Your motives are sincere, of the heart, with love.
Sometimes we miss someone else's true intent, even though they aren't really hiding it, because love always hopes.
She has stated the truth a few times in different places and different threads.
She is not really angry and upset at you.
She is angry and upset at God.
She has a hard time accepting some things in the OT and it has her angry and upset.
She's dealt with a lot of anguish of late with her husband's medical condition.
She clearly states here plainly she gave up last autumn.
It does start looking like she's not even trying to be rational and the reason is her motive is anger and frustration and is coming from the place of gutwrenching pain and howling sorrow. Her fist is against the whole world right now and her protest has some validity but she won't get anywhere even though it does. Because whatever is not done out of love won't fix it ever.