help!

[ChristianTeen]

So it seems like i'm having an abundance of guys hitting on me lately, especially ones that aren't my type. how do i tell them i'm not interested without being overly rude? Some of them are a little rude themselves, but i don't want to be rude in return. yet i'm not always interested in them. what do i do?

 

[AmongTheChosen]

tell them your sorry but your not interested...quick and to the point i think works best

 

[goth4god]

gah! I have had that happen to me as well. at first I was all weird about telling them since Im kinda shy and always nice to ppl, but then I realized I just have to be blunt with them.

 

[Dread_Zeppelin]

This is my best approach for anyone hitting on me. Most men find it so hard to come up to a girl and they fear rejection so don't crush their spirits (they are delicate like flower!)

"I am so flattered! Unfortunately I'm not interested *pat shoulder here* Thank you, though, that made my day!"

 

[eugenius]

Always tell them the truth. I already had someone waste two years of my life by not being entirely honest with me. Politeness and proprieties do not help in these situations. Only the whole truth, and nothing but.

 

[Not_The_Righteous]

Just be honest with them. Thanks, but no thanks - that kinda thing. Learning to be rejected is good for men. Especially ones that don't have very much experience with things not going their way.

 

[Ashton]

This is my best approach for anyone hitting on me. Most men find it so hard to come up to a girl and they fear rejection so don't crush their spirits (they are delicate like flower!)

"I am so flattered! Unfortunately I'm not interested *pat shoulder here* Thank you, though, that made my day!"

LOL Don't make me round-house you through the screen, Dread.

 

[Maddog]

If he tries to buy you a drink tell him ''Thanks, but I'd rather just have the money''.

 

[Matthew]

So it seems like i'm having an abundance of guys hitting on me lately, especially ones that aren't my type. how do i tell them i'm not interested without being overly rude? Some of them are a little rude themselves, but i don't want to be rude in return. yet i'm not always interested in them. what do i do?

I'm not wise on the subject but I would say it's important to respond to them in the same way they approach you, without being rude.

Some guys are confident without cause and think that because they are the one asking is enough reason for you to say yes, speak firmly in how you say no because some over-bearing guys take anything less as an invitation to keep asking, be clear the first time so they don't come back.

You should be able to tell by how they approach you whether they are that type of guy or not.

 

[Ashton]

I'm not wise on the subject but I would say it's important to respond to them in the same way they approach you, without being rude.

Some guys are confident without cause and think that because they are the one asking is enough reason for you to say yes, speak firmly in how you say no because some over-bearing guys take anything less as an invitation to keep asking, be clear the first time so they don't come back.

You should be able to tell by how they approach you whether they are that type of guy or not.

Wow. Again I agree. Good post. I guess the old adage is true. Great minds do think alike...

 

[goth4god]

I just had the most stupidest encounter ever with a guy hitting on me. we met in here and he lives in the same state as I do and he seemed pretty nice and was moving to a town near me, so I give him my number and tell him he can text me. (yes I do admit this was a bit stupid but I have met quite a few nice ppl on here that I text regularly)... well every time he texted me he would randomly out of the blue hit on me, I kept telling, from day one so I was not leading him on in any way, he wasnt my type and that I was not interested, and then finally tonight he randomly texted me "why are you so mean to me? why wont you be my girl? you sure are picky for someone who has never dated." (I'm not picky but I do have standards, I am not just going to date the first guy who asks me out, it has to be a guy God sent me) and that did it. I went all 'rude' on him. told him I did not like him like that, that I could date whoever I wanted and he was wasting his time if he was trying to get me to date him. well then he simply gets super jerk-like and says "whatever, I have had it I am too Godly to put up with your nonsense." well that made me mad and I told him to have a nice life. but seriously, where does he get off by saying he is too 'godly' when he can not even respect me and stop hitting on me. but grrr, what a desperate loser!!! we didnt even have anything in common.
I think he has gotten banned from this site and I am glad, he doesnt need to harass other girls.
and I am sorry, this was kinda a rant... but at least it was on topic! ha ha

 

[Dread_Zeppelin]

LOL Don't make me round-house you through the screen, Dread.

