Different Levels of Singleness...
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They aren't mature for turning down a desperate and apparently emotionally needy man?
The women Paul describes are not Christian women. I didn't realize you wanted the affections of THAT kind of woman...
Maybe, but you're not. Everything I said was in complete sarcasm, attempting to show how ludicrous this all sounds, but so much for you seeing that. A man can be a good man, but not ready for marriage. One of the things that will determine whether or not he is ready for marriage is if he is not behaving desperately in order to obtain it. If you are acting desperately, most women are going to run like the wind and that is a good thing. Why? Because it means that you are not yet emotionally matured. If you're immature and she's running, it means she has more maturity than you.
Wrong. Immaturity and meekness are two entirely different things and are easily distinguishable. The occasional immature woman might misinterpret a trait, but if you've got myriads of women running away from you, there is probably a very good reason. And I still can't understand why you would lament a woman not wanting you, if she's really that immature.
Some flowers also have thick stalks and leathery, tough petals. It's just the way God made them.
If you could hear yourself, I think you would reevaluate that statement.
The women Paul describes are not Christian women. I didn't realize you wanted the affections of THAT kind of woman...
Maybe, but you're not. Everything I said was in complete sarcasm, attempting to show how ludicrous this all sounds, but so much for you seeing that. A man can be a good man, but not ready for marriage. One of the things that will determine whether or not he is ready for marriage is if he is not behaving desperately in order to obtain it. If you are acting desperately, most women are going to run like the wind and that is a good thing. Why? Because it means that you are not yet emotionally matured. If you're immature and she's running, it means she has more maturity than you.
Wrong. Immaturity and meekness are two entirely different things and are easily distinguishable. The occasional immature woman might misinterpret a trait, but if you've got myriads of women running away from you, there is probably a very good reason. And I still can't understand why you would lament a woman not wanting you, if she's really that immature.
Some flowers also have thick stalks and leathery, tough petals. It's just the way God made them.
If you could hear yourself, I think you would reevaluate that statement.
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Lol they say that, but then I've read the other singles topics 
. I can see into the heart. You're very honest though unlike some women that claim to be Christian, so I believe you. I think though you're a strong woman, I think you would make a real Christian man feel appreciated. Many men will want you for your strength, but the Christian man will love you for your fragility. May God draw him closer to you with each passing day.
. I can see into the heart. You're very honest though unlike some women that claim to be Christian, so I believe you. I think though you're a strong woman, I think you would make a real Christian man feel appreciated. Many men will want you for your strength, but the Christian man will love you for your fragility. May God draw him closer to you with each passing day.
While you're in there could you remove some of that plaque buildup? I would appreciate it. It would help me avoid open heart surgery.
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Hmm I like desperate men, but there's desperate and desperate. Doesn't make it right though. If someone gets desperate for Jesus He can give you the right one, if you even want it then. You can't pull from a partner what only He can give you.
One tip when you are desperate and what I find totally unattractive is don't do as that guy I met on a dating site and added as a Facebook friend. He was kind, had a ministry, good looking, great job, counsellor, very christian, I would have considered him if he didn't have all those female friends and continually liked all those other women's pics. Who will show a guy she's interested if he's after 10 others out of desperation? That was the only one I immediately friendzoned. Most guys in Holland want to hook up btw so I don't go to these 'christian' dating sites anymore.
One tip when you are desperate and what I find totally unattractive is don't do as that guy I met on a dating site and added as a Facebook friend. He was kind, had a ministry, good looking, great job, counsellor, very christian, I would have considered him if he didn't have all those female friends and continually liked all those other women's pics. Who will show a guy she's interested if he's after 10 others out of desperation? That was the only one I immediately friendzoned. Most guys in Holland want to hook up btw so I don't go to these 'christian' dating sites anymore.
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Lol most these women ain't exactly mature themselves. See your first sentence lol.
Lol most these women ain't exactly mature themselves. See your first sentence lol.
Lol if I wanted the affection of those sort of women I wouldn't be single, now would I lol. No they're immature because they claim the good men that would love them are immature and desperate, and so rather they are like the stupid women Paul speaks about.
