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Hi goddslife,
I was thinking about this thread today at work. I hope I'm not just rehashing something others have said--I've tried to keep up but may have missed a few posts.
I was thinking of some of the times when a person's looks (or the results that came with it) are mentioned in the Bible.
I truly believe beauty is a gift from God. For reasons unknown to us, God gives different gifts in different amounts to different people (just like money and intelligence), but of course, all gifts from God are good and can be used for His glory.
Here are some examples I was thinking of:
* Sarah, the wife of Abraham, and Rebekah, the wife of his son Isaac, were beautiful. However, this caused them much grief because other men noticed them, too, and you know what their husbands did? They each said, "Here, you can have her--she's not my wife, she's my sister. Just don't kill me and you can take her."
But God remembered these women and saved them. They must have been VERY beautiful, because they were catching the eyes of men of power, prestige, and wealth, and these were the kinds of men who wanted the best and most beautiful of everything.
* Joseph was noticed by Potipher's wife because the Bible says he was "well-built, and handsome"--and then spent 2 years in prison because he refused her and she falsely accused him.
I have often wondered if these well-known Biblical figures had days when they wished they were "plain" enough to not be noticed in this way.
Your post also reminded me of 2 people I used to know:
* One was extremely good-looking, but had gone through much abuse from a young age because of it, then got into drug abuse in order to cope, and eventually learned to use their looks to manipulate others for drugs. This person enjoyed the advantages they received from their looks, but felt as if no one ever saw them as more than a hollow shell.
* The second person I'm thinking of was formerly very good-looking, and did not start out as a Christian. In their younger days, this person spent all their time and energy attracting the opposite sex--it was common for them to go to a party with one person and then leave with someone else.
By the time this person became a Christian and got married, they had put on about 60 pounds and the signs of aging, such as gray hair, wrinkles, and aging (partially due to the party lifestyle, heavy smoking, etc.) had set in. But this person said that although they missed the attention from their former years, it was also a blessing because the lack of attention helped keep this person faithful to their spouse.
Now, I am not in any way saying trying to say that any of this applies to your own life!! But what I'm trying to say is, there are definitely others who feel the way you do, have the same questions, and are struggling with the same things as you. Do you have a home church where you might be able to talk to someone about these feelings? I know that finding someone who can relate is always helpful.
If nothing else, know that even people in the Bible may have struggled with what you're dealing with right now, and God Himself surely understands as well. I hope you find peace in telling Him all your pains, worries, and struggles, and I will be praying for you as well.
Thank you for sharing with us, and God bless.
I was thinking about this thread today at work. I hope I'm not just rehashing something others have said--I've tried to keep up but may have missed a few posts.
I was thinking of some of the times when a person's looks (or the results that came with it) are mentioned in the Bible.
I truly believe beauty is a gift from God. For reasons unknown to us, God gives different gifts in different amounts to different people (just like money and intelligence), but of course, all gifts from God are good and can be used for His glory.
Here are some examples I was thinking of:
* Sarah, the wife of Abraham, and Rebekah, the wife of his son Isaac, were beautiful. However, this caused them much grief because other men noticed them, too, and you know what their husbands did? They each said, "Here, you can have her--she's not my wife, she's my sister. Just don't kill me and you can take her."
But God remembered these women and saved them. They must have been VERY beautiful, because they were catching the eyes of men of power, prestige, and wealth, and these were the kinds of men who wanted the best and most beautiful of everything.
* Joseph was noticed by Potipher's wife because the Bible says he was "well-built, and handsome"--and then spent 2 years in prison because he refused her and she falsely accused him.
I have often wondered if these well-known Biblical figures had days when they wished they were "plain" enough to not be noticed in this way.
Your post also reminded me of 2 people I used to know:
* One was extremely good-looking, but had gone through much abuse from a young age because of it, then got into drug abuse in order to cope, and eventually learned to use their looks to manipulate others for drugs. This person enjoyed the advantages they received from their looks, but felt as if no one ever saw them as more than a hollow shell.
* The second person I'm thinking of was formerly very good-looking, and did not start out as a Christian. In their younger days, this person spent all their time and energy attracting the opposite sex--it was common for them to go to a party with one person and then leave with someone else.
