Women Need Men

[CatHerder]

I don't like the word need in general. So let's just say that from this point on I could probably survive without ever interacting with a male human again, but life is so much more interesting and enjoyable with men around to interact with. I certainly prefer having healthy relationships with men to not having them around.

I find nothing offensive in this. Within our infrastructure - we don't need the opposite gender if we are strictly speaking in terms of, say, the lowest tiers of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.


Cinder was merely pointing out a dislike for the word "need." However, I think it is appropriately used in the OP....so, I disagree with both of you?

Furthermore, she goes on to say how boring life would be without the opposite gender around, and that it's good for men and women have healthy relationships with each other, which I DO agree with.

 

[slave]

Its not that a good man needs to love His woman, its that a sinful man needs to be a consecrated man to love well his woman. For only then can a man love his wife as his own body; and to possess understanding, that to love her is to love himself. Who after all hated their own flesh - right? That insightfully gifted man of God nourishes and churches his wife. Which equates to putting the wife first in his life in all areas, and family, and Spiritually feeds her and helps around the house.

To nourish is to feed and spiritual support; Spiritual support has many branches. We as men need to understand our wives differences and honor them not criticize them. We are not to go to the friends house and talk about the differences as a joke as we watch the ballgame. I must take it upon myself as a man to honor my wife as heirs with me in the graces of life, by washing dishes to gift her, to spend time with her and the kids and change their diapers as to gift her. Also to financially put her first as well; take her out on occasion and service her every need. This is a man who is serving His wife as Christ served the Church. We must pour ourselves out for our gemstone, and that requires we see them as a Gemstone. In turn both parties should submit to one another giving God His due and voice in it.

 

[JesusLives]

My parents both died by the time I was 12 years old. I loved my Dad as he would play with me, take me fishing, taught me that having a garden was the best way to have fresh produce. The main problem of parents dying by the age of 12 is that you end up growing up independent, well at least I did. So there were many years with not a lot of male influence and with an independent spirit men are not so much attracted to that attribute in a female. Not from being a feminist at all....

It took me a long time to figure it out but the man I needed most in my life was Jesus. I learned he loved me just the way I was but too much to let me stay that way. So as the years went by I felt the protective love that an orphan was cared for even though I moved from place to place from my invisible God who became a man on earth not just protection but eventually I learned that from His love it was so much that he wanted to save me from sin offering me salvation. So I definitely need this God/Man.

I had given up on men because I didn't fit the mold that was set and I was disappointed several times and hurt a few, but I just figured it was the way it was and I couldn't help that I was self sufficient and with God's help had made it on my own for so many years. I knew I could depend on God...

Then without expecting it a man I could rely on showed up and changed the way I thought most men were. Someone who made me laugh and was on the same page I was even after I told him all of my flaws. This man accepted me for who I was just like Jesus had and he still wanted me. It was shocking and refreshing as I could be myself and not play any games and our conversations can be honest and we both love God and want Him to be first in our lives. I asked God if I could keep this man and the answer was yes - my husband who is a wonderful and humanly real person with flaws just like me that I accept and we both can love each other unconditionally loving each other for who we are..... I like keeping things real....searched a long time for it.... God does know best.... So yes, I need some men.

 

[Angelsnow]

I have to agree,

its natural for a woman to need a man. (and vice versa). I would give my right arm to meet someone truly decent.
An old world, Old school kinda guy. Who am i kidding? Its a prayer. I've been alone a long long time. I'd love
to meet someone who I could laugh and tickle and tease unmercifully. Someone I could trust and grow old with.

I am almost 50. So its a different mindset at my age..than when i was 25. You change and mellow as you grow older. You learn men? not all are bad. (A LOT are!! , yes) but not all. Some men.. will stand the test of time. (my Dad and mom...50 yrs married) (My brother 19 yrs married). I haven't been so lucky. But I still am in the game. I have hope that one day...someone amazing will come along..and "not complete me" but "ACCEPT ME COMPLETELY", As I would him. When you are young dumb and stupid. You base everything on "looks and appearances" sadly...being shallow. ...is the idiot way of life in youth. Men AND women....both guilty of this. (i know i was).

