Sometimes, thoughts like these confuse the heck outta me. Perceptions are strange and unsteady things at times.
For example, both by the way I was raised and by choice, I always try to be courteous and kind. Civility, chivalry, Christianity, a certain sense of propriety in different aspects, and a type of composure or 'proper form'.
By all means, I try to be sincere and thoughtful. The golden rule, posturing (often striving to place your best foot forward), etc... and at times have been greatly appreciated for doing so. Who doesn't want to be treated with respect? Who doesn't like a little kindness with no anterior/ulterior motive?
Yet today... it's really strange how people can be sometimes. They'll take that as 'an act'. One lady in particular, when I worked for Starbucks, apparently thought I was being sarcastic in my attempts to be 'overly nice' (which I try to be equal with everyone/treat everyone the same). She felt the need to express to me what a series of expletives I was, and then took it upon herself take those feelings to my manager and even our district manager.
#peoplebecrazysometimes
Anyway, the above managers and my co-workers were like, "Who...Reece? NAH! That's definitely not right." To which I was thankful, but that hasn't been the only interaction I've had like that. I just find it really puzzling. Is it uncommon to experience genuine courtesy? Lol/sad face
Actually, that also makes me think of a lady I ran into while waiting in line at Chipotle one time. I just came in the door (in a good mood that day) and greeted here with a big smile, "Hey, what's up?! How are you?" type thing... to which she answered semi-awkwardly...kinda did a hesitant double-take; and then was like...
"Are you just friendly, or..."
To which (I picked up on the subtle 'Are you hitting on me/what do you want?) I was like, "Nah, I'm just saying hey. Is that weird?"
She responded to that with a big smile and resounding 'no', but that people in the city had been so mean and distant in comparison to what she knew growing up in a small town. I told here I was the same, having moved around a bunch and living in many small towns. We had a cool little 5 minute convo while waiting, and then said happy good-byes as she headed out the door.
(This should be a very normal, common-courtesy type interaction that changes strangers into acquaintances.)
...and yet, again, today...I don't know. People always seem to be...I don't know...doubtful? Paranoid? Sort of... It's like we're losing our ability to act appropriately friendly toward one another.