Different Levels of Singleness...
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GIS as your fellow brother in Christ, I detect you are very bitter that no "Christian" women has shown you interest lets say and that when you try to open up to them, they may have rejected you. I understand it is frustrating, but don't lose hope!
.....I don't know about the 2 Tim 3 verse referring to Christian women, b/c if a Christian woman were truly grounded in Christ they wouldn't follow that sort of sinful fellow described therein....so in other words they aren't Christian women to begin with but sort of "religious women" of which there is a difference of going thru the motions vs true Christian women always obeying Christ and firmly grounded in Him... So I have to agree with crosstweed that the passage was not talking about "true Christian women" but "religious Christian women" who say/do the right things but when push comes to shove, cave to sinfulness....b/c all they had was religious show and not true conviction....we need to pray for God's will for our lives and also pray for these 2 Tim 3 type women to truly come to Christ and not wish upon them to meet some weird guy....
See you think I wish this upon Christian women. I thought I all ready made the point rather that they're not though they might call themselves that. Maybe some just have their conscious seared and feel within themselves these verses speak about them. Sure I wish they turn back, kinda doubt it though, that's rather the point of that verse and chapter.
Lol nah, they don't want that lol. See how when a man stands strong asserting his beliefs he is hated?
As for you, because you alone have wished good for me here, praise Jesus and may he comfort you of your frustrations and grant you your hope, praise Jesus.
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i think the issue is that people generalize.
when i was younger and had little to no self esteem, i placed all men in the same category. "all they want is a hot girl. forget her having a mind she actually uses. if she's not pretty, he's not interested." in my mind, all guys were like this, so i felt like i had NO chance because i felt i brought nothing of worth to the table. no one could convince me otherwise.
was this fair? no, but i didn't bother trying to think otherwise.
so GiS, to say christian women do not want christian men is to generalize. or so that's what i'm reading. of course, tone gets lost in writing, so forgive me if i'm totally misunderstanding.
when i was younger and had little to no self esteem, i placed all men in the same category. "all they want is a hot girl. forget her having a mind she actually uses. if she's not pretty, he's not interested." in my mind, all guys were like this, so i felt like i had NO chance because i felt i brought nothing of worth to the table. no one could convince me otherwise.
was this fair? no, but i didn't bother trying to think otherwise.
so GiS, to say christian women do not want christian men is to generalize. or so that's what i'm reading. of course, tone gets lost in writing, so forgive me if i'm totally misunderstanding.
They asked why they running out of eligible men, I answered, they took umbrage because their conscious is seared. So 2 Timothy 3:6, how true it be.
You're always very nice and genuine lady melita, I forgive you for your misunderstanding of course. Many men today are like that lady melita, you would not be wrong. That's okay though, I bless the name of the Lord greatly for you lady melita because you appreciated a good Christian man and his family greatly loves you all ready. May you be married soon and may Jesus grant your marriage happiness all the days of your life.
You're always very nice and genuine lady melita, I forgive you for your misunderstanding of course. Many men today are like that lady melita, you would not be wrong. That's okay though, I bless the name of the Lord greatly for you lady melita because you appreciated a good Christian man and his family greatly loves you all ready. May you be married soon and may Jesus grant your marriage happiness all the days of your life
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Sigh, you really think that's gonna earn you what you wanted? You wanted a real Christian girl, but you're pushing almost everyone away with your bitterness.
But then again, your definition of a real Christian girl is someone who will not be creeped out by your desperation, and someone who will deny it, right?
For the record: No one asked why we're running out of eligible men (because we're not, that was meant as a joke). You just felt obliged to throw your emotional responses out there hurting the rest of us. Hurting people hurt people.
But then again, your definition of a real Christian girl is someone who will not be creeped out by your desperation, and someone who will deny it, right?
For the record: No one asked why we're running out of eligible men (because we're not, that was meant as a joke). You just felt obliged to throw your emotional responses out there hurting the rest of us. Hurting people hurt people.
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Well.... This has all been very interestin to say the least....
I will say this..... I think that both sides, the young ladies ( tips hat) and the fellas, that would be us scoundrels, have all had something happen in their lives that has " molded" their thought process about relationships to a point that i don't think we realize what that is until we start talkin to other people about it.. Is there a right and wrong answer? I don't think so because no one is affected the same way by the same thing. I do offer this though, if you do meet someone that " catches your fancy" the best advise i can give, the best way to approach the whole thing..... Is listen.. Not just to the person your talking to but to yourself.. Pay attention to what your actually listening to when the other person talks. Oh well that's just how he or she is by the way they talk.... Whoa son!... They talk that way because of who they are? Or do they talk that way because of who they were made to be?... You've got to stop and really listen and have some understanding. You'd be surprised how that changes your reaction in a relationship and the different levels it will take you too.........
