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Let me first say, I am a feminist, and I have always been one. Why? Because that is how my father raised me! Despite having a tradition marriage with a stay at home wife, he always encouraged my sister and I to follow our dreams, that we could achieve anything we put our minds to in anything we wanted! And to get an education and a good career. (My sister was a lawyer!)
So that is one man, I could not do without!
My husband is someone that I could never live without. I've always managed to be financially independent in the 35 years we have been together, meaning, except for a few years, when I had to resign my position because he got transferred, I have always contributed money, even though I only worked a few days a week when the chidren were small. It made the difference in making ends meet!
So much more than money. There is companionship. He is my best friend and buddy. But he has also accepted, especially since he retired, that going to car parts stores, junk yards and looking at old broken down cars is not my thing! BUT, the fact that he is exceptionally handy at anything is an amazing bonus! My father once commented that we probably saved hundreds of thousands of dollars over the first 30 years of our marriage buying old cars, and my husband fixing them, often with parts he scrounged at an auto wrecker. And sometimes, having to fix a car besides the road, is an adventure, right?
My husband also led me to the Lord. He is very strong in the Lord and his faith is amazing! Never a doubt or fear about the love and power of God. And having him means on the occasional morning when I want to sleep in on a Sunday, he gets me going and vice versa. Now, we are talking our grandchildren to church when we are visiting them. He holds them, takes them to Sunday School and protects them.
Then there is protection. I've never worried about that much - mostly because he has always been there for me. He is bigger and much stronger than I am. And he is also a mesomorph. That is a person that is mostly muscle. Strong muscles. So I work out daily for years - weights, aerobics, etc. We go for a bike ride together, and he just passes me by. I remember going skiing with him when we were younger. He literally did nothing the whole year. I was in shape. As he passed me by doing actual circles, he said something about "I come alive when I am skiing!" Silly man! And then I went in and rested. So men are stronger, and in my case, hubby is more in shape. But still nice to know that he is there to protect me.
I was pretty independent until I got sick with RA. I pulled my weight around the house and yard. But after I got sick, he just started pulling my weight. We bought a new house with landscaping already done last year. There are roses everywhere. I can't prune because of my hands, and so he googled how to do it, and pruned them back. Now he notices roses and flowers and birds! We have a bird bath, and it was broken and tipped over, so he fixed it and he keeps water in it for the birds! This was something I never expected, but now we share our interests in gardening, although he does the hard work.
Then there was today. I had minor surgery, and I cannot put my right foot down for 2 weeks. He brought the wheelchair, helped me get up our step. Then made me lunch! Sometimes I feel like I am always receiving these days - but God has given him a heart to love and help me, even as I seem to get worse. I know he will always stand by me.
Wow! I didn't mean to rave about my husband. There are lots of other important men in my life. Like a Christian uncle who showed and demonstrated who Christ is to me when I was young. Like my sons, who showed me what men were about - that it was not a coincidence that my boys liked hockey and playing trucks, and my daughter like dolls and pretty things! They really changed my feelings about unisex and that boys and girls are identical. Nope! They are all unique, and boys are boys and girls are girls.
Great thread, glad I stumbled in here, today!
So that is one man, I could not do without!
My husband is someone that I could never live without. I've always managed to be financially independent in the 35 years we have been together, meaning, except for a few years, when I had to resign my position because he got transferred, I have always contributed money, even though I only worked a few days a week when the chidren were small. It made the difference in making ends meet!
So much more than money. There is companionship. He is my best friend and buddy. But he has also accepted, especially since he retired, that going to car parts stores, junk yards and looking at old broken down cars is not my thing! BUT, the fact that he is exceptionally handy at anything is an amazing bonus! My father once commented that we probably saved hundreds of thousands of dollars over the first 30 years of our marriage buying old cars, and my husband fixing them, often with parts he scrounged at an auto wrecker. And sometimes, having to fix a car besides the road, is an adventure, right?
My husband also led me to the Lord. He is very strong in the Lord and his faith is amazing! Never a doubt or fear about the love and power of God. And having him means on the occasional morning when I want to sleep in on a Sunday, he gets me going and vice versa. Now, we are talking our grandchildren to church when we are visiting them. He holds them, takes them to Sunday School and protects them.
Then there is protection. I've never worried about that much - mostly because he has always been there for me. He is bigger and much stronger than I am. And he is also a mesomorph. That is a person that is mostly muscle. Strong muscles. So I work out daily for years - weights, aerobics, etc. We go for a bike ride together, and he just passes me by. I remember going skiing with him when we were younger. He literally did nothing the whole year. I was in shape. As he passed me by doing actual circles, he said something about "I come alive when I am skiing!" Silly man! And then I went in and rested. So men are stronger, and in my case, hubby is more in shape. But still nice to know that he is there to protect me.
