sometimes i hate that god gave me...

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Complete_In_Him

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godsslife,

There is a thing about being self seduced and sin, it is abuse and destructive, that is what choosing to be sinful/sinfulness does, it causes us to be "abusers of ourselves", it is the epitome of idolatry.

God teaches us to love ourselves, with healthy mindedness. God influences us to respect ourselves, our bodies, others and to be self controlled in the "spirit of our minds."

There is so much available to us in life, invest in cultivating the thoughts of your heart toward things that are good and right and honorable- now that is beautiful.


And, this was a great post below.

Mo0448 said:
Have you ever considered that it's not your "beauty" or "aesthetic looks" that's causing you to make wrong decisions in life or sin? Cuz trust me...ugly people sin too I know plenty of them...I'm going to go with my gut feeling to say that it's not your beauty that's causing you to sin, it's your lack of self control...or perhaps you are lacking something...a sense of love or attention that these individuals give to you and that gives you comfort and allows you to open up and act without any self control if you will...See I don't believe the problem lies in your outward appearance but in your lack of understanding of who Jesus is...when we realize and recognize how fulfilled and content we truly are in a relationship (a legit seeking whole heartedly kind of relationship) then things of the world don't look as appealing or attractive to us...that's the truth from experience trust me!

All it takes is the one step to recognize that it's not the outside that's the problem but the inside...look for love affection and attention in Christ Jesus and let him fill up those empty spaces in your heart...because he fills it up completely and not just temporary like the world does...

hope this helps

take care

In Christ,

Mo
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Shpadoinkle

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godsslife,

Let me first state the obvious. You are a beautiful woman. Period. Nothing will change that, and that's just how the genetics came out for you.

I believe that God has plans for each of us even though a great many of us never get cued into what His plans are. Perhaps we aren't supposed to know, or if we did know, then we wouldn't understand them anyhow. Myself I believe, but don't know, that I am alive at this point in history because I am to be a witness to the second coming of our Lord Jesus the Christ. Further, I believe my accepting Christianity, my studies, and the means by which I have turned away from the carnal life I once lived are for a reason as well.

In your case, because of your beauty and your age, it's no surprise that you get a lot of unwelcomed attention from young men/boys. Perhaps God has His reasons for that as well. You've mentioned in prior posts your desire to have a husband one day. Perhaps God is working through these young fellows to teach you to be much more discerning about men. Perhaps you are being given opportunity after opportunity to refine and revise your hopes and desires of what you want in a husband.

Everything happens for a reason, including the things that seem to make no sense. If every hair on your head is numbered in the eyes of the Lord, then you can be sure that the Lord can see into the depths of your heart and see what troubles you. Trust in Him. What I have found out through the course of my life is that pushing back against or running from problems usually just results in us taking a short cut back to meet them.

Don't see yourself as others see you. That's the definition of ego, and the human ego is a horrible thing. Instead sister, see yourself as God sees you. Pray to Him to be shown yourself as He sees you, and allow Him to work through you for His greater purpose. You are so much stronger than you know. Be well my sister in Christ.
 
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godsslife

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Shpadoinkle said:
godsslife,

Let me first state the obvious. You are a beautiful woman. Period. Nothing will change that, and that's just how the genetics came out for you.

I believe that God has plans for each of us even though a great many of us never get cued into what His plans are. Perhaps we aren't supposed to know, or if we did know, then we wouldn't understand them anyhow. Myself I believe, but don't know, that I am alive at this point in history because I am to be a witness to the second coming of our Lord Jesus the Christ. Further, I believe my accepting Christianity, my studies, and the means by which I have turned away from the carnal life I once lived are for a reason as well.

In your case, because of your beauty and your age, it's no surprise that you get a lot of unwelcomed attention from young men/boys. Perhaps God has His reasons for that as well. You've mentioned in prior posts your desire to have a husband one day. Perhaps God is working through these young fellows to teach you to be much more discerning about men. Perhaps you are being given opportunity after opportunity to refine and revise your hopes and desires of what you want in a husband.

