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lookwhatthelordhasdone

lookwhatthelordhasdone

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coby2 said:
A guy with a truck and you expect him to hold doors open for you?
Don't think that's gonna happen. Most guys here well all except a few unicorns are like that. I don't care. Just don't expect it to change.
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Heeeeeeeeeyyyyy now.

I was in a long term relationship with a guy who had a 1979 Ford F-350 and every time I rode with him, he opened my door for me.
 
Dan58

Dan58

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He just sounds a little more reserved than you are. Some guys don't like public displays of affection, so I wouldn't be put-off that he's not all touchy-feely. When you chased him out to his truck wanting to make out, he probably wasn't comfortable making a scene for the neighbors. Sometimes a simple 'good night' will suffice, making it a 10 minute emotional departure might be going a tad over-board. Sounds like he's being real, the door opening and constant hand holding are tough habits to break, so he probably doesn't want you to become reliant or dependent on that type of constant attention. Emotionally needy women are a turn off, so I'd be content with a quick goodbye hung, demanding more attention can overwhelm some guys, and you can become a job rather than a pleasure, that's when a relationship can get scary... jmo
 
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organicbeast

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Acr96 said:
So I have been dating this guy for about 2 weeks now, and we have talked everyday. I really like him! We have seen each other a hand full of times now. He likes my parents. I absolutely love his. However, he acts kinda distant toward me. Like for example he isn't like most men I have dated. He doesn't sit and put his arm around me, or even on my knee. He has only held my hand once. He doesn't open doors for me( not that he has too, but I am a little old fashioned). One of the biggest things that threw me off was tonight when he was leaving I followed him out to his truck, and he just starts walking away. So I just yelled bye in kinda of an " are you gonna hug or not tone" and turns around to hug and I lead in to kiss him and he literally turn away form it and kisses me on the cheek. It kinda hurt my feelings. I don't know how to read this guy. Does he like me or not? He was the one after all that started talking to me first. He asked me out. I don't know if I'm exspecting stuff to soon or what? Any thoughts?
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Possible that he could be closeted homosexual?
 
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Tinuviel

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I'm rather old fashioned, methinks. I'm freaking out right now because: "You've been dating for TWO weeks and you expected him to kiss you?? :eek: You mean, that's not something that people save for their engagement?" :D

I'd guess he's not comfortable taking it that fast, or doesn't want to get into any tempting situations. How do you know? Perhaps physical touch is something he struggles with. My brother and his now-fiancee dated for almost 3 years; they're getting married in June and he hasn't kissed her yet; it just depends on the couple. I suggest if it bothers you, talk to him about it! :)
 
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tourist

tourist

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I don't believe he knows how to show affection and is insensitive. You been dating this guy for 2 weeks and he hasn't kissed you yet?
 
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Pamella

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Imo, I would back off. Two weeks isn't that long and he has his reasons. It'll come out eventually.
 
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coby2

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I found this amazing guy who doesn't try to jump on me instantly.
Oh he must be homosexual.
 
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Pamella

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Maybe he doesn't want temptation to be that much easier????
 
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Utah

Utah

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Acr96 said:
So I have been dating this guy for about 2 weeks now, and we have talked everyday. I really like him! We have seen each other a hand full of times now. He likes my parents. I absolutely love his. However, he acts kinda distant toward me. Like for example he isn't like most men I have dated. He doesn't sit and put his arm around me, or even on my knee. He has only held my hand once. He doesn't open doors for me( not that he has too, but I am a little old fashioned). One of the biggest things that threw me off was tonight when he was leaving I followed him out to his truck, and he just starts walking away. So I just yelled bye in kinda of an " are you gonna hug or not tone" and turns around to hug and I lead in to kiss him and he literally turn away form it and kisses me on the cheek. It kinda hurt my feelings. I don't know how to read this guy. Does he like me or not? He was the one after all that started talking to me first. He asked me out. I don't know if I'm exspecting stuff to soon or what? Any thoughts?
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Sorry, my Sister, but it seems as though his heart is not in it. When a man has the opportunity to be affectionate with the woman of his heartfelt desires, he's going to seize the moment and in fact be affectionate. He's going to hold your hand, open doors, kiss you and talk for hours. Guard you heart, and in the meantime, many prayers are lifted for you.
 
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