6 Weeks before the wedding & now this...

[blue_ladybug]

Thank job for your support. It means so much. I am grateful. You have been such an advocate for me. Many of you have been praying. I need this strength.

​You need more than prayer to get you through this. You need common sense and wisdom, also. You can plainly see who this guy really is and what he's capable of, yet you still give him license to control you. You need to cut off ALL contact with him..

 

[blue_ladybug]

I have sent all the info to the mods for them to decide. Even if blue told you to do another thread under a new name;your stories should add up!!

Which part of safety reasons do you not understand? Those of us who know WHY she made a new name, know WHY her details are different..

 

[blondieindahouse]

Which part of safety reasons do you not understand? Those of us who know WHY she made a new name, know WHY her details are different..

Like I said. I have sent all pertinent info to the mods. We will let them decide.

I cant help it if you have bought this line of bull for this long. I have seen the discrepancies from the beginning and I am not the only one who has.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Like I said. I have sent all pertinent info to the mods. We will let them decide.

I cant help it if you have bought this line of bull for this long. I have seen the discrepancies from the beginning and I am not the only one who has.

I haven't "bought" anything. I saw her new thread under the other name. And I know why she changed some of the details.. I've been informed on this whole thing for awhile now, in terms of helping her get anonymity from her ex on here..

 

[soconfused2]

I do need support. I'm asking for that. Please be understanding and realize that I am struggling.

 

[blue_ladybug]

I do need support. I'm asking for that. Please be understanding and realize that I am struggling.

​It's okay. MOST of us are praying for you and want to help.

 

[mokie22yrold]

Good grief! Why would you want to stay with him ?? He just using you. Can't you see that. Do yourself a favor and leave this guy.

 

[RickyZ]

427 posts over 22 pages... I think it's all been said and you know what you need to do. It's time to grow a pair, stop yakking about it, and take action!

And Blondie, for God's sake lighten up. It's Christmas!

 

[jsr1221]

​It's okay. MOST of us are praying for you and want to help.

In all honesty, prayers and support are a waste of time if she doesn't do anything with them. She's in the process of making her bed and starting to lie in it, too. I know I can only say so much before it turns into do what you want.

 

[Pilkington]

soconfused2 I am continueing to pray for you and your son.

 

[Cindy12]

In all honesty, prayers and support are a waste of time if she doesn't do anything with them. She's in the process of making her bed and starting to lie in it, too. I know I can only say so much before it turns into do what you want.

Praying for someone is never a waste of time. It might just be the power of combined prayer that pulls her through this and gives her the strength and power to do what she must do. I am praying for her, praying that she finds that the power of Jesus is enough for her and her son and she can live in peace!

 

[Angela53510]

Newlymarried2

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What would you do about this???

I am married and my 10 year old son is hot and cold on my DH. Somedays things are okay....others my son is rude and tough.
My DH recently started fighting with me in front of my son. It wasn't good. He threatened to leave me in front of my child. My son was very upset.
Well, fast forward to last week. My son has been rude and difficult. I have punished him and told him he is disrpectful. He apologized.
My husband started holding me tight at dinner and rubbing my shoulders knowing that bothers my son and makes him jealous. My son started getting upset.
My DH asked him if he likes being a bully. That made my son cry. (at dinner in restaurant). Then my son started calling him names. I told them both to stop. Then my son said he was going to elbow my husband in the chest. My DH laughed and made a fist and said he would grab my son's heart and squeeze it and hand it to him!.
I yelled STOP. They stopped for a short time but then my son asked my DH, who speaks spanish, how to say AAAHOLE in spanish. My DHanswered by saying ASshole is (insert my son's name) in spanish.
I could not believe....what I was hearing!!!
What would you do? My son is fine many times w this man..and I am a wreck!!

It seems quite simple to me! We've been had. She posted this under her "new" male profile on Dec. 20. Strange her screen name is "Newlymarried2." Is she not married? Why is she posting exactly the same things on her "new" profile as she did on her soconfused2 profile?

Surely the first rule of a new profile, would be to not repeat info from the old profile, because if a stranger can pick up on it, so can the fiancé. So this post which Blondie brought up was originally posted on Dec. 20. She calls him her "husband" which is kind of strange if they are not married.

So go back to Soconfused2 post #389. (Sorry, I cannot do a screen shot!)

Thank you for the support here. I was weak as I posted in my last update and I went back. He was begging for the wedding (on Saturday) and wanted me to come home. I did. But we fought. And fought. And fought. So much so that he has insulted me over and over, mainly because I haven't returned the money I took for taxes. I have delayed it. I blamed it on the bank wire being delayed.


well I had my son w me for dinner and he began (10 yrs) calling my fiancé stupid. He is angry at him. So what happened? I told my son to stop. Apologize. My son was still saying things. So my fiancé tries to rub my shoulders and hug me at dinner in a restaurant. He knows that makes my son jealous. My son began elbowing him a little. I told them to stop.

So my fiancé smiles and tells my son that he will take his heart. Grab it w his bare hand and hand it to him.

My son starts crying. And there's more fighting. I was so angry! Then he asked my son if he knew how to say asshole in Spanish. My son said no. So he said "you say it "insert son's name here"

he lsughed it off and said he was joking. But I was livid. I need to disappear ASAP And not marry. How do I do this??? It's his family only. But I am so desperate to get the courage to escape this

This was posted 3 days ago, meaning Dec. 23. And in this post, the male in question is her "fiancé. If she is just posting a lie for self security, then I have no problem.

But I am beginning to see a lot of holes in this story, and I haven't even started her Newlywed2 thread.

Something smells rotten to me. Sorry, I always defend abused women to the ultimate degree. But all this running back and forth, having TWO profile at once, which is against forum rules, since s/he continues to use both and leading us on. I'm just not at all sure anymore.

I hope I am wrong, but I am usually not, and since I am not the only one seeing these discrepancies, I am just not going to give support anymore.

 

[PeterJens]

I do need support. I'm asking for that. Please be understanding and realize that I am struggling.

Everyone need support. But support for what?

Financially independent, able to get a job at the drop of a hat, full access to a son does not appear to be a victim.

The question is if someone was serious about support this is not it, rather real life church groups and abuse support groups.

But both things have been suggested and nothing has progressed which just does not add up.
It appears though with the "marriage" put off what is next? You can only give advice to a certain point.

The problem is another story line does not work so well.

 

[DiscipleDave]

In all honesty, prayers and support are a waste of time if she doesn't do anything with them.

Then that is what we should pray for, That she does something about it.

^i^

 

[DiscipleDave]

soconfused2 I am continueing to pray for you and your son.

Let us not forget to pray for the guy either.

^i^

 

[Pilkington]

I do wonder what has happened to the OP

 

[Mcsmitty]

I know it seems easy and clear cut but I do love this man and I even gave up my career to move with him. I had a great job and he hated my hours. So I quit and relied on him .... I currently have a great job now too ...making 165k. But he likes to point out that I make half of what he does. And here's the issue. We live paycheck to paycheck. Very little debt but he spends money. He bought a brand new sports car 2 months ago and his payment is 1200 a month. He had a big house that I moved into and it's expensive. He keeps throwing it in my face that I'm ungrateful etc.

I'm all about sharing finances ...but telling me that I can't get sports gear for my child when I make 165k is insane to me.

Now the question is...why can't I get the guts to leave?

Sweetheart.....RUN RUN RUN!!!! I know that you love him and it sound's like you love him more then you do yourself. As I'm reading your posts I see a lot of him hurting you, demanding things from you and accussing you. This should be the "one" which the Lord has for you, is he? I say no, Love shouldn't hurt. [h=1]1 Corinthians 13[/h]4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[b] 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.8 Love never ends.
This is God's word, and it is not what you have with your guy. Please pray and I will too for the courage to leave.

God Bless

 

[Mcsmitty]

I do need support. I'm asking for that. Please be understanding and realize that I am struggling.

Here for you, sweetheart. No judgement, just concern and support.

 

[blue_ladybug]

I do wonder what has happened to the OP

She said she and her son were spending Christmas with her ex-husband, so psycho bf can't reach her..

 

[NeedGodsHelp]

Please please get out of this relationship! I married a man who is just as controlling and mean! If I had to do over I would be single! Please don't do this to yourself or your child! God has made someone special just for you and its not him!