Lol sarcasm is very mature, right? Lol sarcasm is also lying. Also you're assuming I have tons of women running away from me. Lol that would be as much of an error as assuming there's tons of them running towards me. As for me, not interested in tons of women. You don't stay single as long as I have by chasing women up and down the earth lolz, but I am kinda flattered by this so I'll give you a "like."
Right immaturity and meekness are two different things. Perhaps this is why the women don't like a meek man, because they themselves are immature and so they accuse the men that would be good to them of being immature. And so off they go just like Paul.
Lol and they're still pretty and delicate. Poor delicate flowers, what hath the weeds done unto thee to make you hate thy tender petals?
Lol I can hear myself actually lol. I speak as I type usually and I type what I speak lol. Good attempt trying to re-evaluate my statements though lol.
Lol sarcasm is very mature, right? Lol sarcasm is also lying
. Also you're assuming I have tons of women running away from me. Lol that would be as much of an error as assuming there's tons of them running towards me. As for me, not interested in tons of women. You don't stay single as long as I have by chasing women up and down the earth lolz, but I am kinda flattered by this so I'll give you a "like."Right immaturity and meekness are two different things. Perhaps this is why the women don't like a meek man, because they themselves are immature and so they accuse the men that would be good to them of being immature. And so off they go just like Paul.
Lol and they're still pretty and delicate. Poor delicate flowers, what hath the weeds done unto thee to make you hate thy tender petals?
Lol I can hear myself actually lol. I speak as I type usually and I type what I speak lol. Good attempt trying to re-evaluate my statements though lol.
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If you'll remember, I wasn't going to, and posted that lovely DC Talk video for your listening enjoyment. But there was a very negative spirit and mindset in what was being said that I decided was best to drag out into the open.
*Giggles*
Also, I felt like it. Which is rare for me. I'm not much of an arguer.
*Giggles*
Also, I felt like it. Which is rare for me. I'm not much of an arguer.
You are right, you did not say you could see into her heart. You said you can see into the heart, a blanket statement.
While you're in there could you remove some of that plaque buildup? I would appreciate it. It would help me avoid open heart surgery.
While you're in there could you remove some of that plaque buildup? I would appreciate it. It would help me avoid open heart surgery.
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Oh and while I'm here I may as well answer the OP's question, which has been thoroughly derailed lol. Level 0 combined with level 4. (sorry for being awkward).
Serious answer: God isn't calling me to look for a wife, and if God doesn't want it, then that's good enough for me. However, it doesn't appear to be good enough for my flesh, which still rebels a little...
My real problem, if you can call it a problem, is that I have always loved the company of girls and women, but being a single man can make them a little stand-offish and suspicious of my motives in being friendly. Which is understandable. But still... I just want to be friends.
Serious answer: God isn't calling me to look for a wife, and if God doesn't want it, then that's good enough for me. However, it doesn't appear to be good enough for my flesh, which still rebels a little...
My real problem, if you can call it a problem, is that I have always loved the company of girls and women, but being a single man can make them a little stand-offish and suspicious of my motives in being friendly. Which is understandable. But still... I just want to be friends.
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This guy needs a catfish. That would prove how hard it is to see the heart.
Aaaaaand... that brings the thread back on topic! Level 9 - so desperate you will fall for any catfish swimming through the forum.
Aaaaaand... that brings the thread back on topic! Level 9 - so desperate you will fall for any catfish swimming through the forum.
And later I thought: hey what did you say? That I'm dumb? That wasn't such a great compliment hahahahahaha.
Oh and while I'm here I may as well answer the OP's question, which has been thoroughly derailed lol. Level 0 combined with level 4. (sorry for being awkward).
Serious answer: God isn't calling me to look for a wife, and if God doesn't want it, then that's good enough for me. However, it doesn't appear to be good enough for my flesh, which still rebels a little...
My real problem, if you can call it a problem, is that I have always loved the company of girls and women, but being a single man can make them a little stand-offish and suspicious of my motives in being friendly. Which is understandable. But still... I just want to be friends.
Serious answer: God isn't calling me to look for a wife, and if God doesn't want it, then that's good enough for me. However, it doesn't appear to be good enough for my flesh, which still rebels a little...
My real problem, if you can call it a problem, is that I have always loved the company of girls and women, but being a single man can make them a little stand-offish and suspicious of my motives in being friendly. Which is understandable. But still... I just want to be friends.
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