I was pretty independent until I got sick with RA. I pulled my weight around the house and yard. But after I got sick, he just started pulling my weight. We bought a new house with landscaping already done last year. There are roses everywhere. I can't prune because of my hands, and so he googled how to do it, and pruned them back. Now he notices roses and flowers and birds! We have a bird bath, and it was broken and tipped over, so he fixed it and he keeps water in it for the birds! This was something I never expected, but now we share our interests in gardening, although he does the hard work.
Then there was today. I had minor surgery, and I cannot put my right foot down for 2 weeks. He brought the wheelchair, helped me get up our step. Then made me lunch! Sometimes I feel like I am always receiving these days - but God has given him a heart to love and help me, even as I seem to get worse. I know he will always stand by me.
Wow! I didn't mean to rave about my husband. There are lots of other important men in my life. Like a Christian uncle who showed and demonstrated who Christ is to me when I was young. Like my sons, who showed me what men were about - that it was not a coincidence that my boys liked hockey and playing trucks, and my daughter like dolls and pretty things! They really changed my feelings about unisex and that boys and girls are identical. Nope! They are all unique, and boys are boys and girls are girls.
Great thread, glad I stumbled in here, today!
R
I like my husband WAY more than I like some women. I mean yeah yeah he's 'supposed' to be my best friend by default right? Thing is could I live without him? Yes. Do I want to? Nope.
I've now lived longer with him than without him. I wouldn't even know how to act.
It might sound cliche but he's the ying to my yang.
I think you get it But my point being.
I can make my own money, take care of my family , make great decisions (unemotionally) but
I love who he is as a man. The man that loves John wayne, a great steak, a day at the gun range, and the wonderful outlook of theology he brings to our conversations. I could soak up (and do) every word he says. Need him? Ok yes... To spread and pass down how wonderful he is that I know in my role as a women I can't do.
I've now lived longer with him than without him. I wouldn't even know how to act.
It might sound cliche but he's the ying to my yang.
I think you get it But my point being.
I can make my own money, take care of my family , make great decisions (unemotionally) but
I love who he is as a man. The man that loves John wayne, a great steak, a day at the gun range, and the wonderful outlook of theology he brings to our conversations. I could soak up (and do) every word he says. Need him? Ok yes... To spread and pass down how wonderful he is that I know in my role as a women I can't do.
K
If you had asked me seven years ago if I needed a man, my answer would be a resounding no! Surrounded by "Christian" men that were emotionally abusive to the women in my family I had a very hard heart when it came to men. I certainly never ever saw myself married.
Those of you who know me know that my husband changed all that for me. I tell him to this day that he single handedly changed my mind about men. And he did,in every way. He has taught me more about myself in seven years than I could ever imagine. He had so much confidence in me, certainly more than I had in myself. We work together, we are each others best friend and encouragement. He's made such a difference in my life. I finally understand why God created a man and a woman. Together there is nothing we cannot do with His help and guidance. Without my husband in my life I would have missed out on the most wonderful memories, the most deep conversations, the most happiness and love I have ever experienced. Women these men are still out there,I encourage you to keep looking. You may be overlooking a gem and most wonderful experience in your life.
p.s. My husband just asked what I was doing and I told him I was telling what a wonderful husband he is. He said "well that because you are so sweet".
Love you my sweet hubby. <3
Apparently my intent and point wasn't as obvious as I thought. With my quirky humor I was trying to say that men make life so much better and I'm grateful for the ones I know (you and several others around here most definitely included). I'm sorry you're not hearing such affirming sentiments from the woman you really want to hear them from, but like I said before a friend like you would be a blessing to anyone (even and especially when you have the courage to get in their face because they're in the wrong). May encouragement come your way.
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Well, the things you said were the very things i was waiting for someone to say. So, it seemed to me, starting your post on a negative note, and saying exactly what i was expecting someone to complain about, didn't strike me as humorous.
I'm not sure what my private situation has to do with this. But i'm assuming you're trying to place my frustrations on that as my reasons for being bothered by the way this thread has gone. I assure you it's not and the assumption that i am not able to operate outside of that private matter is not something i appreciate.
I'm not sure what my private situation has to do with this. But i'm assuming you're trying to place my frustrations on that as my reasons for being bothered by the way this thread has gone. I assure you it's not and the assumption that i am not able to operate outside of that private matter is not something i appreciate.
Let us brothers speak up and not be afraid to have a voice of reason and be men as men.
