure I'll be comfortable with her for a while, or ever if she keeps it up. To put it simply, I don't trust her. She didn't give me the time to learn to trust her. I don't see myself trusting her any time soon.
I don't like not being comfortable with her. I wanted to not conform to the stereotype of not liking the in-laws. And I don't dislike all of them. It's just her.
I don't want you to get angry with me and of course I don't know your MIL so this is just my take on what I've read. Why was it a big deal that your MIL wanted to hold the baby? She's his Grandma.

I think in order to have a healthy relationship sometimes we need to think of what's irritating you about the person and ask yourself, Is this something I should be angry about or is this something that isn't a huge deal? Again I'm just going by what I read, I'm not there so this is a very distant observation.

I was a bit older when I had my kids, 35 when I had my Son, 36 when I had my Daughter. My in law's weren't young. But they never stopped over and when we wanted them to see the kid's we'd have to bring all of our stuff there. They loved the kid's but I could tell when it was time to leave. I thank God my Mom was around as much as she was. I was exhausted and she'd watch them when I worked part time. My in laws weren't really comfortable babysitting. I could have them watch them for a couple of hours but that's about it.

My Father in law passed away 5 year's ago he was 80 something. My MIL is 81 now and she spends a lot of time with the kid's now. I wish they had gotten to know their grandfather better, but they were young and he was older.

I have learned that if someone just stops by they get what they get, messy house, me with bad hair and maybe not ready for the day. It is what it is, we are who we are. I have never had anyone complain, I don't stress about it.

I'm not saying you're wrong and their right, I'm just saying next time you're frustrated with them take a step back and a deep breath and ask yourself if there really is a reason to stress or get angry.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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I have seen The Red Arrows!!!!! :D
and the Vulcan

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Sunday schedule is running smooth. Church service was amazing. Dinner was smashing..my son pleased and the pic was even posted on CC. Apple turnovers in the oven and dishwasher running. You know what this means...

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Shouryu

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Playing video games with your significant other on a lazy Sunday afternoon = bliss.
 
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Tintin

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I don't want you to get angry with me and of course I don't know your MIL so this is just my take on what I've read. Why was it a big deal that your MIL wanted to hold the baby? She's his Grandma.

I think in order to have a healthy relationship sometimes we need to think of what's irritating you about the person and ask yourself, Is this something I should be angry about or is this something that isn't a huge deal? Again I'm just going by what I read, I'm not there so this is a very distant observation.

I was a bit older when I had my kids, 35 when I had my Son, 36 when I had my Daughter. My in law's weren't young. But they never stopped over and when we wanted them to see the kid's we'd have to bring all of our stuff there. They loved the kid's but I could tell when it was time to leave. I thank God my Mom was around as much as she was. I was exhausted and she'd watch them when I worked part time. My in laws weren't really comfortable babysitting. I could have them watch them for a couple of hours but that's about it.

My Father in law passed away 5 year's ago he was 80 something. My MIL is 81 now and she spends a lot of time with the kid's now. I wish they had gotten to know their grandfather better, but they were young and he was older.

I have learned that if someone just stops by they get what they get, messy house, me with bad hair and maybe not ready for the day. It is what it is, we are who we are. I have never had anyone complain, I don't stress about it.

I'm not saying you're wrong and their right, I'm just saying next time you're frustrated with them take a step back and a deep breath and ask yourself if there really is a reason to stress or get angry.
Some very good advice, Fenner. Especially since you have experience as a mother etc. From my completely inexperienced understanding it seemed the problem more concerned boundaries. It's her and her husband's house and child, they should be calling the shots. If others intrude and don't give them space, that's not loving. Also, the water-works she used strike me as incredibly manipulative. She does that to get what she wants (her grandchild) and it worked, so why wouldn't she do it again and again. I'm sorry, but it seems to me she's acting like a selfish toddler and that's not acceptable.
 
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blueorchidjd

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Press play to relive your childhood Disney fascinations.
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Oncefallen

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I was thinking today about the 140-some odd pages of a novel I had written several years ago...and then deleted. It took about a month to write that much, in between working and sleeping. I re-wrote quite a bit, too. I had shared it with a few people, and most of them were very supportive, giving honest opinions and new perspective. Most agreed it was an interesting story line, but needed polishing.

My sister said it sounded like a little girl whining about life. And that's when I trashed the whole thing.

What I was thinking today...I think I'm sad for that girl I was, that one harsh criticism broke me like that. That I let a few words get to me so much that I just threw out a month's worth of blood, sweat, and tears.

The story itself...honestly, it wasn't great. It really was more like a journal than anything else. In the end, I think it was a good way to get some things off my chest, to...extract some of the poison, I guess...but it's better that I stopped writing it. I just wish I had quit on my own terms, because I realized it wasn't a good thing, rather than because one person thought it was no good.

Some day I'll try again.

These days, because of the e-book, it's considerably easier to get a work published (or even self publish). A lot of aspiring authors are self publishing e-books because of low cost (no printing).
 

Oncefallen

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So far I have spent most of my Labor Day weekend engaging in what the holiday is all about, laboring. Hoorah for extra income.
 
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lol, one of my internet rules is not to participate in "what's on your mind" and "stream of consciousness" type threads of which this is one. That was what popped into my mind when I read the thread title and description. And yet, here I am.
Hmm. I feel a bathroom attendance in the near future. Yes, you wanted to read that. TMI? No, no. Editing what's on my mind for what I type here would destroy the purpose of the thread.
I have few plans for the next 6 hours except to wash some dishes, finish my pyramid, play some music, go to the store and try my best to go to sleep so that I can actually utilize the daylight for things I need to do during the day but usually sleep through.
 
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I made this for a nice lady from another online community. The original image itself wasn't drawn by me, only the animation of the image is by me.
 

Lynx

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Today I am going to be one of the seven dwarves. No I am not that short. But I ate a rather thick slice of sharp cheddar with my tuna sandwich on sourdough bread. So today, due to a mild dairy allergy, I will be Sneezy.

AND IT WAS WORTH IT! It was delicious! I wish I hadn't eaten it yet so I could eat it now. Three hours from now, when I'm at work and sniffling, I will still say it was worth it.