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Hi Rasp and welcome to CC. I absolutely know what you're talking about as well. I know when I was going through the hardest part of my life so far I felt so very lonely. I was even blessed with a GREAT wife, 2 awesome kids, good friends, a good job, and they all made up the best support system anyone could ever ask for, yet in that dark time I felt completely alone, and it was very hard. I will pray for you, and like many others here I'm sure, you can write me anytime you need to (and I know it's not really the same, but we're here for you). My boys are still young, 13, and 6, so I don't know exactly what you're going through, but you have the best friend possible in Jesus as well. I hope you feel better soon and it's nice to meet you. 8^)
Okay, my turn. 
I have been single now for a little over a year after 10 years of marraige. I only have my kids half the time so I have a lot of down time. How do I manage? Well, I read, a lot. I guess one big difference for me is that im not really looking for someone else. So, that need, urge, or whatever it is isnt there. However, my church didnt have but a few people my age so I changed to a larger church and became avtive in the youth ministry. I now have a little more fellowship with the other youth leaders. And, you will soon see, this site can occupy copious amounts of time. LOL
I dont know If I would say I get lonely as much as I get bored. I wouldnt mind having a friend to hang out with from time to time but I dont reallly need a relationship. I know I didnt really offer any advice but its at least a look at a different perspective. I will admit though, at the start when we first seperated, I did get lonely. Annnnd thats roughly how I ended up on here. It more or less gave me folks to talk to and occupied my time. I dont know much about you or how long you have been alone but thats my take on it.
God Bless
BA
I have been single now for a little over a year after 10 years of marraige. I only have my kids half the time so I have a lot of down time. How do I manage? Well, I read, a lot. I guess one big difference for me is that im not really looking for someone else. So, that need, urge, or whatever it is isnt there. However, my church didnt have but a few people my age so I changed to a larger church and became avtive in the youth ministry. I now have a little more fellowship with the other youth leaders. And, you will soon see, this site can occupy copious amounts of time. LOL I dont know If I would say I get lonely as much as I get bored. I wouldnt mind having a friend to hang out with from time to time but I dont reallly need a relationship. I know I didnt really offer any advice but its at least a look at a different perspective. I will admit though, at the start when we first seperated, I did get lonely. Annnnd thats roughly how I ended up on here. It more or less gave me folks to talk to and occupied my time. I dont know much about you or how long you have been alone but thats my take on it.
God Bless
BA
C
Hi, I actually feel lonely too especially as don't have close family and about to break up with my boyfriend soon( long-distance relationship), but I'll pray in faith that God will sustain you and provide fellowship- there are some really good international ministries that are uplifting- Kenneth Copeland and Richard Roberts who have prayer 24/7. Also it's encouraging there are many others who feel the same- we can support each other. Blessings
They absolutely are, all by His hand, and ALL glory to Him for it. I do have to say that it sure didn't feel that way at all during the trial, so you just stay strong and more importantly keep trusting in Him, even when and especially when it's hardest. I know things can seem impossible, and like they will never get better, but they will and He will use it to build you up stronger than ever before. I know from experience that when I was at my lowest the last thing I wanted to hear was "stay strong" and "keep your head up", but honestly He can help when we honestly go to Him. I will keep you in my prayers and may He guide you through this valley as painlessly as possible and bring you the peace only He can. We love you sister, and still hit us up anytime.
R
Okay, my turn. I have been single now for a little over a year after 10 years of marraige. I only have my kids half the time so I have a lot of down time. How do I manage? Well, I read, a lot. I guess one big difference for me is that im not really looking for someone else. So, that need, urge, or whatever it is isnt there. However, my church didnt have but a few people my age so I changed to a larger church and became avtive in the youth ministry. I now have a little more fellowship with the other youth leaders. And, you will soon see, this site can occupy copious amounts of time. LOL
I dont know If I would say I get lonely as much as I get bored. I wouldnt mind having a friend to hang out with from time to time but I dont reallly need a relationship. I know I didnt really offer any advice but its at least a look at a different perspective. I will admit though, at the start when we first seperated, I did get lonely. Annnnd thats roughly how I ended up on here. It more or less gave me folks to talk to and occupied my time. I dont know much about you or how long you have been alone but thats my take on it.
