Yes, we agree for the most part here. But people who have impossible lists either end up single or grow up and realize unless you are perfect you cant demand that someone else be perfect. Ive grown a lot and learned a lot from my husband. I grew up in a home with mental abuse so that is why I react so strongly. If we are gentle,loving and caring,putting the other first we will have good marriages. But each person has to work that out on their own. Attacking people will never ever change their mind.