I will say this..... I think that both sides, the young ladies ( tips hat) and the fellas, that would be us scoundrels, have all had something happen in their lives that has " molded" their thought process about relationships to a point that i don't think we realize what that is until we start talkin to other people about it.. Is there a right and wrong answer? I don't think so because no one is affected the same way by the same thing. I do offer this though, if you do meet someone that " catches your fancy" the best advise i can give, the best way to approach the whole thing..... Is listen.. Not just to the person your talking to but to yourself.. Pay attention to what your actually listening to when the other person talks. Oh well that's just how he or she is by the way they talk.... Whoa son!... They talk that way because of who they are? Or do they talk that way because of who they were made to be?... You've got to stop and really listen and have some understanding. You'd be surprised how that changes your reaction in a relationship and the different levels it will take you too.........
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Nobody has wished any of those things on you.
Lynx has said that a catfish might help you realize that you don't know people's hearts, but he did not wish one on you.
No one has wished bitterness on you - they have simply pointed out that you already have a hint of bitterness.
No one has wished desperation on you. But your defense of desperate men and the hint of bitterness seem to indicate that you are, yourself, probably already desperate.
No one here, as far as I know, hates you, nor wishes hate upon you or in you.
Despised is a ridiculous exaggeration. I'm hardly impressed with your thoughts on romance, women, and the wooing of them, and I think you probably have some personal issues to resolve and growing to do emotionally, but I think you're probably a decent guy. Even though I think your ideas are flawed, up until this point you have been fairly civil in your responses.
Not sure why you added "lol" on there, but okay.
Lynx has said that a catfish might help you realize that you don't know people's hearts, but he did not wish one on you.
No one has wished bitterness on you - they have simply pointed out that you already have a hint of bitterness.
No one has wished desperation on you. But your defense of desperate men and the hint of bitterness seem to indicate that you are, yourself, probably already desperate.
No one here, as far as I know, hates you, nor wishes hate upon you or in you.
Despised is a ridiculous exaggeration. I'm hardly impressed with your thoughts on romance, women, and the wooing of them, and I think you probably have some personal issues to resolve and growing to do emotionally, but I think you're probably a decent guy. Even though I think your ideas are flawed, up until this point you have been fairly civil in your responses.
Not sure why you added "lol" on there, but okay.
Do you think charging people with being bitter and desperate will get you what you want?
Lol which is it; that I'm bitterly pushing all the women away or that I'm desperately trying to get with every woman in sight? It can't be both.
I don't believe I have pushed anyone away, not online and not offline, but you have. I'm a pretty accepting and forgiving guy actually, I haven't asked anyone be banned, I haven't ignored anyone, I've never unfriended people online or offline, I have wished good on all those that hate me. I don't think I'm desperate, elsewise I'd be macking on a lot more women and sycophantically agreeing with them to rack up meaningless favor points. I'd like to be married sure, but I'm also aware that I might never be and that's okay too.
Why do you keep coming at me if you wrongly think all these things about me? Is there something that you want from me? You don't have to earn it, I'll give freely.
May God open your eyes to a man that accepts and wants to understand you despite your many problems and may you be loved and cherished and doted over lovingly all your life, praise Jesus.
Lol which is it; that I'm bitterly pushing all the women away or that I'm desperately trying to get with every woman in sight? It can't be both.
I don't believe I have pushed anyone away, not online and not offline, but you have. I'm a pretty accepting and forgiving guy actually, I haven't asked anyone be banned, I haven't ignored anyone, I've never unfriended people online or offline, I have wished good on all those that hate me. I don't think I'm desperate, elsewise I'd be macking on a lot more women and sycophantically agreeing with them to rack up meaningless favor points. I'd like to be married sure, but I'm also aware that I might never be and that's okay too.
Why do you keep coming at me if you wrongly think all these things about me? Is there something that you want from me? You don't have to earn it, I'll give freely.
May God open your eyes to a man that accepts and wants to understand you despite your many problems and may you be loved and cherished and doted over lovingly all your life, praise Jesus.
Lol even in this you claim I defend desperate men. So what you trying to claim about me? No one eh? I'd disagree on that I can show you if you really want me to press it. You all don't have to beg my forgiveness though, I forgive you by default because I actually like those that despise me. I guess people just aren't used to an honest man.
Despised is not an exaggeration, I suppose an understatement though, maybe hate be the better word.
I add lol when I am generally amused. Means I am laughing.
Despised is not an exaggeration, I suppose an understatement though, maybe hate be the better word.
I add lol when I am generally amused. Means I am laughing.
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I'll stop claiming you're defending desperate and unbecoming behavior when you stop defending desperate and unbecoming behavior.
What am I trying to claim about you? Hm. I thought I stated my opinion of you pretty clearly in my last post.
Well, I guess I can only speak for myself, but I hardly hate you. I can get your frustration, but personally, I think all these claims that people hate and despise you are a little melodramatic.
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Thank you. I appreciate your generous spirit.
What am I trying to claim about you? Hm. I thought I stated my opinion of you pretty clearly in my last post.
Well, I guess I can only speak for myself, but I hardly hate you. I can get your frustration, but personally, I think all these claims that people hate and despise you are a little melodramatic.
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Thank you. I appreciate your generous spirit.
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