God Bless
BA
I have been single now for a little over a year after 10 years of marraige. I only have my kids half the time so I have a lot of down time. How do I manage? Well, I read, a lot. I guess one big difference for me is that im not really looking for someone else. So, that need, urge, or whatever it is isnt there. However, my church didnt have but a few people my age so I changed to a larger church and became avtive in the youth ministry. I now have a little more fellowship with the other youth leaders. And, you will soon see, this site can occupy copious amounts of time. LOL I dont know If I would say I get lonely as much as I get bored. I wouldnt mind having a friend to hang out with from time to time but I dont reallly need a relationship. I know I didnt really offer any advice but its at least a look at a different perspective. I will admit though, at the start when we first seperated, I did get lonely. Annnnd thats roughly how I ended up on here. It more or less gave me folks to talk to and occupied my time. I dont know much about you or how long you have been alone but thats my take on it.
God Bless
BA
I ended up on here for the same reasons as yourself. Even though, I an FAR from a person that has any desire to be on the computer... I thought I'd try it anyway... so here I am.
it was nice to meet you. Thank you, and may the Lord bless you as you continue to be a faithful steward of your time for His Kingdom!
R
I hear you brother!! Sometimes it isn't always felt in the hard times... but, it is still known, so holding on to that is vital. I Thank you for your prayers!! I think it's amazing how, because of Christ and the relationship we have through Him, we have family we can love and only just meet... again God is amazing! I love and appreciate you all!! I'll be keeping in touch, Lord willing.
R
I think you are normal and healthy. Humans are social beings, and we were not made to be alone and/or in isolation. If you are older, like I am, it's more difficult to make the connections and bonds that younger people do with relative ease. You didn't mention whether you are married or single. Married people can have a different kind of loneliness and despair, because they feel that they should not be lonely since they have a spouse. But, as children leave the "nest," you are entering a different phase in your life. Maybe volunteer work will help. I've heard that keeping a gratitude journal is great so that we remind ourselves every day of what we have to be thankful for.
Hello Raspjam, "Lord, give (J) her hearts desire, Father fill her loneliness up with you first then allow fellowship to reign as well. Be her "gap-filler" and father honor her honesty and forthrightness in asking for help here as well. Lord, comfort her and uplift her in Jesus' name I pray Amen!"
In our life as seeking Christians, there will be many instances when God, who is faithfully and lovingly jealous of His people (2 Cor. 11:2), will enlighten us concerning someone, or the desire for a thing or a someone, that they cherish above Him. I don't know if this is what He is sharing exactly, but the Lord Jesus desires that His believers love Him first and best (Rev. 2:4); therefore time and time again, He will GENTLY require of us a renewed consecration of all the persons, desires, and things we treasure.
Thou art Raspjam's comfort, gracious Lord!
She hath none in heav'n but Thee.
And who but Thee is there on earth
With whom she love to be?
Though loneliness and trials come,
Her griefs she'd rise above,
This only would I ask Thee, Lord;
Surround her with Thy love!
O gracious Lord, I now beseech,
Guide her every stage;
Stand by and strengthen her to go
Through this dark, evil age.
The world the flesh, and Satan too,
Do tempt my sisters soul apace;
Without Thy love and strength'ning power
She may Thy name disgrace.
The time dear Lord, is running short;
From earth her soul set free.
When Thou dost come, she'll sing with Joy,
Hallelujah to Thee!
Rasp jam we care here, I care and have cared for your joy to be made complete for a time now. John 15:7 tells us, "If you remain in Me and My Words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you." I know you. I know you are a believer, yet even as believers we can seemingly commit much to the Lord, yet it is often the case that our deepest emotions, our tenderest, most cherished desires and feelings remain hidden from Him. We may pray to the Lord concerning many things, yet guard from Him the most secret chambers of our heart. Yet the Lord desires our full and complete consecration that he might make His home in each believer's heart (Eph. 3:17). Rasp jam He is interested in meeting those needs you ask of in every detail, you believe that right? He wants whole Saints thus, He desires to fill and occupy our inward parts, that He might genuinely be our all in all (Col. 8:29). In this way, Christ gradually grows and increases within us until we are fully conformed to His glorious image (Rom. 8:29). You know me: busy, sometimes pre-occupied, man ignorant, and totally human but nonetheless totally a friend. But God's bounty is perfect and He is the giver in your relationship relentlessly able to be there at every turn. May Jesus be your first fruit always and if it be the case, ask Him and He will supply these needs, you have His Word on it! God bless you Richly Sista, and I am always open to you regardless of my torrent of schedules.. ~D~
In our life as seeking Christians, there will be many instances when God, who is faithfully and lovingly jealous of His people (2 Cor. 11:2), will enlighten us concerning someone, or the desire for a thing or a someone, that they cherish above Him. I don't know if this is what He is sharing exactly, but the Lord Jesus desires that His believers love Him first and best (Rev. 2:4); therefore time and time again, He will GENTLY require of us a renewed consecration of all the persons, desires, and things we treasure.