By the time this person became a Christian and got married, they had put on about 60 pounds and the signs of aging, such as gray hair, wrinkles, and aging (partially due to the party lifestyle, heavy smoking, etc.) had set in. But this person said that although they missed the attention from their former years, it was also a blessing because the lack of attention helped keep this person faithful to their spouse.
Now, I am not in any way saying trying to say that any of this applies to your own life!! But what I'm trying to say is, there are definitely others who feel the way you do, have the same questions, and are struggling with the same things as you. Do you have a home church where you might be able to talk to someone about these feelings? I know that finding someone who can relate is always helpful.
If nothing else, know that even people in the Bible may have struggled with what you're dealing with right now, and God Himself surely understands as well. I hope you find peace in telling Him all your pains, worries, and struggles, and I will be praying for you as well.
Thank you for sharing with us, and God bless.
Thank you for the story you shared with me .. It helped me realize a bit ... And no i dont go to church ... But thank you
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And who are you? God ? Jesus? Or one of his disciples to come make a quiz out of my personality that you dont EVEN know in reali life. When i answer harsh to those its because their answers are of a 10 yr old ... Like come on grow up.. To some what im going through with my looks may be a laugh or not a problem but it is to me. A bitter old lady ? Maybe youre speaking about yourself and you dont even know it... To those that answer me with kind wise words i keep them in my heart and know god is in them.. You dont show me holiness at all.. You think everything is about me... Well thats your opinion of my online me since you dont even know me LOL .. Ill pray for you .. Thats what you need a long prayer and some outside activites
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Me too!
(I love the irony.)
(I love the irony.)
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some would see beauty where another person would disagree. To say a person is beautiful is completely subjective. Inner beauty is what a person should strive for.
So to blame beauty for wrong decisions in your life is rather immature. What one looks like has nothing to do with decisions they make. Your decisions are what makes you sin. Hopefully you are making better decisions. I saw that you said you are not attending church. If you want to change that would be the best first step.Its a lot easier to make Godly decisions when you attend church and make Christians your close friends, you attend a youth group and hear the Bible taught. All these things will help greatly if you are wanting to turn your life around.
It isn't physical looks that make people beautiful. It's how they act, how they talk, how they treat others. Good works makes the inside beautiful and a beautiful inside makes a beautiful outside.
Pride and ego make people ugly, much uglier than than physical looks do. You are very pretty but those looks will fade as you get older. Then your face will blend in instead of stand out. You say you hate that God gave you beauty because it garners negative attention. God gave ALL of us beauty, it's up to us to do what we will with it. But putting on makeup to impress guys, or dressing provocatively to get attention, is NOT beauty. It's vanity, pride, ego, and a desperate desire to be noticed. The ONLY one who needs to notice you is GOD.
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when i get my new body, i'm gonna ask for an ugly 1 so i can see what the rest of you feel like....
this might be helpful:
narcissism
ˈnɑːsɪsɪz(ə)m,nɑːˈsɪs-/
noun
noun: narcissism
this might be helpful:
narcissism
ˈnɑːsɪsɪz(ə)m,nɑːˈsɪs-/
noun
noun: narcissism
- excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance.
- Psychology
extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one's own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterizing a personality type.
- Psychoanalysis
self-centredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects, either in very young babies or as a feature of mental disorder.
- Psychology
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It's hard to stay humble when you're as good as me, so beautiful, charming and friendly, you see that immediately. I think when Ilook in the mirror: that's an awesome guy. It's hard to humble for a guy so talented.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DByDafyGzlY
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DByDafyGzlY
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I did something really embarrassing two weeks ago. I am so glad it doesn't resurface on this site like this poor post. Isn't this far past "enough is enough?" It was embarrassing. Everyone moved on. I can't believe someone brought it back to the surface.
Enough already. Let it sink where no one will find it again, even if Godss doesn't yet get why this is embarrassing. Isn't that what we'd all want when we do something embarrassing?
Enough already. Let it sink where no one will find it again, even if Godss doesn't yet get why this is embarrassing. Isn't that what we'd all want when we do something embarrassing?
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