I can be calm and be firm but foremost I have a foundation to stand onto. I do believe and have done so for a very long time. I am only a man I have my weaknesses and I will fail as I do each and every day of my life. I walk with confidence that the Lord has me always. Real confidence comes from your spoken voice, your elect. Like when you go before a judge at court to testify or that you take an oath for public service it is your word and spoken from your heart and having God with you that everyone understands this. I vote, am of this republic We The People that is my own voice and on my own authority. Women and men alike have this elect it's God given.
Now that being said and being a humble man and a servant of the lord I kneel and I say to all men take a bow and be still. Let the women know that you have the knowledge and the wisdom that she too knows Him and has belief in you or to a nonbeliever something to believe into. At this you now have your fears with His judgement and you and her and all people of God can rejoice and have a foundation. Women understand this far too well but they will never, EVER tempt the Lord and savior.
So now I have said my mind and I pray that more people know that society today is to blame for separating families and causing disorder and so it makes sense that without a foundation to bring together the basic needs of trust and love and kindness with understanding, compassion, empathy, sincerity, and all virtue that women can claim that virtue. Men are strong willed and we do seek God first and we do not tempt the lord.
I am no better than anyone I just wanted to help say that men are always protecting their weaknesses but failings we all know will happen. And as a man I do not know what will happen from one moment to the next I am vigilant so I watch for signs that I can be attracted to i will admit that and so it isn't weakness i'm protecting my failings and so it's true that the Lord protects me. I want to be clean.
~Fin~
I can be calm and be firm but foremost I have a foundation to stand onto. I do believe and have done so for a very long time. I am only a man I have my weaknesses and I will fail as I do each and every day of my life. I walk with confidence that the Lord has me always. Real confidence comes from your spoken voice, your elect. Like when you go before a judge at court to testify or that you take an oath for public service it is your word and spoken from your heart and having God with you that everyone understands this. I vote, am of this republic We The People that is my own voice and on my own authority. Women and men alike have this elect it's God given.
Now that being said and being a humble man and a servant of the lord I kneel and I say to all men take a bow and be still. Let the women know that you have the knowledge and the wisdom that she too knows Him and has belief in you or to a nonbeliever something to believe into. At this you now have your fears with His judgement and you and her and all people of God can rejoice and have a foundation. Women understand this far too well but they will never, EVER tempt the Lord and savior.
So now I have said my mind and I pray that more people know that society today is to blame for separating families and causing disorder and so it makes sense that without a foundation to bring together the basic needs of trust and love and kindness with understanding, compassion, empathy, sincerity, and all virtue that women can claim that virtue. Men are strong willed and we do seek God first and we do not tempt the lord.
I am no better than anyone I just wanted to help say that men are always protecting their weaknesses but failings we all know will happen. And as a man I do not know what will happen from one moment to the next I am vigilant so I watch for signs that I can be attracted to i will admit that and so it isn't weakness i'm protecting my failings and so it's true that the Lord protects me. I want to be clean.
~Fin~
Women need men. Yes. So? They never want to do anything in a relationship, only demand and let you work clean cook raise the kids get totally exhausted and they do nothing but make impossible demand lists, at least the type that is attracted to me. The normal nice ones never were interested here in Holland although the country is full of them. They just married independant feminist women who have it all together and they do swell. Especially with small kids, since I'm lousy at raising and am used to listen and do as I'm told, but now I'm expected to raise strong willed boys, yes a man would be very handy, even a grandma for a day would be handy. Still you have to do it alone though and almost noone cares or if they do they're too old. So you just learn to do it and find out you don't really need anyone. The men I had were unwilling to help, others wanted someone without kids, so that's that. I'll just do it alone and ask God to help. When I'm with my ex and the kids, my goodness, that's simple. They just listen to dad and you can just be a mother. A pity he didn't want that when we were married. Now with another one and all of a sudden new rules, don't think that would work.
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okay well, I would not be here responding but I was asked to respond...I just find these topics can just get so...'heated' and way too personal even though this thread is supposed to be a positive one, so I'll just go positive here
My dad...patient, kind and did not hold a grudge. How did he help me? By letting me be me and being supportive and not telling me I should be this way or that way. I'm not gender confused but I won't act a certain way just to be accepted. My dad had difficult circumstances in life and he put up with a whole lot more in his marriage to my mother...that's all I'm gonna say on that one. He was protective and made a really great listener. So, I look for and need and want those traits when it comes to me...in a personal relationship
My husband is patient..has way more of that than I do, so he is a calming influence because I have an exaggerated sense of right and wrong....as he says, you can't take on the world. I find that my marriage has tempered me and in what could only be a fair turnabout...I have had the same effect.
My husband is also a good listener and gives good advice...see, I tend to need that...really need that..so God has blessed me with someone who, even though sometimes I would like to send to the moon (no worries he feels the same), I find myself attracted to over and over again.
