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This is a good article on the state of the dating scene.
The Deadly Deception of Sexual Atheism in the Church — Charisma Magazine
The Deadly Deception of Sexual Atheism in the Church — Charisma Magazine
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Great article!
I lost my virginity to a "christian"... We were not even dating at the time...
I have to admit a lot of the fault was on me, and I was a Christian when I slept with her...
I think today the culture we are in, majority of the teens are practice 'sexual atheism'. From the way they find dates, to the way they interact with them... I am not saying that online dating is bad, or that you have to be in a courtship or anything like that... Just saying that today people look for a date because they are lusting for one... And what happens is that relationship is built off of so much sexual tension, and they are not taught on what to do with that tension... That very bad things happen...
I am not excusing my actions. Just trying to explain that I think this is one of the biggest issues in the Church.
And that this article is a must read imo.
I lost my virginity to a "christian"... We were not even dating at the time...
I have to admit a lot of the fault was on me, and I was a Christian when I slept with her...
I think today the culture we are in, majority of the teens are practice 'sexual atheism'. From the way they find dates, to the way they interact with them... I am not saying that online dating is bad, or that you have to be in a courtship or anything like that... Just saying that today people look for a date because they are lusting for one... And what happens is that relationship is built off of so much sexual tension, and they are not taught on what to do with that tension... That very bad things happen...
I am not excusing my actions. Just trying to explain that I think this is one of the biggest issues in the Church.
And that this article is a must read imo.
S
Great article!
I lost my virginity to a "christian"... We were not even dating at the time...
I have to admit a lot of the fault was on me, and I was a Christian when I slept with her...
I think today the culture we are in, majority of the teens are practice 'sexual atheism'. From the way they find dates, to the way they interact with them... I am not saying that online dating is bad, or that you have to be in a courtship or anything like that... Just saying that today people look for a date because they are lusting for one... And what happens is that relationship is built off of so much sexual tension, and they are not taught on what to do with that tension... That very bad things happen...
I am not excusing my actions. Just trying to explain that I think this is one of the biggest issues in the Church.
And that this article is a must read imo.
I lost my virginity to a "christian"... We were not even dating at the time...
I have to admit a lot of the fault was on me, and I was a Christian when I slept with her...
I think today the culture we are in, majority of the teens are practice 'sexual atheism'. From the way they find dates, to the way they interact with them... I am not saying that online dating is bad, or that you have to be in a courtship or anything like that... Just saying that today people look for a date because they are lusting for one... And what happens is that relationship is built off of so much sexual tension, and they are not taught on what to do with that tension... That very bad things happen...
I am not excusing my actions. Just trying to explain that I think this is one of the biggest issues in the Church.
And that this article is a must read imo.
J
Great article and factual! Which is also why STD's are higher all over the world. Many Christians use the analogy...Well I need to take it for a test drive before I commit. Well how about all the other people who has taken it for a test drive to? Yet if you look at most of our parents and/or grandparents they have had one partner...each other. Happily married...happily committed and learned it all along the way..TOGETHER!!! SEX is pushed in your face nonstop from about age 7 up. Listen to some of the cartoons, songs (you think they do not understand...but the child hears the words), movies, books...its all there for all ages pushing the word of GOD away.
This article highlights one of the most prominent reasons why I've been single for such a long time. Now, there are some very Godly men out there who stick to their beliefs (and are often the target of a lot of grief because of it), and I appreciate them greatly, but all too often I run into things like this:
1. The 40-something who told me his ex-wife used to bribe him with sex, then looked straight at me and said, "And I would LOVE it if you tried to bribe me." (This is why I call myself the Queen of First Dates. I have nothing more to say to someone after something like that.)
2. The 40-something guy who commented to me (as we were looking at a staged display of home appliances, etc.) "Oh look, it's a PORN shower!" (I don't watch porn--not because I'm somehow above it--but what I mean is, I had no idea what he was referring to.) But I really wasn't interested in someone who seemed to know all about them. (That wasn't the only reason, as I know a lot of Christian men struggle with porn. There was also the fact that he thought I wasn't worthy of him because of my job apparently wasn't impressive enough... and several other issues...)
3. The 30-something who, while on the date, told me about how he would drive an hour and a half to his old church because he liked it there so much. As soon as we both got home from the date, he texted me, asking, "How soon do you think two people can start having sex after they start dating?" ARGH.
4. The 30-something who was raised in church but told me he spent his weekends on internet sites looking for one-night stands.
(I included rough ages because some people assume these things only happen with certain generations.) I was reading an assumption in another thread that people in their 50's were "probably not part of the dating scene" and wouldn't know about these things, but this is absolutely false in some locations, as far as I've seen. I've spent the past 4 years living near retirement communities that have extremely active singles communities (due to death, divorce, etc.) and more social events available than what I've ever seen offered for my own age group (because many of these people have more time, and sometimes money, to devote to dating.)
It can be really tough to stick to one's guns, and it's certainly not because I'm some holier-than-thou person... absolutely not. It's just that I'm rather practical and have a tendency to think of consequences.
