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I could never put my baby up for adoption, but my 2 husband adopted all three of mine from my pre relationships. And he stays bitter towards my ex-husband. I'm not to happy about this cause since my children were old enough to know their bio father. I never spoke any fault or evil against him. That is part of them and it's not right. Adopted kids feel a missing part and they should have the opportunity to find it and embrace it on their own. Unhinded by other peoples opinions. The KIDS are ALWAYS the PRIZE. And it should be their wishes when they be come of age.
S
I adopted my youngest son...he has brought a lot of joy into our lives. I started out thinking I would have the oppertunity to change a life for the better.Iurns out he changed mine more than I did his. We did not find out he was autistic until he was about three.
It has been a lot of work...my son is now 15yrs old. We still have our struggles...God has used my son to change my veiw on life.
My four birth children were all easy to raise, got good grades, stayed out of trouble, honored me and blessed me every day....I was full of pride.
An Autistic melt down in the middle of a public store....is very humbling....poeple look at you like your the most horrible parent.
It has moved me to pray with out ceasing many days...
I have to say I like who I am now better than who I was once.
I now have so much more compassion for parents of children with special needs.
When I see them I pray for them...with a heart full of understanding and love.
To love and adopt takes a big place in your heart!
It has been a lot of work...my son is now 15yrs old. We still have our struggles...God has used my son to change my veiw on life.
My four birth children were all easy to raise, got good grades, stayed out of trouble, honored me and blessed me every day....I was full of pride.
An Autistic melt down in the middle of a public store....is very humbling....poeple look at you like your the most horrible parent.
It has moved me to pray with out ceasing many days...
I have to say I like who I am now better than who I was once.
I now have so much more compassion for parents of children with special needs.
When I see them I pray for them...with a heart full of understanding and love.
To love and adopt takes a big place in your heart!
M
Adopting a child was something I considered for over a year, before God blessed me with my son. I didn't really care so much whose child I would raise, just that I had the chance to raise a child at all. Had it turned out that I could not have my own child (biologically speaking; I clarify because if I ever adopt, that child will be considered my own as well), I would have begun the adoption process. I may still decide to do that- for now, I'm still just trying to get used to raising the baby I have.
I have an uncle who was adopted, and I don't know if it's because he feels like he doesn't really belong, or if it's just his personality, but he keeps his distance from the family, except for his parents (my grandparents). His daughter doesn't have a lot to do with us, either, though again, I don't know that it has anything to do with a lack of blood ties to us. Even biological families drift apart.
Anyway, I think adoption is an all-around beautiful thing; the biological mother who chose not to end a life before it even got started and instead chooses to give her baby away to a family who will love him/her...and the family who takes that baby home with them. I don't see anything wrong with opting not to have your own children and to adopt instead. I believe God knows what He's doing when he brings children into the world who will be adopted by someone else, and He has a plan and a reason for adoptions to happen.
I have an uncle who was adopted, and I don't know if it's because he feels like he doesn't really belong, or if it's just his personality, but he keeps his distance from the family, except for his parents (my grandparents). His daughter doesn't have a lot to do with us, either, though again, I don't know that it has anything to do with a lack of blood ties to us. Even biological families drift apart.
Anyway, I think adoption is an all-around beautiful thing; the biological mother who chose not to end a life before it even got started and instead chooses to give her baby away to a family who will love him/her...and the family who takes that baby home with them. I don't see anything wrong with opting not to have your own children and to adopt instead. I believe God knows what He's doing when he brings children into the world who will be adopted by someone else, and He has a plan and a reason for adoptions to happen.
J
Hi Matthew & thank you for sharing your caring & inspiring post. You deserve much praise for your thoughts.
If we couldn't have been able to have kids my wife & I would have adopted without hesitation.
It's a "no brainer" really. Every child, young or older, adopted or born into a family deserves the same opportunity in life. And those folk who take a child into their family also deserve the highest praise & support.
J.
If we couldn't have been able to have kids my wife & I would have adopted without hesitation.
It's a "no brainer" really. Every child, young or older, adopted or born into a family deserves the same opportunity in life. And those folk who take a child into their family also deserve the highest praise & support.
J.
C
I'm all for being a foster parent and/or adopting. I've always wanted to for as long as I can remember.
As for the reasons why people give their baby up for adoption...there really are tons of reasons and sometimes there may be more than one reason for each case. You never know what's in someone's heart or what their situation may be.
I know for me, when I was convinced that I was going to give my baby up for adoption, my reasoning was a few different things.
#1 I thought that a baby deserved 2 loving parents who could nurture her and provide a solid family foundation in life and I couldn't provide that in the least. Her dad and I were never even a couple and we don't really get along. (I'm totally against getting married just because you're having a baby together)
#2 I had NO idea how I was going to raise her, be there for her and work as much as I needed to at the same time.
#3 My walk with God was nowhere near where it needed to be and all that I could think and worry about was that I could never be the example of God's love to this baby because I was selfish and living a crappy life.
There were a few other things too but those are the main ones.
I am grateful for people who want to adopt. I wouldn't have even had that option otherwise. I was incredibly blessed with an answer to all of those reasons up there. I was able to keep Kyla and now I realize that it's not me at all who provides for her needs but God. I really hope that I'll be in a situation some day where I'll be able to foster/adopt children. I'm fairly certain that children are my calling in life. Haha
As for the reasons why people give their baby up for adoption...there really are tons of reasons and sometimes there may be more than one reason for each case. You never know what's in someone's heart or what their situation may be.
I know for me, when I was convinced that I was going to give my baby up for adoption, my reasoning was a few different things.
#1 I thought that a baby deserved 2 loving parents who could nurture her and provide a solid family foundation in life and I couldn't provide that in the least. Her dad and I were never even a couple and we don't really get along. (I'm totally against getting married just because you're having a baby together)
#2 I had NO idea how I was going to raise her, be there for her and work as much as I needed to at the same time.
#3 My walk with God was nowhere near where it needed to be and all that I could think and worry about was that I could never be the example of God's love to this baby because I was selfish and living a crappy life.
There were a few other things too but those are the main ones.
I am grateful for people who want to adopt. I wouldn't have even had that option otherwise. I was incredibly blessed with an answer to all of those reasons up there. I was able to keep Kyla and now I realize that it's not me at all who provides for her needs but God. I really hope that I'll be in a situation some day where I'll be able to foster/adopt children. I'm fairly certain that children are my calling in life. Haha
K
I personally would like to be a foster parent one day. Im really for mentoring children and treating them as one of my own but I also believe that the parents need healing themselves and once theyve cleaned up their lives they deserve a relationship with their children. I know that sounds 10x harder than adoption because the parents always remain in the picture. I know there are kids in 3rd world countries or in China where theres tons of orphan girls, but I also know social services is always heaped with kids in and out of trouble because their parents were teens or into drugs or some horrendous sin and they need to be rebuilt in character and be given some hope.
L
I have a big desire to adopt if i marry and i would like to adopt 2 children, but i cant explain why.
The only thing that would worry me would be to not know the probable hereditary diseases and to be prepared enough to attend the children because of that, but i think it would be something really nice to take care of them as my own
The only thing that would worry me would be to not know the probable hereditary diseases and to be prepared enough to attend the children because of that, but i think it would be something really nice to take care of them as my own