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and i am happy for your grandfather
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I could not agree with you more, women like us should have a better purpose than looking for a mate to fill the void, i always tell that to my self but somehow forget it time to time but i will make it as mantra now, thank you very much, for reminding me that, i have a better purpose here than getting hurt.
I think your using the word "deserve" in a different way. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt. I think your using it in a poetic way... not in a true to the word's definition kind of way.
The true definition of deserve means that one has earned it. If we used that definition... then every woman would have to have earned all those things you listed. Not only is it probably not true that women earned those things (and as a result don't deserve any of that)... but it also diminishes the value of the things you listed... earning those listed things diminishes the kindness of them. And I think that's what you were going for... a romantic kindness that all women "should" be treated with.
Also, I think the tone seems very entitled.
So, I think what your really trying to say is, "Every woman should be treated nicely."
Ultimately, I believe we all deserve hell. And all that we get is either by the grace and kindness of someone's heart or we have earned it through work or actions/thoughts that earned something.
The true definition of deserve means that one has earned it. If we used that definition... then every woman would have to have earned all those things you listed. Not only is it probably not true that women earned those things (and as a result don't deserve any of that)... but it also diminishes the value of the things you listed... earning those listed things diminishes the kindness of them. And I think that's what you were going for... a romantic kindness that all women "should" be treated with.
Also, I think the tone seems very entitled.
So, I think what your really trying to say is, "Every woman should be treated nicely."
Ultimately, I believe we all deserve hell. And all that we get is either by the grace and kindness of someone's heart or we have earned it through work or actions/thoughts that earned something.
S
Ssshhh...calm down, just give this time to the girl that is hurting, just this now, give it to her, no need to disect her every words, please be kind enough and not burst her bubbles, she is hurting right now, please try to understand it, you can say whatever next time she feels fine, all she needs now is a support so please just let her be, even just for now!thank u
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Can't help but think what a prideful post the OP is. I deserve... I deserve... I deserve...
i deserve a man who lets me run my mouth, accept all my bad behaviors and attitude, no matter how unGodly I act, while expecting better from him. To be treated like a queen. A rather worldly list, for the most part.
Because my God says we are all deserving of hell and nothing more. But in His grace He excuses us from what we deserve. Somehow because of this we now have this belief that we deserve all sorts of good things. Even demanding that we deserve to be treated as royalty and letting our wrong behavior go unchecked, in the name of loving someone. That's not love.
I love my gf. I treat her the best I am able. Not like a queen. I do respect her, as is reasonable to do and yes, should be a staple in Any romantic relationship. She has a voice as I often listen to what she has to say. She has freedoms. I don't hide how I feel about certain things I disagree with. Love isn't about keeping your mouth shut. Respect is t about keeping your mouth shut. It's about knowing how and when to say things. And if you do happen to mess that up its about apologizing and fixing things between the two of you.
Also love is not about a list of things you think you deserve. That's not what respect is either. I respect my gf not because she automatically deserves it for being a woman, but because she has earned my respect by how she conducts herself. Not because she deserves it for existing.
Much of that list reflected an 'it's all about me and how priveleged I am' mentality that does not reflect a mindset I'd expect from a Godly woman. All I do for my gf is because she has shown herself to be the kind of person that has earned it by her attitude and actions. Not because she thinks it's her right. A real Godly woman presents herself with humility and waits for a man to see her more like God does, than anyone else. Not one that thinks she's so special she deserves to be treated like a queen because she graces the earth with her mere existence.
We deserve hell. Men. And women. God spared us from that and anything more is an extra blessing, not a right.
i deserve a man who lets me run my mouth, accept all my bad behaviors and attitude, no matter how unGodly I act, while expecting better from him. To be treated like a queen. A rather worldly list, for the most part.
Because my God says we are all deserving of hell and nothing more. But in His grace He excuses us from what we deserve. Somehow because of this we now have this belief that we deserve all sorts of good things. Even demanding that we deserve to be treated as royalty and letting our wrong behavior go unchecked, in the name of loving someone. That's not love.
I love my gf. I treat her the best I am able. Not like a queen. I do respect her, as is reasonable to do and yes, should be a staple in Any romantic relationship. She has a voice as I often listen to what she has to say. She has freedoms. I don't hide how I feel about certain things I disagree with. Love isn't about keeping your mouth shut. Respect is t about keeping your mouth shut. It's about knowing how and when to say things. And if you do happen to mess that up its about apologizing and fixing things between the two of you.
Also love is not about a list of things you think you deserve. That's not what respect is either. I respect my gf not because she automatically deserves it for being a woman, but because she has earned my respect by how she conducts herself. Not because she deserves it for existing.
Much of that list reflected an 'it's all about me and how priveleged I am' mentality that does not reflect a mindset I'd expect from a Godly woman. All I do for my gf is because she has shown herself to be the kind of person that has earned it by her attitude and actions. Not because she thinks it's her right. A real Godly woman presents herself with humility and waits for a man to see her more like God does, than anyone else. Not one that thinks she's so special she deserves to be treated like a queen because she graces the earth with her mere existence.
We deserve hell. Men. And women. God spared us from that and anything more is an extra blessing, not a right.
U
I didn't read all the other posts.
And which part was out of line? Calling out the secular thinking with spiritual truth founded in the bible? Or the way I expressed that I treat my gf well because she has shown herself to be a good woman?
Sorry, nothing was out of line. I simply don't go along with trendy pseudo-spiritual concepts put in place to pacify people and feed their egos. Nearly every post I see on this subject is about what women deserve, but you rarely see that women also have an expectation to act in a Godly manner as well. All part of the feminist ideal.
I desevre because I am a woman, not because I've shown myself to be be a Godly woman.
And which part was out of line? Calling out the secular thinking with spiritual truth founded in the bible? Or the way I expressed that I treat my gf well because she has shown herself to be a good woman?
Sorry, nothing was out of line. I simply don't go along with trendy pseudo-spiritual concepts put in place to pacify people and feed their egos. Nearly every post I see on this subject is about what women deserve, but you rarely see that women also have an expectation to act in a Godly manner as well. All part of the feminist ideal.
I desevre because I am a woman, not because I've shown myself to be be a Godly woman.
