Hey Everyone ,
Lately I've been thinking. Is there ever any reason to hang on to our insecurities? And is it even Godly to do so?
When I read stories in the Bible, I'm always fascinated by the psychology behind the characters--after all, they were real people with real personalities.
David (who eventually became king) was used to women falling for him. Some people don't realize that he had at least three wives, several concubines he abandoned (but had to provide for their entire lives), and one of his wives, Michal, even lied to her father (King Saul) in order to save David's life. And she didn't just lie, she actually made a dummy head, put it in a bed, and convinced her father that David was sleeping (just like the infamous escape from Alcatraz!!!) This woman literally risked her own life for him.
If David ever had insecurities about his swag with women, I wonder if it had all completely disappeared by the time he was gawking at Bathsheba from the rooftop. Sure, she was someone ELSE'S wife. But I have to wonder, in David's mind, was he thinking, "I Can Have Any. Woman. I. Want."? Whatever he thought at the time, it was deeply rooted enough that he went so far as to murder her husband in order to have her for himself.
In my own single life, I have a good friend who's like the big sister that thinks you can do anything. She tells me I can achieve anything in life I go after, and when it comes to dating, she's often told me, "You could have any guy you want."
And every time, I shake my head (with more than a twinge of sadness over the past) and say, "No, I can't. Because I couldn't even have the only one I wanted at the time (my ex-husband)."
This one little insecurity, in my own mind, has somehow morphed into a feeling of, "Why even try? I won't be able to keep him anyway," which I admit is probably a good reason as to why I'm still single. Yes, I realize all guys are not the same. But in my mind, I won't have enough or be enough to keep d him anyway, and so I usually wind up pushing the good guys I meet towards meeting another girl. (A good number of the great guys I met DID find girlfriends and wives, but to tell you the truth, they were all much better matches than I would have been for them, so I really have no regrets.)
I don't want to become overconfident like David.
But yet, I realize my current frame of mind isn't the healthiest either. And sometimes I hold on to those thoughts instead of giving them to God, believing that they will keep me grounded and humble.
* What insecurities do you struggle with?
* Do you ever feel like you're holding on to them, and unwilling to let them go? Why or why not?
* What is the Godly way to deal with such insecurities?
Everyone is welcome to share their thoughts.
I'm looking forward to hearing your answers.
Lately I've been thinking. Is there ever any reason to hang on to our insecurities? And is it even Godly to do so?
When I read stories in the Bible, I'm always fascinated by the psychology behind the characters--after all, they were real people with real personalities.
David (who eventually became king) was used to women falling for him. Some people don't realize that he had at least three wives, several concubines he abandoned (but had to provide for their entire lives), and one of his wives, Michal, even lied to her father (King Saul) in order to save David's life. And she didn't just lie, she actually made a dummy head, put it in a bed, and convinced her father that David was sleeping (just like the infamous escape from Alcatraz!!!) This woman literally risked her own life for him.
If David ever had insecurities about his swag with women, I wonder if it had all completely disappeared by the time he was gawking at Bathsheba from the rooftop. Sure, she was someone ELSE'S wife. But I have to wonder, in David's mind, was he thinking, "I Can Have Any. Woman. I. Want."? Whatever he thought at the time, it was deeply rooted enough that he went so far as to murder her husband in order to have her for himself.
In my own single life, I have a good friend who's like the big sister that thinks you can do anything. She tells me I can achieve anything in life I go after, and when it comes to dating, she's often told me, "You could have any guy you want."
And every time, I shake my head (with more than a twinge of sadness over the past) and say, "No, I can't. Because I couldn't even have the only one I wanted at the time (my ex-husband)."
This one little insecurity, in my own mind, has somehow morphed into a feeling of, "Why even try? I won't be able to keep him anyway," which I admit is probably a good reason as to why I'm still single. Yes, I realize all guys are not the same. But in my mind, I won't have enough or be enough to keep d him anyway, and so I usually wind up pushing the good guys I meet towards meeting another girl. (A good number of the great guys I met DID find girlfriends and wives, but to tell you the truth, they were all much better matches than I would have been for them, so I really have no regrets.)
I don't want to become overconfident like David.
But yet, I realize my current frame of mind isn't the healthiest either. And sometimes I hold on to those thoughts instead of giving them to God, believing that they will keep me grounded and humble.
* What insecurities do you struggle with?
* Do you ever feel like you're holding on to them, and unwilling to let them go? Why or why not?
* What is the Godly way to deal with such insecurities?
Everyone is welcome to share their thoughts.
I'm looking forward to hearing your answers.