But love? is blind. and kinda dumb. (as it should be). How else can someone last...50 yrs with you? ....if they see only the ugly parts of you. Men? some are quite incredible. True blessings in our world. And no.....*NOT ALL GOOD MEN ARE DEAD OR MARRIED*. Some good ones are still out there. And I know this. I just do.

Well...for the naysayers...being cynical will get your a good game of playing cards. SOLITARE. God answers prayer. I believe in the power of love. Its not perfect. Nor are men. (or women). There is no "fairy tale" in life. But i KNOW in my soul...there is someone out there for everyone who searches. If their heart is in the right place.

It's okay..to need someone special. Don't let anyone say otherwise.

Good Luck to all men...and women...in their quest to find love. Don't give up hope!!!!

 

[Arder_of_Hearts]

I will pray for anyone reading this thread that you do not stray from the flock and that all shall commit their life to Jesus and eternal life for whomever saves their life shall die. If you should be a sinner to stop sinning and be saved. Let it go and give everything to Jesus, all of it, and keep nothing. Do not be deceived with the flesh. If it is your home let it be that God is above your house. I understand fully my dear brothers and sisters. Keep the faith.

 

[proverbs35]

This is bittersweet, but examples like this remind me that women really do need men and men who are willing to lay down their lives for their families really do exist. Shane Green is one of those men.

Fire changes Alabama father's life - Rome - Northwest Georgia News

Fire changes Alabama father's life - Rome - Northwest Georgia News

 

[proverbs35]

This is bittersweet, but examples like this remind me that women really do need men and men who are willing to lay down their lives for their families really do exist. Shane Green is one of those men.

Fire changes Alabama father's life - Rome - Northwest Georgia News

Fire changes Alabama father's life - Rome - Northwest Georgia News

Phillip Hudgens was one of those men.

Hudgens saved his wife and daughter from an early-morning house fire, but died when he went back inside to try to get their pets.

Husband, father rescues family from fire, dies trying to save pets | AL.com

 

[Born_Again]

Well, I had originally typed this long drawn out rant about this but obviously deleted it. But Im not surprised this thread went the way it did. The whole thing just angers the crap out of me.

Best of luck to ya'll out there!

 

[proverbs35]

This is bittersweet, but examples like this remind me that women really do need men and men who are willing to lay down their lives for others really do exist.

Brent Mitchell was one of those men.

Mitchell died trying to jump a I-65 guardrail to help a trucker whose 18-wheeler was on fire.

"He was always just a genuine helper," said his wife, Monica Mitchell. "If something was wrong, he wanted to fix it."

Mitchell, a native of Madison, was a carpenter who joined the corporate world to allow his wife of 13 years to stay home with Chloe. "He just took care of us," his wife said.

His wife said he will be missed. "From the time we met, I called him my hero," she said. "He was always there for me."

Good Samaritan who died trying to assist trucker on I-65 remembered as 'genuine helper' all his life | AL.com

 

[proverbs35]

This little girl needed these two teenage boys to rescue her. Thank God they did!!!

Two teen boys chased a kidnapping suspect on their bikes and saved a 5-year-old girl.

The driver apparently knew he was being followed and gave up. He stopped at the end of the hill and let the girl out.

"[They] are our heroes. There is just no words to say," The girl's grandmother said.

Teens chase kidnapping suspect on bikes, save 5-year-old girl - CNN.com

 

[proverbs35]

This is Bittersweet too. This little boy gave his life to save his sister.

LeDarios Wylie is being hailed as a hero for saving his little sister from a car that careened into their bus stop.
The 11-year-old boy died from injuries after pushing her away from the hit-and-run driver.

11-year-old dies while saving sister during hit-and-run | FOX2now.com

He was there for her when she needed him the most.

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is there for times of trouble. Proverbs 17:17

 

[Messy]

I have to agree,

its natural for a woman to need a man. (and vice versa). I would give my right arm to meet someone truly decent.
An old world, Old school kinda guy. Who am i kidding? Its a prayer. I've been alone a long long time. I'd love
to meet someone who I could laugh and tickle and tease unmercifully. Someone I could trust and grow old with.

I am almost 50. So its a different mindset at my age..than when i was 25. You change and mellow as you grow older. You learn men? not all are bad. (A LOT are!! , yes) but not all. Some men.. will stand the test of time. (my Dad and mom...50 yrs married) (My brother 19 yrs married). I haven't been so lucky. But I still am in the game. I have hope that one day...someone amazing will come along..and "not complete me" but "ACCEPT ME COMPLETELY", As I would him. When you are young dumb and stupid. You base everything on "looks and appearances" sadly...being shallow. ...is the idiot way of life in youth. Men AND women....both guilty of this. (i know i was).