Everything happens for a reason, including the things that seem to make no sense. If every hair on your head is numbered in the eyes of the Lord, then you can be sure that the Lord can see into the depths of your heart and see what troubles you. Trust in Him. What I have found out through the course of my life is that pushing back against or running from problems usually just results in us taking a short cut back to meet them.

Don't see yourself as others see you. That's the definition of ego, and the human ego is a horrible thing. Instead sister, see yourself as God sees you. Pray to Him to be shown yourself as He sees you, and allow Him to work through you for His greater purpose. You are so much stronger than you know. Be well my sister in Christ.
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this response was the best to me and you understood what I was saying. Thank you brother I will fight
 
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Shpadoinkle

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godsslife said:
this response was the best to me and you understood what I was saying. Thank you brother I will fight
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*fistbump* I got your back girl. Keep faith in God and keep MJ on your playlist. Thanks to you, I have had his music on my paylist a LOT recently.
 
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godsslife said:
I hate that god gave me beauty because it has given me the wrong decisions in life and even made me sin.. I sometimes wish I was a regular looking person or a person most men dont give attention to i know this is a stupid post or whatever but its a random thought ... Im grateful for it but the same time I don't enjoy it that much .. I dont mean to sound conceited or anything
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True beauty is to be teachable.
 
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godsslife

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Shpadoinkle said:
*fistbump* I got your back girl. Keep faith in God and keep MJ on your playlist. Thanks to you, I have had his music on my paylist a LOT recently.
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awesome :) and oh my really?? that makes me real happy. Listen to his dangerous album its my fav forever
 
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You simply have more problems when you're beautiful. You have to watch out with rapists and people that try to take advantage of you and you get more temptation if you're open for that. One girl who went to our church is so stunningly beautiful. She's gonna do the Miss Holland contest this year. Have her as a Facebook friend. She doesn't go to church anymore. Every time another beautiful pic and those eeeww guys responding, that whole world she's in. She lets herself be treated like a piece of meat. Such a pity. She's really lovely. It's not always a blessing. Guess it's like money. A poor person will say what are you complaining about to a millionair, but it can be a snare.
Try to look more plain, put a knot in, don't use make up, wear guy's clothes and less guys will bother or tempt you.
 
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Miri

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It's a little disappointing that the people who replied you are attractive, are the
ones who you said thank you to and felt understood you. But the ones
who attemted to offer spiritual advice while not pandering to you, were
either ignored or labelled as sarcastic.

I don't think you are actually seeking spiritual advice, maybe you are just
fishing for compliments?

But if I have got this wrong I apologise and by all means let us know if
there is anything we can pray about for you.
 
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Miri

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Shpadoinkle said:
*fistbump* I got your back girl. Keep faith in God and keep MJ on your playlist. Thanks to you, I have had his music on my paylist a LOT recently.
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Hi S,

Something has bothered me about this post, are you messaging each other?

Just wondered as I don't think it's a good idea. A young 17 year old (she said in
another post she is not 18 for a few months) comes on and says she is having problems
the tone implies with men.

And a 31 year old man who is a complete stranger to her says I have got your back.

If anyone has her back it should be her parents, family Jesus, not a complete
strange man who knows nothing about her.

Some of her other posts give an inkling of the issues, maybe it would be better
not to encourage an impressionable 17 year old too much - just saying.
 
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godsslife

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Miri said:
It's a little disappointing that the people who replied you are attractive, are the
ones who you said thank you to and felt understood you. But the ones
who attemted to offer spiritual advice while not pandering to you, were
either ignored or labelled as sarcastic.

I don't think you are actually seeking spiritual advice, maybe you are just
fishing for compliments?

But if I have got this wrong I apologise and by all means let us know if
there is anything we can pray about for you.
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Yea youre very wrong .. And "us" i think you're speaking for yourself .. I responded to most thank you because ive seen them before on my posts and they were actually kind and gave me real advice unlike others i dont really call that advice most just gave an opinion of my character when they have no idea how i am.. instead of helpful advice .. I dont know maybe its me or the words they chose .. But i suggest next time you have an assumption you should maybe think about it before writing it to a stranger and just because i didnt answer some people and i posted on here doesnt mean anything . and if you seen some of my threads before i dont answer to most people if i find them to be fake christians or critical people who call themselves christians .. I suggest you stick to praying for me if you dont mind and i hope youre not trolling . god bless..
 
