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goth4god

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personally I am sick of getting hit on first thing by random guys (yeah a lot in here) they dont even take time to get to know me and just start flirting.
I dont see flirting as a horrible thing, but I do see it as a form of lust, and should not be done 'just for fun' I do not think it is a good thing to just start flirting with someone right when you meet them because you dont even know them, you toy with emotions and imply things that should not be implied when you dont even know that person.
I see it differently once you get to know that person and you think you might date them, then flirting is ok. but if you do not intend to date that person then you have no reason to be messing with their mind and emotions. (and personally I will not date unless I find the person to be marriage material)
also when flirting ppl makes comments about features of the anatomy that should not matter to anyone but that person and their husband/wife. I find it disgusting and shallow, especially if it is one of the first things out of a persons mouth, cant you at least make REAL conversation?
I dont take flirting as a recreational activity, it is a form of lust and can lead to mixed and hurt feelings. Flirting is meant to lead to other things, so if you dont want that from the person then dont flirt.
What I am saying is that people, especially followers of God, should watch what they say when it comes to stuff like flirting.
sorry, this has been on my heart and I had to get it out there.
 
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ChristianTeen

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I completely agree with you one hundred percent!
 
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goth4god

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thanks!
I have met a few ppl who disagree, but prolly just cuz they flirt alot and dont want to sound like a bad guy.
and I will admit it, sometimes I fall into the trap of flirting back when someone flirts with me, and that is why we all need to watch out, cuz it is so easy to fall for it cuz it makes you feel good about yourself, but in the end it is just meaningless lust. =]
 
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sportygirl

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I agree with you mostly. BUt I also know that some people are defiently natural flirts, I am one of them sometimes when I'm attracted to a person or sometimes even when I'm not how I act comes across as flirting, and I don't even realize it. When I am intentionally flirting thats only with people I really like, or my best guy friend.
 
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Jooshua

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I agree with you mostly but disagree to one of my best friends are flirters but it runs in his family soooooooo!!!
 
QuestionTime

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goth4god said:
personally I am sick of getting hit on first thing by random guys (yeah a lot in here) they dont even take time to get to know me and just start flirting.
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Yes, I have noticed this too, with comments about how attractive a woman appears in her picture, or other similar comments.

I try to avoid this personally, but if any of the ladies see me do it, then please let me know.

Walking up to a woman and telling her that she looks pretty... I think it's common sense that this is not how it ought to be done in our society. In person, I think many guys would receive a slap on the face for such conversation and rightly so.

While I am no expert on how one should approach a woman, I am quite certain that such comments are not the proper way to go about it.

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QuestionTime

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sportygirl said:
I agree with you mostly. BUt I also know that some people are defiently natural flirts, I am one of them sometimes when I'm attracted to a person or sometimes even when I'm not how I act comes across as flirting, and I don't even realize it. When I am intentionally flirting thats only with people I really like, or my best guy friend.
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"Natural Flirts" means you are saying that God has made you this, and you cannot change because of divine and eternal decree. This of course is not the truth, you can change if you care to make the effort.

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Dread_Zeppelin

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I think many people confuse flirting with being nice. With that said, I agree somewhat with your post but I dont find it as much insulting as I do informative. Someone who flirts with me off the bat tells me that they're interested in my outward appearance and not who I am. It also can say that they're a "ladies man" who might flirt with other girls. Doesn't bother me, just encourages me to move on or take it with a grain of salt. Just take it as a compliment.

If a man starts getting touchy or vulgar that's when I'll start getting annoyed.
 
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goth4god

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yeah, I do understand the natural flirting thing, I had a friend like that, and I think the best way to help them is let them know they are doing it so you can help break them of the habit.

and yeah, I do realize some guys are just complementing me, but the other day I was talking to a guy and he randomly asked me of my booty was fine...if it was in person I would have slapped him in the face, and yeah he got my Yahoo ID from here. Im fine when some guys are all 'I think you are cute' it kinda irks me a little cuz they JUST met me, but I get over it.

but pretty much what I was trying to say is watch what you do and say, and if you are a 'natural flirt' then try and break that habit, get a friend to keep you accountable.
 
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i dont find it such a bad thing can give people confidence when you say there attractive tho saying you have a fine booty i can understand how that is annoying btw like your style and art work :p goth4god
 
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goth4god

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zavok said:
i dont find it such a bad thing can give people confidence when you say there attractive tho saying you have a fine booty i can understand how that is annoying btw like your style and art work :p goth4god
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yeah, I agree it is a nice confidence boost, but I like to be complimented more on my personality then fleeting looks.
and thanks =]
 
zavok

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no problem i think your personailty is rather intresting and kl
 
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Maddog

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The best flirting is done in conjuction with intelligent, stimulating conversation.

But yes, I'm going to disagree that flirting is a bad thing (though it depends on your definition). I see it as a normal form of human interaction. I'm pretty sure that most people flirt subconsciously anyway...on some level, we're all out to try and attract the opposite sex.
 
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Walt

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Are you implying that people try to flirt with you on here? Is it possible to flirt online? I always took flirting (still do) as a very personable experience that can't be replicated through my keyboard and computer screen, but maybe I'm just old-fashioned.
 
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Walt said:
Are you implying that people try to flirt with you on here? Is it possible to flirt online? I always took flirting (still do) as a very personable experience that can't be replicated through my keyboard and computer screen, but maybe I'm just old-fashioned.
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hey how you doing ;)
 
Sharp

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If girls don't want people commenting on their pictures, they should take them down.

Having a real picture of yourself on the internet is not mandatory.
 
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goth4god

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Sharp said:
If girls don't want people commenting on their pictures, they should take them down.

Having a real picture of yourself on the internet is not mandatory.
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there is a difference between "you have pretty eyes" and "hey cutie"
one is a compliment and one is flirting.
 
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Maddog

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goth4god said:
there is a difference between "you have pretty eyes" and "hey cutie"
one is a compliment and one is flirting.
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They're both compliments, and both may or may not be flirting.
 
zavok

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ah the ways of complimenting each other and flirting with each other is not simple
 
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goth4god

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Maddog said:
They're both compliments, and both may or may not be flirting.
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yes and no.
although 'you have pretty eyes' can go both ways 'hey cutie' is more flirting cuz they are implying stuff, even if they do think you are cute, they should get to know you before they comment a picture or what not with that.
I guess I like guys to be more on the civil end, not the cruder end.
 
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