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As others have posted, there is absolutely nowhere in scripture that even implies, much less declares outright, that persons should not date or marry inter-racially.
You are definitely in a bind because of your family's stance on inter-racial relationships. Depending on how strong their feelings are on the situation at worst you risk losing your family if you decide to proceed with a relationship, or at least you risk your family never welcoming her into the family which can potentially cause long term problems in your relationship with her if it were to proceed forward.
I really have no words of wisdom on this situation other than to say, count the cost.
Some excellent feedback. Sometimes I don't like the restriction on giving one person more than one rep at a time. Oh well. You know who you are. 
To the OP:
Perhaps you could do a little research, and teach your family what the Bible really says about race, particularly in Christ. Then they might be willing to accept your girlfriend. Pray first though!
To the OP:
Perhaps you could do a little research, and teach your family what the Bible really says about race, particularly in Christ. Then they might be willing to accept your girlfriend. Pray first though!
I'm just saying you feel you can get your meaning across one way, and this other man feels that wouldn't happen unless he demonstrated the extent of the prejudice his family verbally expresses.
I would rather have that, than, after a half dozen more posts back and forth, we finally get to the real depth of the sickness in his family.... and someone here ends up saying, "Well, why didn't you make that plain to us in the first place?" I think that is precisely what he was trying to do.
We often seem to cloud common sense with the supposed emotional protection of forcing conversation to be super-PC. And that is kind of foolishly obtuse.
I would rather have that, than, after a half dozen more posts back and forth, we finally get to the real depth of the sickness in his family.... and someone here ends up saying, "Well, why didn't you make that plain to us in the first place?" I think that is precisely what he was trying to do.
We often seem to cloud common sense with the supposed emotional protection of forcing conversation to be super-PC. And that is kind of foolishly obtuse.
Let's see here...
She's black, I'm white.
-We have prayed together.
-We've gone to church together.
-We've read Scripture together.
-We talk about our faith with each other.
White Christian couples can do this. Black Christian couples can do this.
You and this gal can do this.
Scripture? We're all made in the image of God. After regeneration, we're children of God.
She's black, I'm white.
-We have prayed together.
-We've gone to church together.
-We've read Scripture together.
-We talk about our faith with each other.
White Christian couples can do this. Black Christian couples can do this.
You and this gal can do this.
Scripture? We're all made in the image of God. After regeneration, we're children of God.
Let's see here...
She's black, I'm white.
-We have prayed together.
-We've gone to church together.
-We've read Scripture together.
-We talk about our faith with each other.
White Christian couples can do this. Black Christian couples can do this.
You and this gal can do this.
Scripture? We're all made in the image of God. After regeneration, we're children of God.
She's black, I'm white.
-We have prayed together.
-We've gone to church together.
-We've read Scripture together.
-We talk about our faith with each other.
White Christian couples can do this. Black Christian couples can do this.
You and this gal can do this.
Scripture? We're all made in the image of God. After regeneration, we're children of God.
S
Moses was married to a woman of differing race.
Rahab was a Caananite, and is counted in Christ's genealogy.
Ruth was a Moabitess, and is counted in Christ's genealogy.
Therefore, Christ Himself (the human) would not be considered racially pure.
Peter's vision and subsequent ministry to the household of Cornelius shows that Christ shows no distinction between Gentile and Jew...therefore, why should we?
One of Paul's most influential disciples was the son of Greek man and a Jewish woman, and was only circumcised just to shut the Judaizers up, despite the fact that as a Christian, Timothy did not identify as a Jew, but as a Gentile.
If Yahweh DID expect everyone to remain racially pure (which He does not), then you need only look at Christ's genealogy to show that Christ was therefore NOT perfect in God's eyes, and then could not be completely sinless. If Christ is not sinless, then His death has no power to impute justification to us, as He himself would need a savior. To say that God demands racial integrity discredits Christ's own sinless perfection.
Furthermore, if we are to believe that God were to demand racial perfection, then one would have to infer that if salvation came through Christ (which we already have established that salvation CAN'T come through Christ if God demands racial purity), then salvation likely would only be available to the Jews, as Christ was (mostly) a Jew. One could then easily skew His teachings to prove that salvation exists only for the Jews, and not any other race.
So, still wanna ride that pony, knowing that the argument leads to the disqualification of your own salvation if you're not a Jew? (Let alone a purebred Jew with no Gentile intermixing at all in your bloodline...)
Rahab was a Caananite, and is counted in Christ's genealogy.
Ruth was a Moabitess, and is counted in Christ's genealogy.