So besides the fact that you're not only disobeying God (which, as Christians, of course, is our number-one motivating factor), there's also the terror of STD's (I've known a few people who never got tested for anything and didn't want to know but continued to move on to person after person, preferring ignorance to responsibility), unplanned pregnancies, emotional heartache, the loss of your reputation, and, nowadays, having someone secretly videotape or take pictures of you on their phone--and literally sharing it with the world.
Can you imagine walking into a meeting... and everyone there has seen your "picture" or "tape" because you had a moment of weakness with some colleague?
And yet we see it happening everyday. I just hope I can be strong enough to keep clinging on to God and walking a narrow (but admittedly often lonely) path.
1. The 40-something who told me his ex-wife used to bribe him with sex, then looked straight at me and said, "And I would LOVE it if you tried to bribe me." (This is why I call myself the Queen of First Dates. I have nothing more to say to someone after something like that.)
2. The 40-something guy who commented to me (as we were looking at a staged display of home appliances, etc.) "Oh look, it's a PORN shower!" (I don't watch porn--not because I'm somehow above it--but what I mean is, I had no idea what he was referring to.) But I really wasn't interested in someone who seemed to know all about them. (That wasn't the only reason, as I know a lot of Christian men struggle with porn. There was also the fact that he thought I wasn't worthy of him because of my job apparently wasn't impressive enough... and several other issues...)
3. The 30-something who, while on the date, told me about how he would drive an hour and a half to his old church because he liked it there so much. As soon as we both got home from the date, he texted me, asking, "How soon do you think two people can start having sex after they start dating?" ARGH.
4. The 30-something who was raised in church but told me he spent his weekends on internet sites looking for one-night stands.
(I included rough ages because some people assume these things only happen with certain generations.) I was reading an assumption in another thread that people in their 50's were "probably not part of the dating scene" and wouldn't know about these things, but this is absolutely false in some locations, as far as I've seen. I've spent the past 4 years living near retirement communities that have extremely active singles communities (due to death, divorce, etc.) and more social events available than what I've ever seen offered for my own age group (because many of these people have more time, and sometimes money, to devote to dating.)
It can be really tough to stick to one's guns, and it's certainly not because I'm some holier-than-thou person... absolutely not. It's just that I'm rather practical and have a tendency to think of consequences.
So besides the fact that you're not only disobeying God (which, as Christians, of course, is our number-one motivating factor), there's also the terror of STD's (I've known a few people who never got tested for anything and didn't want to know but continued to move on to person after person, preferring ignorance to responsibility), unplanned pregnancies, emotional heartache, the loss of your reputation, and, nowadays, having someone secretly videotape or take pictures of you on their phone--and literally sharing it with the world.
Can you imagine walking into a meeting... and everyone there has seen your "picture" or "tape" because you had a moment of weakness with some colleague?
And yet we see it happening everyday. I just hope I can be strong enough to keep clinging on to God and walking a narrow (but admittedly often lonely) path.
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M
I didn't know what sex was until I was 14 years old and that's because a friend told me at school. I then went to my mom and we had "the talk." LOL
Some teens are clueless...but I guess it wouldn't be as common nowadays.
About the article. It's very sad but I liked what it said. I wonder...are these sexual atheists really Christians at all? Or are they going to church and listening to these podcasts because it makes them feel better?
Some teens are clueless...but I guess it wouldn't be as common nowadays.
About the article. It's very sad but I liked what it said. I wonder...are these sexual atheists really Christians at all? Or are they going to church and listening to these podcasts because it makes them feel better?
*shrugs*
When I was a kid, there were kids in my school (ages 9-13) who were rumored to be "trying things"... and that was a long time ago, seeing as I'm a little bit older than my 20's... So unfortunately, this is nothing new.
I should also add that I went to a Christian school, and sexual experimentation was one of the most common ways to rebel.
When I was a kid, there were kids in my school (ages 9-13) who were rumored to be "trying things"... and that was a long time ago, seeing as I'm a little bit older than my 20's... So unfortunately, this is nothing new.
I should also add that I went to a Christian school, and sexual experimentation was one of the most common ways to rebel.
M
Cmarieh, um...could you explain your classmate doing that...at age 8? That's crazy! I hope you did a typo or you're talking about an older girl.
Wow, Seoul, I just saw what you wrote so maybe Cmarieh didn't make a typo? That is so young! Poor kids, they probably don't even know what exactly it's suppose to be for.
Wow, Seoul, I just saw what you wrote so maybe Cmarieh didn't make a typo? That is so young! Poor kids, they probably don't even know what exactly it's suppose to be for.
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Yeah, I went to a Christian college for undergrad, to which the girls outnumbered the guys 4:1... Needless to say, if it wasn't for having great professors, I wouldn't have stayed all three years. Just by knowing other Christian colleges in addition to my own, I find they can be as bad as your typical party school when it comes to that sort of stuff.
Cmarieh, um...could you explain your classmate doing that...at age 8? That's crazy! I hope you did a typo or you're talking about an older girl.
Wow, Seoul, I just saw what you wrote so maybe Cmarieh didn't make a typo? That is so young! Poor kids, they probably don't even know what exactly it's suppose to be for.
Wow, Seoul, I just saw what you wrote so maybe Cmarieh didn't make a typo? That is so young! Poor kids, they probably don't even know what exactly it's suppose to be for.