My wife and I

GenJesus · Mar 10, 2016

My wife and I are no longer biblically compatible. She associates with the SDA cult; and she won't listen to my warnings for nothing. I have now written 2 Sabbath/ "Sunday" essays that she not interested in. She sees me as "religiously obnoxious". All of her friends hate me too. As I sometimes communicate with ppl on facebook; usually about what the bible truly has to say about the issue of Sabbath vrs "Sunday"; as her friends call me the "keyboard warrior".

She just complained that I took down a non biblical Ellen quote from her pantry. And she talked like I'm out of line for that. I'm thinking that our marriage is a waste of time anymore; and that I might as well leave her. God hates divorce, I know. Yet I have to do something about this waste of time marriage anymore.

blue_ladybug · Mar 10, 2016

Saturday, Sunday, does it really matter? As long as we keep EVERY day holy, then God is happy.

You are unequally yoked now. She's in a cult and your a christian. If she refuses to change, and it sounds like she's not going to, then maybe divorce is best. God always uses divorce to do His will.

Tommy379 · Mar 10, 2016

If I were you, I would read 1 corinthians ch. 17, mark 10:10, and matthew 19. I've prayed on these before and I don't see any acceptable reason to divorce, and if you push her away, you must be prepared to be alone because unless she passes away, you will still be married to her regardless. Don't argue with her, just be a good ambassador for Christ. You did quote it right "I hate divorce" Malachi 2:16

coby · Mar 10, 2016

Reminds me of an old friend I spoke. He said normally people are happy when it's weekend but we always had fights over sunday or saturday.
What does it matter? One believes this day, don't judge someone on keeping a day. If I were married to a Messianic Jew I guess I'd join him on a sabbath. I don't think sunday is Biblical, pentecost was on a Jewish holiday, but what does it matter anyway? If the unbeliever leaves let him/her go, but this way you make her life quite impossible.
Instead of writing books on saturday or sunday you can better pray for her. The wife of Harold Hill invited spirits in her home and she got saved when he prayed.
Pray and if she leaves she'll leave or she will convert, but maybe not to sunday but to Jesus.
God Will Save Your Family

Oncefallen · Mar 10, 2016

Paul addressed this issue pretty clearly 2000 years ago.

1st Cor. 7:10-13 (NASB)

[SUP]10 [/SUP]But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not [SUP][d][/SUP]leave her husband [SUP]11 [/SUP](but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not [SUP][e][/SUP]divorce his wife.
[SUP]12 [/SUP]But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not [SUP][f][/SUP]divorce her. [SUP]13 [/SUP]And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not [SUP][g][/SUP]send her husband away.

GenJesus · Mar 10, 2016

coby said:

Reminds me of an old friend I spoke. He said normally people are happy when it's weekend but we always had fights over sunday or saturday.
What does it matter? One believes this day, don't judge someone on keeping a day. If I were married to a Messianic Jew I guess I'd join him on a sabbath. I don't think sunday is Biblical, pentecost was on a Jewish holiday, but what does it matter anyway? If the unbeliever leaves let him/her go, but this way you make her life quite impossible.
Instead of writing books on saturday or sunday you can better pray for her. The wife of Harold Hill invited spirits in her home and she got saved when he prayed.
Pray and if she leaves she'll leave or she will convert, but maybe not to sunday but to Jesus.
God Will Save Your Family

Why it matters because she associates with again; a cult church. Yes "Sunday" is biblical; Lev 23:11-21. Too late Coby; those 2 essays are already written. Thank u for ur input.

YankeesGurl · Mar 10, 2016

I would love to believe that through LOVING actions you could win back the heart of your wife, and enter into a relationship of worship, prayer, and friendship again with her. I don't doubt that it would take time.....but from your orriginal post, it sounds as if maybe you have already washed your hands of the situation.

That made me sad to read that.

Have you ever heard of The Love Dare? Its associated with the movie Fireproof. If you are not familiar, could you take the time to check them out. Pray over the situation and see if you would be willing to love your wife in a completely unselfish way as The Love Dare speaks of...and then maybe she would be open to maybe hear you on quotes she has hung up that your not crazy about, or other such things.

Just some thoughts. Best for you and her as you move forward in this. Blessings!

GenJesus · Mar 10, 2016

blue_ladybug said:

Yes this is supporting input; but I can't deal with a false prophet following church; as she associates with. And I'm about to tell her; maybe we should split.

skylove7 · Mar 10, 2016

GenJesus said:

For one!
God sees facebook as a social connection...it is true!
God is ok with dat lol

But..
You must choose in your heart....

sharkwhales · Mar 10, 2016

Sorry but I can't believe that you are splitting just because someone is following a doctrine/denomination that is disagreeable. Even if it's wrong, it's not such a huge issue.

