So are you waiting for a post that will convince you? No one can convince you but yourself. Mistakes are part of life but regrets, bitterness and unforgiveness will not make you completely happy as you claim to be.
Believe it or not, there is no bitterness or unforgiveness. The ex and I get along very well. We are both happier apart from each other. Yea, Im not a fan of the whole child support thing, but it is what it is. I see things the way I see them now because I have the opportunity to see thing from the outside looking in now. I am not, and never have been the hopeless romantic type. Am I looking for someone to convince me? No, not really. I more or less am trying to understand the emotionally co-dependent personality type.
Okay, tell me this. ( now that I think about it) What is the point if, noticeably on here I might add, its possible to still be 40, 50, or even 60 years old and still have the mindset of "Some day when I meet Mr. or Mrs. right? Really? My point behind that is, why keep lieing to ourselves? I don't understand it. Yea, we all get lonely. It happens. Its human nature. But, to think that being in a committed relationship will solve it is just asinine. Good friends can serve the same purpose.
Because, honestly, by now, it all sounds like "Somebody love me!!!! Please!!"
Look at Valentines day. You can be assured there is always one day a year that the lack of a companion is guaranteed to raise its head. So those who were already down about their situation will feel even worse. All because a holiday says "find someone to love". Rather weak minded I would say. Good marketing and media can dictate your emotions. Congratulations. C'mon, be in the world, not of it.
So what if its Gods will to not be with someone? What are the odds that you will still, daily, pray for the perfect guy/gal to come into your life only to be disappointed at the end of each day? Because its what you want. Not what you do or do not need.
This isn't bitterness or unforgiveness or regret. Its logical and reasonable.
BA