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Wow. I am not at all surprised about the flirting that goes on -whether wanted or unwanted- but I have to admit, I was a bit surprised to read that there are actually men –used in the loosest sense of the word- on here asking sisters for naked pictures and such; that is disappointing and disgusting.
Often when in the chat rooms, I will glance through the profiles of the other members. I did notice how a lot of the women in the chat have PM messages up that, in my opinion, come across as slightly defensive. Before reading this post, I did not understand why that was; it makes sense now.
Without drifting too far off topic, I think it is worth further examining exactly what drives these men to CC, out of all places, to satisfy their prurient needs. If their sexual urges were purely animalistic, one would assume that the typical porn site would do the trick. So the question we must ask is, “what is driving their desire to defile Christian women”? In my opinion, such desires are undoubtedly the result of a particular spirit working through them.
Anyway, I would be interested in exploring this aspect of the topic further; however, a more in-depth examination would probably warrant a whole new Thread.
Often when in the chat rooms, I will glance through the profiles of the other members. I did notice how a lot of the women in the chat have PM messages up that, in my opinion, come across as slightly defensive. Before reading this post, I did not understand why that was; it makes sense now.
Without drifting too far off topic, I think it is worth further examining exactly what drives these men to CC, out of all places, to satisfy their prurient needs. If their sexual urges were purely animalistic, one would assume that the typical porn site would do the trick. So the question we must ask is, “what is driving their desire to defile Christian women”? In my opinion, such desires are undoubtedly the result of a particular spirit working through them.
Anyway, I would be interested in exploring this aspect of the topic further; however, a more in-depth examination would probably warrant a whole new Thread.
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remember its not just the guys flirting/hitting, bout a week ago i posted a picture of me, moments after i went into the lounge i had 3 PMs. it was pretty obvious they were trying to flirt with me... (and they were all over 10 years older then me O_O) i mean i dont mind if once in awhile some1 gives you a friendly flirt/compliement, but i dont care for it much. some ppl like flirting some dont, and you should respect them on their choice 
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Well i understand that u are just sharing your views on what u feel, I feel for u as well. At same time i am also expressing my opinion on the topics as well, i guess everybody has right to express his/her own opinion just the way u did.
One of the primary aim of this site is to bring christian together to share their views and motivate each other.I personally think de main purpose is also to help the unbelievers/non-christians that joined the site to know the way and the truth of the Lord. Well u should know that unbelievers/non-christian know nothing about God and it is our duty as christian to help them to know the truth. I guess hitting on u or flirting is a way of asking for attention, i know it is annoying but it will be nice if u use the opportunity to preach to them. I am sure u are being endow with God's positive energy and let them realise that.
I find it ridiculous attimes that everybody expect that since this is a christian chat site , it should only be visited by christian, well that should not be the case. We christians should learn how to share, accept others who has not yet seen the truth. U should know that no real christian will be flirting unneccessary with u.
Moreover, i wish to make some other points, well i don't think u are shallow. I know that i should not have generalise the way i did in my first thread, but i did that because after some thoughts about the whole issue, i thought that u have many choices and options u could resolved to instead of feeling offended. I hope that this will clear the whole thing and make u less indignant towards me.
Stay blessed.....
Of course we expect and already know that non-Christians visit the site. Why, I'm not always sure. But they do, and that can be a good thing, though sometimes a disruptive thing. The point we were making in the thread recently is about the motivation of these people for visiting the site, and some of those motivations we have a difficult time understanding.
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Well * Your pretty * or something if they say it once i dont really see it as flirting
but as a compliment ofcourse.
But if they go on and on about it
+ If they say how are you?
Just normal
But when the whole * yes good you?* ended
they ask right away you got a boyfriend?
I do count that as flirting lol
I get that if you talk a bit longer with someone that questions comes up anyway
but asking it RIGHT Away is a bit..Meh
I count flirting as.
Hey sexy
But compliment more if they say your pretty.
Kind off. Well some people dont mean hey sexy as flirting
but they could of know this is a christian website
and that is seen as flirting quick
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I agree. No one would could hope to win over someone's affections with such terrible grammar.
Well, maybe I'm just not well versed in the nuances of proper conversation but this distinction between flirting and and normal conversation seems quite arbitrary. I also don't see why it makes a difference that this is a Christian website. Unless you're suggesting that they ought to know that some Christians get jumpy and uptight about anything that could be remotely construed as a flirt and is likely to cause the creation of a new thread in which we all vent our moral outrage.
Well, maybe I'm just not well versed in the nuances of proper conversation but this distinction between flirting and and normal conversation seems quite arbitrary. I also don't see why it makes a difference that this is a Christian website. Unless you're suggesting that they ought to know that some Christians get jumpy and uptight about anything that could be remotely construed as a flirt and is likely to cause the creation of a new thread in which we all vent our moral outrage.
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I really think we should treat each other like brothers and sisters, like the Bible says.
1 Timothy 5:1&2 (Taking into account that this is mostly aimed at men.) "Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity."
It does not say flirt with them, toy with their emotions, and then rebuke them for not liking what you said. I think the trick is to test everything against what God wants for us. I know flirting can be a big subject, and everybody sees it as something different, but when we treat each other as brothers and sisters in all purity, we don't toy with their emotions. That doesn't mean we can't talk to the opposite sex, be nice to them, but rather that we consider their feelings in the way we treat them.
1 Timothy 5:1&2 (Taking into account that this is mostly aimed at men.) "Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity."
It does not say flirt with them, toy with their emotions, and then rebuke them for not liking what you said. I think the trick is to test everything against what God wants for us. I know flirting can be a big subject, and everybody sees it as something different, but when we treat each other as brothers and sisters in all purity, we don't toy with their emotions. That doesn't mean we can't talk to the opposite sex, be nice to them, but rather that we consider their feelings in the way we treat them.
I agree with everything you are saying except: (Taking into account that this is mostly aimed at men.)
The entire Bible is mostly aimed at men. If women only concerned themselves with the parts directed specifically for women, they'd be able to read through the Bible once every week or less.
That's just the style the Bible was written in and consequently ladies have to read the verses and apply it to themselves equally. I understand it's probably difficult for women to do this; since the Bible is so male oriented. I do have compassion in that matter, as I would find reading the Bible difficult if it was addressed mainly to women.
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The entire Bible is mostly aimed at men. If women only concerned themselves with the parts directed specifically for women, they'd be able to read through the Bible once every week or less.
That's just the style the Bible was written in and consequently ladies have to read the verses and apply it to themselves equally. I understand it's probably difficult for women to do this; since the Bible is so male oriented. I do have compassion in that matter, as I would find reading the Bible difficult if it was addressed mainly to women.
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Flirting, when tasteful, is an interesting and positive social interaction that I love! When someone is charming you it's a window into how poetic they can be. (Or cliche) I am not a classic romantic but I enjoy a little flirtation. People who are really good at it are often witty and full of good humor. I understand how it can be misconstrued into a man objectifying you if his flirting is based purely on the physical and he has little else to say- in that case thank him for his compliment and move onto more constructive conversation.