Therefore, Christ Himself (the human) would not be considered racially pure.
Peter's vision and subsequent ministry to the household of Cornelius shows that Christ shows no distinction between Gentile and Jew...therefore, why should we?
One of Paul's most influential disciples was the son of Greek man and a Jewish woman, and was only circumcised just to shut the Judaizers up, despite the fact that as a Christian, Timothy did not identify as a Jew, but as a Gentile.
If Yahweh DID expect everyone to remain racially pure (which He does not), then you need only look at Christ's genealogy to show that Christ was therefore NOT perfect in God's eyes, and then could not be completely sinless. If Christ is not sinless, then His death has no power to impute justification to us, as He himself would need a savior. To say that God demands racial integrity discredits Christ's own sinless perfection.
Furthermore, if we are to believe that God were to demand racial perfection, then one would have to infer that if salvation came through Christ (which we already have established that salvation CAN'T come through Christ if God demands racial purity), then salvation likely would only be available to the Jews, as Christ was (mostly) a Jew. One could then easily skew His teachings to prove that salvation exists only for the Jews, and not any other race.
So, still wanna ride that pony, knowing that the argument leads to the disqualification of your own salvation if you're not a Jew? (Let alone a purebred Jew with no Gentile intermixing at all in your bloodline...)
I've seen tons of threads asking whether it's ok to date/marry someone of a different race.
But I don't ever think I've seen a thread about whether or not it's ok to adopt children from another race... (I know that question is clearly answered in the posts here as well, but still... I see it as an interesting twist.)
My parents have a few kids who are not the same race as they are. I happen to be one of them. And neither myself nor my siblings married anyone who was the same race as themselves. Although I am no longer married, I have never dated anyone who is of the same race as I am.
This wasn't because of any special preference, but more about proximity. The only guys (maybe 4, at most?) I've met who were the same race (and there were very few of them) were taken, just a good friend, or rejected me because I'm not a "pure" Asian (because I'm adopted, have a bloodline that's "tainted", and do not come from a traditional Asian family.) I could not marry into a family who did not accept me for who I am and wanted me to be something I'm not (a "real" Asian), but that's just my personal opinion.
I do understand what you're saying, Elijah, because although my family adopted me, certain older members of my family have the same feelings as what you described in your original post. Some races are "ok" and some are "forbidden", which grieves my heart terribly. But my parents are accepting of anyone, and to me, that's what would count the most.
I once dated someone who was on my older family's "unapproved" list of races, and I brought him to Christmas dinner. I told my family in advance that if anyone there so much as looked at him funny, we would be gone in the blink of an eye, because I wasn't subjecting him to that nonsense. But my thinking at the time was, My sibling's dates are being accepted (they were on the "approved race" list)--therefore, I'm going to try my best for equal treatment. Our relationship didn't work out, but my parents treated him as part of the family while we were together.
It is what it is. God's taught me to be me--and I'm happiest around other people who feel the same way about themselves as well.
But I don't ever think I've seen a thread about whether or not it's ok to adopt children from another race... (I know that question is clearly answered in the posts here as well, but still... I see it as an interesting twist.)
My parents have a few kids who are not the same race as they are. I happen to be one of them. And neither myself nor my siblings married anyone who was the same race as themselves. Although I am no longer married, I have never dated anyone who is of the same race as I am.
This wasn't because of any special preference, but more about proximity. The only guys (maybe 4, at most?) I've met who were the same race (and there were very few of them) were taken, just a good friend, or rejected me because I'm not a "pure" Asian (because I'm adopted, have a bloodline that's "tainted", and do not come from a traditional Asian family.) I could not marry into a family who did not accept me for who I am and wanted me to be something I'm not (a "real" Asian), but that's just my personal opinion.
I do understand what you're saying, Elijah, because although my family adopted me, certain older members of my family have the same feelings as what you described in your original post. Some races are "ok" and some are "forbidden", which grieves my heart terribly. But my parents are accepting of anyone, and to me, that's what would count the most.
I once dated someone who was on my older family's "unapproved" list of races, and I brought him to Christmas dinner. I told my family in advance that if anyone there so much as looked at him funny, we would be gone in the blink of an eye, because I wasn't subjecting him to that nonsense. But my thinking at the time was, My sibling's dates are being accepted (they were on the "approved race" list)--therefore, I'm going to try my best for equal treatment. Our relationship didn't work out, but my parents treated him as part of the family while we were together.
It is what it is. God's taught me to be me--and I'm happiest around other people who feel the same way about themselves as well.