Hey its worked everytime so far

 

[Dread_Zeppelin]

I just had the most stupidest encounter ever with a guy hitting on me. we met in here and he lives in the same state as I do and he seemed pretty nice and was moving to a town near me, so I give him my number and tell him he can text me. (yes I do admit this was a bit stupid but I have met quite a few nice ppl on here that I text regularly)... well every time he texted me he would randomly out of the blue hit on me, I kept telling, from day one so I was not leading him on in any way, he wasnt my type and that I was not interested, and then finally tonight he randomly texted me "why are you so mean to me? why wont you be my girl? you sure are picky for someone who has never dated." (I'm not picky but I do have standards, I am not just going to date the first guy who asks me out, it has to be a guy God sent me) and that did it. I went all 'rude' on him. told him I did not like him like that, that I could date whoever I wanted and he was wasting his time if he was trying to get me to date him. well then he simply gets super jerk-like and says "whatever, I have had it I am too Godly to put up with your nonsense." well that made me mad and I told him to have a nice life. but seriously, where does he get off by saying he is too 'godly' when he can not even respect me and stop hitting on me. but grrr, what a desperate loser!!! we didnt even have anything in common.
I think he has gotten banned from this site and I am glad, he doesnt need to harass other girls.
and I am sorry, this was kinda a rant... but at least it was on topic! ha ha

People who use God as their scapegoat are in for some very serious judgement. He's probably going crazy because he couldnt date a knock-out like yourself

 

[goth4god]

People who use God as their scapegoat are in for some very serious judgement. He's probably going crazy because he couldnt date a knock-out like yourself

ummm... are you hitting on me... *awkward... lol jk! XP

 

[seoulsearch]

well then he simply gets super jerk-like and says "whatever, I have had it I am too Godly to put up with your nonsense." well that made me mad and I told him to have a nice life. but seriously, where does he get off by saying he is too 'godly' when he can not even respect me and stop hitting on me. but grrr, what a desperate loser!!! we didnt even have anything in common.
I think he has gotten banned from this site and I am glad, he doesnt need to harass other girls.
and I am sorry, this was kinda a rant... but at least it was on topic! ha ha

Heh. I'm not trying to sound super-judgmental either, but... in my experience... the guys who tell you they're "too Godly" or "too spiritual" or whatever...

Are the ones going home and downloading porn in their spare time, and that's part of why they want a girlfriend yesterday.

Not true of every guy, of course.

But just an observation that usually holds true.

A good friend of mine and I were just talking about something she'd read in which there was pastor's conference that took up the entire hotel... all pastors attending this conference.

And half of the rooms had ordered porn during their stay.

 

[goth4god]

Heh. I'm not trying to sound super-judgmental either, but... in my experience... the guys who tell you they're "too Godly" or "too spiritual" or whatever...

Are the ones going home and downloading porn in their spare time, and that's part of why they want a girlfriend yesterday.

Not true of every guy, of course.

But just an observation that usually holds true.

yeah, I think the reason that comment made me so angry was that he used God as an excuse, when in reality he prolly has a horrible relationship with God.

 

[YashayahSaviour]

you sure are picky for someone who has never dated."

What a silly thing to say, haha. That is like someone saying “you sure are tired for someone who hasn’t slept” or “you sure are hungry for someone who hasn’t ate”. This person clearly does not understand the concept of a cause and effect relationship.

"whatever, I have had it I am too Godly to put up with your nonsense."

To regard someone as less worthy in the sight of the Most High because they are not “interested” in you is appalling. Once someone shows that side of themselves, there is absolutely nothing left to say; I wouldn’t waste my breath responding.

 

[zeroturbulence]

So it seems like i'm having an abundance of guys hitting on me lately, especially ones that aren't my type. how do i tell them i'm not interested without being overly rude? Some of them are a little rude themselves, but i don't want to be rude in return. yet i'm not always interested in them. what do i do?

Two things:

1) If/when they ask you out just politely decline. No one can force you to go out with them or force you to give them your number, but at the same time you shouldnt try to punish someone for showing an interest in you. IF you do, word will get around that you are a mean person and then you will have a rep and the one guy you WANT to get to know will not be interested because his friends said u are mean. You just have to learn to live with guys hitting on you.

2) In case they get too aggressive, learn a few effective self-defense techniques and demonstrate it on them.

 

[zeroturbulence]

By "punishing them" I mean giving them a cold, heartless response. That just leaves a guy with a lot of hurt. What if you really liked a guy and after working up the courage to ask him out he patted you on the shoulder and said "I'm not interested but thanks for making my day!"

 

[KingdomHeart]

So it seems like i'm having an abundance of guys hitting on me lately, especially ones that aren't my type. how do i tell them i'm not interested without being overly rude? Some of them are a little rude themselves, but i don't want to be rude in return. yet i'm not always interested in them. what do i do?

If you knew what was in their heart little one, you would be rude and God would be ok with it! Also carry a bible around, make it clear that you are armed and dangerous, and tell them you are running for president and tell them you want them to meet your parents for your first date and go to church only for the rest of your dates. For clothing atire put on lone sleaves and baggy clothing and show them your numb-chuck skills that you learned from Chuck Norris....and always have a clipped to your belt loop a can of pepper spray or mace. You can do it young one and then I know in a few years you will be mental sound when the right one does finaly come along!