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Miri

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Hi goddslife, just to let you know I am praying for you. :)
 
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godsslife

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Miri said:
Hi S,

Something has bothered me about this post, are you messaging each other?

Just wondered as I don't think it's a good idea. A young 17 year old (she said in
another post she is not 18 for a few months) comes on and says she is having problems
the tone implies with men.

And a 31 year old man who is a complete stranger to her says I have got your back.

If anyone has her back it should be her parents, family Jesus, not a complete
strange man who knows nothing about her.

Some of her other posts give an inkling of the issues, maybe it would be better
not to encourage an impressionable 17 year old too much - just saying.
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You're the one with impure thoughts as those and now i have a feeling youre trolling. I will pray for you and i suggest you go to another site that has your type of rules .. If youre a christian then im celine dions twin sister..
 
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Are you tired of attracting shallow people? It sad when you realize in the end that they just want to use you or get something from you. But you have a choice not to allow them to abuse you. God gives wisdom and discernment to those who are humble enough to ask. Use your gifts for His glory alone and you will never go wrong.
 
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godsslife

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Are you tired of attracting shallow people? It sad when you realize in the end that they just want to use you or get something from you. But you have a choice not to allow them to abuse you. God gives wisdom and discernment to those who are humble enough to ask. Use your gifts for His glory alone and you will never go wrong.
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Thank you sister. Wise words. God bless
 
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Miri

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Incidentally if you call anyone who disagrees with you a troll, you
might just find a wee problem on here.

There are many people on here who can offer support and pray for you, but
they won't appreciate being called trolls just because they chose to be honest with
you. I think you might be confusing CC with Facebook.

We all need a dose of straight forward talking and honestly every now and again
no matter what the age of the person. For example looking at your posts if
i am being honest with you, I think you need to be careful about getting too
friendly with males who are within your preferred older age group.

Fire added to fire makes things worse not better.

Unless it is the fire of the Holy Spirit. :)
 
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godsslife

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Miri said:
Incidentally if you call anyone who disagrees with you a troll, you
might just find a wee problem on here.

There are many people on here who can offer support and pray for you, but
they won't appreciate being called trolls just because they chose to be honest with
you. I think you might be confusing CC with Facebook.

We all need a dose of straight forward talking and honestly every now and again
no matter what the age of the person. For example looking at your posts if
i am being honest with you, I think you need to be careful about getting too
friendly with males who are within your preferred older age group.

Fire added to fire makes things worse not better.

Unless it is the fire of the Holy Spirit. :)
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Youre putting words in my mouth.. Never said i dont chose honesty... I think youre the one who is incorrect here. In now way youre giving me advice or making me feel youre helping me. There have been people who have been honest to me and helped me and never have said the things you have and im not sensitive or anything but im also helping you here so you start thinking about how you help people.. And i dont call anyone who disagrees with me troll thats just ignorant and thats how it tells me youre joking or something because youre a bit unlogical.. Anyways i hope the best for you sister
 
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Miri

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Hope the best for you too. :)
 
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Miri

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Ps All I know is that if I had a 17 year old daughter who said she had problems
due to her attractiveness which had caused her to sin, who then posts
elsewhere that she likes older men, had a problem with porn
and who then appears to be messaging an older man on a chat website, I would
be worried for her.

Do you see the difference now between trolling and concern.
We have to look out for each other.

As I said, hope the best for you too :)
 
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skylove7

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Lol are you still carrying this on today?
You wanna see beautiful...that my heart is going to cry for?
Try looking at Jesus on the cross!
Better yet...if your beauty makes you so sad.
Why don't you visit the childrens burn unit at your local hospital.

Today is about the beauty of Christ.

Best wishes to your posting the fact that your beautiful, but doing it in a deceiving waym
Like you don't like it.

I know...I know

You are going to offer prayer to my unkindness
Please do....
I'm so worried about where I'm going...rollseyes
 
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