Thou art Raspjam's comfort, gracious Lord!
She hath none in heav'n but Thee.
And who but Thee is there on earth
With whom she love to be?
Though loneliness and trials come,
Her griefs she'd rise above,
This only would I ask Thee, Lord;
Surround her with Thy love!
O gracious Lord, I now beseech,
Guide her every stage;
Stand by and strengthen her to go
Through this dark, evil age.
The world the flesh, and Satan too,
Do tempt my sisters soul apace;
Without Thy love and strength'ning power
She may Thy name disgrace.
The time dear Lord, is running short;
From earth her soul set free.
When Thou dost come, she'll sing with Joy,
Hallelujah to Thee!
Rasp jam we care here, I care and have cared for your joy to be made complete for a time now. John 15:7 tells us, "If you remain in Me and My Words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you." I know you. I know you are a believer, yet even as believers we can seemingly commit much to the Lord, yet it is often the case that our deepest emotions, our tenderest, most cherished desires and feelings remain hidden from Him. We may pray to the Lord concerning many things, yet guard from Him the most secret chambers of our heart. Yet the Lord desires our full and complete consecration that he might make His home in each believer's heart (Eph. 3:17). Rasp jam He is interested in meeting those needs you ask of in every detail, you believe that right? He wants whole Saints thus, He desires to fill and occupy our inward parts, that He might genuinely be our all in all (Col. 8:29). In this way, Christ gradually grows and increases within us until we are fully conformed to His glorious image (Rom. 8:29). You know me: busy, sometimes pre-occupied, man ignorant, and totally human but nonetheless totally a friend. But God's bounty is perfect and He is the giver in your relationship relentlessly able to be there at every turn. May Jesus be your first fruit always and if it be the case, ask Him and He will supply these needs, you have His Word on it! God bless you Richly Sista, and I am always open to you regardless of my torrent of schedules.
. ~D~
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Hm... I guess I never responded to this thread...even though I've used it in the 'Thread Mashups' thread...
Anyway...my response to the title is,
"Sure, yeah... Me too."
My response to the OP is:
"No judgement. You're just like most people (or most 'of us' for a more inclusive statement)... Welcome to the Clan."
Anyway...my response to the title is,
"Sure, yeah... Me too."
My response to the OP is:
"No judgement. You're just like most people (or most 'of us' for a more inclusive statement)... Welcome to the Clan."
I
Hi there! I'm New here and ran across this thread. I too share that lonely feeling you speak of. To add to the many great suggestions--when I get that lonely feeling, I sit down and think who I know that I can cheer up. My mother shares with me that she gets depressed though she lives with my brother and his cute kids, so I took her out to dinner. My nephew doesn't have his father in his life,so I pick him up and took him to the park. Another time, I seen this lady and her dog with a "hungry" sign, so I stopped and chatted with her and her cool pitbull and paid for their dinner.
And I felt really good afterwards. I got a big warm thank you and it really turned my day around. Hope this helps along with the other great ideas!God bless sister!
And I felt really good afterwards. I got a big warm thank you and it really turned my day around. Hope this helps along with the other great ideas!God bless sister!
S
Hobbies are real good too when you are alone
You can make alone time in a positive manner, and discover all the beautiful things inside yourself.
Often this world demands so much of our time.....pleasing others so much, that we forget sometimes all the beautiful talents we have within
If you must be alone at this time
I pray you will make it into a positive experience
Yes I know we miss people....
But thru bible study....and prayer....and lots of self discovery
Well....lol
That's what dries my alone tears anyhow lol
I hope it helps you too
God loves you
You can make alone time in a positive manner, and discover all the beautiful things inside yourself.
Often this world demands so much of our time.....pleasing others so much, that we forget sometimes all the beautiful talents we have within
If you must be alone at this time
I pray you will make it into a positive experience
Yes I know we miss people....
But thru bible study....and prayer....and lots of self discovery
Well....lol
That's what dries my alone tears anyhow lol
I hope it helps you too
God loves you