I will say that I think people in a marriage sometimes need to sit themselves down and review their partner and appreciate them. My husband is also quite supportive and encouraging. Nobody's perfect, but the difference is we make conscious decisions about how we are going to act.
How do I know I need him? When he is not around, I hurt inside because I miss him (right now he is working away and was just back for 3 weeks) I hurt not because of anything other than him just being himself and us being together just enjoying being around each other.
You have to work on your relationship and you have to WANT to work on your relationship.
I could say lots more and about different men, but who wants to read long long posts anyway
My dad...patient, kind and did not hold a grudge. How did he help me? By letting me be me and being supportive and not telling me I should be this way or that way. I'm not gender confused but I won't act a certain way just to be accepted. My dad had difficult circumstances in life and he put up with a whole lot more in his marriage to my mother...that's all I'm gonna say on that one. He was protective and made a really great listener. So, I look for and need and want those traits when it comes to me...in a personal relationship
My husband is patient..has way more of that than I do, so he is a calming influence because I have an exaggerated sense of right and wrong....as he says, you can't take on the world. I find that my marriage has tempered me and in what could only be a fair turnabout...I have had the same effect.
My husband is also a good listener and gives good advice...see, I tend to need that...really need that..so God has blessed me with someone who, even though sometimes I would like to send to the moon (no worries he feels the same), I find myself attracted to over and over again.
I will say that I think people in a marriage sometimes need to sit themselves down and review their partner and appreciate them. My husband is also quite supportive and encouraging. Nobody's perfect, but the difference is we make conscious decisions about how we are going to act.
How do I know I need him? When he is not around, I hurt inside because I miss him (right now he is working away and was just back for 3 weeks) I hurt not because of anything other than him just being himself and us being together just enjoying being around each other.
You have to work on your relationship and you have to WANT to work on your relationship.
I could say lots more and about different men, but who wants to read long long posts anyway
Today it was just too much. I used to go to grandma on saturday, but she has to take care of my dad, my brother helps them a lot. Kids kept fighting, the oldest and youngest one, the whole day. I got sick of it. He wanted to watch soccer with dad. Great!! Here you have him. I'm with the other 2 at the lake. They never fight, because the middle one is really cute.
I myself am part Dutch My family name there is Dinder and my father is a Vanwensvein. I was never taught by my dad or my Omha how to speak Dutch I do wish I had been. I regret to say that I had never been taught anything by these people albeit how to throttle a child and brutalize I don't mean to engage that talk that Jesus keeps me in his light. I want to say that I know what you are saying and I have empathy for you. I care about what you said right there it's a shame to be a slave in a marriage and treated like a mushroom ( kept in the dark and fed manure )
Jesus has been with me since my life began and I have come to grow wise with my eyes open be that I have done my mischief and payed dearly for it that was the way my father had to overcome me to control me I didn't know a thing there was no virtue in that poor sod's life but I loved him anyhow it was hard and bitter and I kept on like that for years.
I think that life is hard it's not easy and I see folks having their lives and they do complain about the small things and I wonder, I wonder. Just know sister that there is life and happiness at your feet even if you are in a bad situation you can have Jesus he will walk with you and the spirit guide you. Lift up your eyes and see your world that you know is there and smile. Have faith
Jesus has been with me since my life began and I have come to grow wise with my eyes open be that I have done my mischief and payed dearly for it that was the way my father had to overcome me to control me I didn't know a thing there was no virtue in that poor sod's life but I loved him anyhow it was hard and bitter and I kept on like that for years.
I think that life is hard it's not easy and I see folks having their lives and they do complain about the small things and I wonder, I wonder. Just know sister that there is life and happiness at your feet even if you are in a bad situation you can have Jesus he will walk with you and the spirit guide you. Lift up your eyes and see your world that you know is there and smile. Have faith
Women need men for their strength, support and protection. I have no father figure and no brother so the only men who had influence in my life are cousins and uncles. So I grew up to be independent and not used to getting help from men. But I realized it also feels good to get help from men. You feel special and more feminine and besides you enable their instincts because the few good men like to serve the women in their lives.
If you have no man there's always others. My kid used to be so terrible with eating. He ate nothing. Once I got so sick of it, I said: if you don't eat it I'm gonna bring you to him!!!
Lol he got upset. It's a joke, it's a joke, I won't take you to him.
Yeah my raising qualities are superb. I somehow manage though.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZcJjMnHoIBI
Lol he got upset. It's a joke, it's a joke, I won't take you to him.
Yeah my raising qualities are superb. I somehow manage though.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZcJjMnHoIBI