6 Weeks before the wedding & now this...

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I totally agree. I am going to "disappear" again this afternoon when I can get alone. I pray I get the opportunity.

I I just want to say he didn't threaten to kill my son. He was "joking" after my son elbowed him in the chest out of anger. He laughed (sick) and said that he would pull his heart out and hand it to him. Yes. Totally wrong and twisted. But he wouldn't actually do that...

But it I immediately jumped in and told him that was inappropriate and awful. And his respknse that my son needs to know if there's an insult, that he will get one back.

Pray for me. I am going today. I am needing courage and faith.



Ignorance is deadly, and so is stupidity.. Going back to an abusive man time after time, especially when he's put YOU in the ER, mangled your hand for life, AND threatened to kill your son, is just plain idiocy. Wake up!!
 

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I totally agree. I am going to "disappear" again this afternoon when I can get alone. I pray I get the opportunity.

I I just want to say he didn't threaten to kill my son. He was "joking" after my son elbowed him in the chest out of anger. He laughed (sick) and said that he would pull his heart out and hand it to him. Yes. Totally wrong and twisted. But he wouldn't actually do that...

But it I immediately jumped in and told him that was inappropriate and awful. And his respknse that my son needs to know if there's an insult, that he will get one back.

Pray for me. I am going today. I am needing courage and faith.
We will be and have been praying for you. Lean on Him for the strength, only He can give it sister. Good luck and Merry Christmas to you and your son.
 

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I totally agree. I am going to "disappear" again this afternoon when I can get alone. I pray I get the opportunity.

I I just want to say he didn't threaten to kill my son. He was "joking" after my son elbowed him in the chest out of anger. He laughed (sick) and said that he would pull his heart out and hand it to him. Yes. Totally wrong and twisted. But he wouldn't actually do that...

But it I immediately jumped in and told him that was inappropriate and awful. And his respknse that my son needs to know if there's an insult, that he will get one back.

Pray for me. I am going today. I am needing courage and faith.
You also thought he would NEVER hurt YOU either. And he did. And you went to the ER and have a mangled hand as a permanent reminder of what he's capable of. Don't underestimate this guy. He threatened your son, joke or not. Do you REALLY want to risk your son's life, on the presumption that this dude was joking??? You'd be a fool to trivialize anything this guy says or does.
 

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I totally agree. I am going to "disappear" again this afternoon when I can get alone. I pray I get the opportunity.

I I just want to say he didn't threaten to kill my son. He was "joking" after my son elbowed him in the chest out of anger. He laughed (sick) and said that he would pull his heart out and hand it to him. Yes. Totally wrong and twisted. But he wouldn't actually do that...

But it I immediately jumped in and told him that was inappropriate and awful. And his respknse that my son needs to know if there's an insult, that he will get one back.

Pray for me. I am going today. I am needing courage and faith.
Among his other fine qualities he's cruel and vindictive. Really, I must be missing something here. What you really need is to escape this loon. Protect your son and yourself.
 
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Thank you for the support here. I was weak as I posted in my last update and I went back. He was begging for the wedding (on Saturday) and wanted me to come home. I did. But we fought. And fought. And fought. So much so that he has insulted me over and over, mainly because I haven't returned the money I took for taxes. I have delayed it. I blamed it on the bank wire being delayed.


well I had my son w me for dinner and he began (10 yrs) calling my fiancé stupid. He is angry at him. So what happened? I told my son to stop. Apologize. My son was still saying things. So my fiancé tries to rub my shoulders and hug me at dinner in a restaurant. He knows that makes my son jealous. My son began elbowing him a little. I told them to stop.

So my fiancé smiles and tells my son that he will take his heart. Grab it w his bare hand and hand it to him.

My son starts crying. And there's more fighting. I was so angry! Then he asked my son if he knew how to say asshole in Spanish. My son said no. So he said "you say it "insert son's name here"

he lsughed it off and said he was joking. But I was livid. I need to disappear ASAP And not marry. How do I do this??? It's his family only. But I am so desperate to get the courage to escape this

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What would you do about this???[/h] I am married and my 10 year old son is hot and cold on my DH. Somedays things are okay....others my son is rude and tough.
My DH recently started fighting with me in front of my son. It wasn't good. He threatened to leave me in front of my child. My son was very upset.
Well, fast forward to last week. My son has been rude and difficult. I have punished him and told him he is disrpectful. He apologized.
My husband started holding me tight at dinner and rubbing my shoulders knowing that bothers my son and makes him jealous. My son started getting upset.
My DH asked him if he likes being a bully. That made my son cry. (at dinner in restaurant). Then my son started calling him names. I told them both to stop. Then my son said he was going to elbow my husband in the chest. My DH laughed and made a fist and said he would grab my son's heart and squeeze it and hand it to him!.
I yelled STOP. They stopped for a short time but then my son asked my DH, who speaks spanish, how to say AAAHOLE in spanish. My DHanswered by saying ASshole is (insert my son's name) in spanish.
I could not believe....what I was hearing!!!
What would you do? My son is fine many times w this man..and I am a wreck!!
 
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I am absolutely flabbergasted that so many of you cannot see what I have just put in front of you!! READ. DISCERN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Its right there for you to see.You have been shown the proof that I have been hinting at for over a month. If you continue with this fairy tale, Ill be wondering about YOUR mental state.
 
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Yes I had been asked to change usernames at one point for strength. I'm sorry that I reversed.

I I am still in a tough battle today in my head. I MUST leave. And I am so anxious.

I I promised to spend Christmas Day with my son and my ex and his family so I'm not alone. They don't know I'm still in this and they are counting on me being there tomorrow.
 
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Yes I had been asked to change usernames at one point for strength. I'm sorry that I reversed.

I I am still in a tough battle today in my head. I MUST leave. And I am so anxious.

I I promised to spend Christmas Day with my son and my ex and his family so I'm not alone. They don't know I'm still in this and they are counting on me being there tomorrow.
Oh so now you say you have been asked to change user names? LOL
So, you admit you are under two usernames? GOTCHA!!

Its awfully strange that under one username you are married and under the other, you are not!! You have been exposed!! Darkness always comes to light!!!
 
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Lady blue asked me to do so. There is no lie. Ask her. Please don't turn on me. This is my support!
 
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Lady blue asked me to do so. There is no lie. Ask her.
She asked you to be married in the new thread and remain unmarried in the old one? LOL

NO! I dont think so . Now you have accused one of our members of recommending you do something against the rules posted! Try again scammer!!


I need to disappear ASAP And not marry.


I am married
 
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She posted it herself! Here! In this thread!!! Go back and read. You are hurting me.

I I don't know how to get a photo in here. Read back.
 

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blue_ladybug

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She asked you to be married in the new thread and remain unmarried in the old one? LOL

NO! I dont think so . Now you have accused one of our members of recommending you do something against the rules posted! Try again scammer!!



Blondie, calm down and take a breath. I DID tell her to delete her account as soconfused2 here, and make a new name, for safety's sake because her ex-psycho has her password to get on here and read her posts. That's why I suggested making a new name--though I did NOT think she'd make a MALE name..lol.. So she hasn't accused anyone, because it was MY idea that she change her user name on here.. :)

 
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blue_ladybug

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She posted it herself! Here! In this thread!!! Go back and read. You are hurting me.

I I don't know how to get a photo in here. Read back.
Don't worry about it. I just posted a reply to blondie. If she can't or doesn't want to read back and find those posts, it's okay. What's important is that you get away from this guy. Go to ex-hubby's tomorrow and spend Christmas there.. and shut off your phone so the psycho fiance can't call you..
 
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Don't worry about it. I just posted a reply to blondie. If she can't or doesn't want to read back and find those posts, it's okay. What's important is that you get away from this guy. Go to ex-hubby's tomorrow and spend Christmas there.. and shut off your phone so the psycho fiance can't call you..

So what you do not see is that 3 days ago on the new thread she is married and 21 hrs ago on this thread she is not married.,

The fact still remains that there is a blatant discrepancy !! Do you see it? I didnt write it.I only exposed it!!

 
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I have sent all the info to the mods for them to decide. Even if blue told you to do another thread under a new name;your stories should add up!!
 

blue_ladybug

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So what you do not see is that 3 days ago on the new thread she is married and 21 hrs ago on this thread she is not married.,

The fact still remains that there is a blatant discrepancy !! Do you see it? I didnt write it.I only exposed it!!

blondie, surely YOU can see that she did it for safety reasons. To my knowlege on this thread, she NEVER said she was married, unless you can show a post where she said that. She DID say she was engaged.
 

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Yes I had been asked to change usernames at one point for strength. I'm sorry that I reversed.

I I am still in a tough battle today in my head. I MUST leave. And I am so anxious.

I I promised to spend Christmas Day with my son and my ex and his family so I'm not alone. They don't know I'm still in this and they are counting on me being there tomorrow.
God is giving you the chance to tell your ex what is going on. He can bring you out of it, yes, but not if you keep doing what you're doing. Until you actually do something different, this will continue to happen, or worse.
 
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Thank job for your support. It means so much. I am grateful. You have been such an advocate for me. Many of you have been praying. I need this strength.