I have a feeling there are deeper underlying issues and if your marriage was ever serious to you, I recommend counseling. At least after that, if you split it will be with full awareness and honesty about the why of it.

sharkwhales · Mar 10, 2016

hasty decisions made in anger never leave us something to be proud of. I understand that burdens can become too much to bear but in that situation instead of dumping the burden, reach out for help... Like you are doing here but in a way that involves you both with a neutral 3rd party that will keep you both from only seeing things your own way.

coby · Mar 10, 2016

GenJesus said:

Leviticus 23 is about saturday.

Sun worship was a very prominent religion at the time of Christ and Sunday was the main day of worship in the pagan Roman Empire, just as it was in ancient pagan Babylon.

"Sun worship was one of the oldest components of the Roman religion." [Gaston H. Halsberge, The Cult of Sol Invictus, 1972, p. 26.]

Pagan Babylon’s rituals, customs and sun worship began to infiltrate the church in the first two centuries through Greek philosophy. But it was not until the time of Constantine, that it had a major effect when he made "Christianity" the state religion and incorporated the traditions associated with the worship of the sun into his legislations for Church practice. He changed the observance of the Sabbath to the first day of the week, in honour of the "Invincible Sun" by civil law, and filled the church with the commonly used pagan holy days, images and symbols of the sun

tourist · Mar 10, 2016

From your post I can say that IMHO you have no grounds for divorce due to what you have described as no longer biblically compatible. I am not a SDA member but I attend SDA services with my wife who is a SDA member. This is a bible believing church that preaches the salvation message, that Jesus died on the cross for our sins and that if we are willing to repent (change) He will guide our paths and reside in our hearts.

Apparently, your wife strongly believes in the Sabbath and in no way is that a bad thing but something that is done in obedience to the forth commandment - to remember to keep holy the Sabbath.

I suspect that there is more going on in your marriage besides the different outlooks on trying to live a biblically spiritual life. It appears that the lines of communication are broken or dysfunctional.

Regardless, you are in a hard situation and I have said a prayer for your marriage.

Nautilus · Mar 10, 2016

if you ask for a divorce it might be your wifes lucky day

PoetMary · Mar 10, 2016

GenJesus said:

Hosea kept going after Gomer all those times she left to return to prostitution. I would think that someone who is meant to love his wife like Christ loves the Church would have a greater degree of self-sacrifice conveyed when it came to discussing his wife and their issues.

Here's how it sounds to my ear: I have a will, my wife won't abide by it. I find it annoying. I want a divorce.

I'm sure there are lots of nuances involved in the situation. However, here's something I'd like you to consider doing: LOVE HER. Seriously. Consider every possible thing you ever did to woo her and how/why it worked. Begin doing those things again. DEMONSTRATE Christ to her by putting away the doctrine stick and engaging in sacrificial love. Christ DIED for his Church. Are you willing to die for your wife? If no...then why not?

Your marriage is a covenant. You don't get to opt out because she's irritating you and not falling in line with what you desire. But I'd be willing to bet money that she's woo-able. WIN her back to yourself and to Christ by virtue of your great display of love toward her.

resurrection33 · Mar 10, 2016

GenJesus said:

[31] "It was also said, `Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.'
[32] But I say to you that every one who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” Matt 5:31-32 RSV

pwrnJC · Mar 10, 2016

GenJesus......I am evangelical in my spiritual walk....but one of my real close, holy spirit filled CHRISTIAN friends is Seventh Day Adventist. We have worked together, prayed together and she has a unique spiritual gift of discernment and wisdom. Other than setting aside a certain day that her congregation meets, we have very similar one accord ties. There has to be more to this sad MIddle Aged riddled drama that you have exposed to the internet here. I see you "Communicate with ppl on facebook" a lot. Pity....that time could be better spent by investing into your marriage....When my wife drops a hint that I am on the computer too much...it's a clue..a cue....to take that can benefit both of you. Oops..or have you made up your mind already that your devotion to your Wedded wife is over?

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GenJesus said:

I see her point. If hubby wrote me essays to train me right, I'd probably grade them.

Have you always been this disrespectful to her, or is this a new thing you're trying out? Because... it ain't working for you.

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blue_ladybug said:

Mensa mens on SDA being a cult. I'm not for their understanding of the commandments, but it's not necessarily a deal breaker either.

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GenJesus said:

Ohhh, you wanted "supporting input."

Never mind.

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