But love? is blind. and kinda dumb. (as it should be). How else can someone last...50 yrs with you? ....if they see only the ugly parts of you. Men? some are quite incredible. True blessings in our world. And no.....*NOT ALL GOOD MEN ARE DEAD OR MARRIED*. Some good ones are still out there. And I know this. I just do.

Well...for the naysayers...being cynical will get your a good game of playing cards. SOLITARE. God answers prayer. I believe in the power of love. Its not perfect. Nor are men. (or women). There is no "fairy tale" in life. But i KNOW in my soul...there is someone out there for everyone who searches. If their heart is in the right place.

It's okay..to need someone special. Don't let anyone say otherwise.

Good Luck to all men...and women...in their quest to find love. Don't give up hope!!!!

That's not true. There was noone for Paul. There was noone for Corrie ten Boom. As if only marriage makes you happy and otherwise you play spider solitaire. LOL well in a really really really rotten marriage I'd play that.
They asked me at the office: You're doing so well. How is that possible?
I'm single LOL.
A woman from church, my mother visited: Woooow!! You look so good and you're so happy, you totally changed!!! What happened?
I divorced, she said LOL.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PaV8f4nG0R0

Leave me alone.

 

[mailmandan]

 

[Messy]

A spoon. Smash on it really hard and it opens.

 

[mailmandan]

A spoon. Smash on it really hard and it opens.

Shhh... don't tell the women that. Men like to feel needed.

 

[Pipp]

I'm very thankful for the good men in my life. I wouldn't wanna imagine life without them. ♡

 

[Angelsnow]

Wow...someone is a wee bit bitter. And no thanks....Spider Solitare!!???...lol.... sounds dull. I'd much rather play Bridge. Thanks anyway. And as for "Paul"? He wasn't "searching" for love. And i think he kinda found it...in JESUS CHRIST. NO woman...could ever compare to that love once he had been touched by GOD Paul was alone by choice. NOT by circumstance He found the most amazing love, most of us, never will. He found it in the direct touch from God. Enjoy your Spider Solitare If being married to the WRONG person has given you such a bitterness. Sorry you made some horrible wrong choices. But its kinda dumb...to JUDGE all women...based on your ex. I hope someday...someone comes along..and blows your mind...with a true act of love. God knows..you need a miracle to thaw your frozen heart. Good Luck...and may God bless you!!! And may he also surprise you!!!!

 

[Angelsnow]

That's not true. There was noone for Paul. There was noone for Corrie ten Boom. As if only marriage makes you happy and otherwise you play spider solitaire. LOL well in a really really really rotten marriage I'd play that.
They asked me at the office: You're doing so well. How is that possible?
I'm single LOL.
A woman from church, my mother visited: Woooow!! You look so good and you're so happy, you totally changed!!! What happened?
I divorced, she said LOL.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PaV8f4nG0R0

Leave me alone.

QUOTE=Angelsnow;2652225]Wow...someone is a wee bit bitter. And no thanks....Spider Solitare!!???...lol.... sounds dull. I'd much rather play Bridge. Thanks anyway. And as for "Paul"? He wasn't "searching" for love. And i think he kinda found it...in JESUS CHRIST. NO woman...could ever compare to that love once he had been touched by GOD Paul was alone by choice. NOT by circumstance He found the most amazing love, most of us, never will. He found it in the direct touch from God. Enjoy your Spider Solitare If being married to the WRONG person has given you such a bitterness. Sorry you made some horrible wrong choices. But its kinda dumb...to JUDGE all women...based on your ex. I hope someday...someone comes along..and blows your mind...with a true act of love. God knows..you need a miracle to thaw your frozen heart. Good Luck...and may God bless you!!! And may he also surprise you!!!! [/QUOTE]

 

[tourist]

I have to agree,

its natural for a woman to need a man. (and vice versa). I would give my right arm to meet someone truly decent.
An old world, Old school kinda guy. Who am i kidding? Its a prayer. I've been alone a long long time. I'd love
to meet someone who I could laugh and tickle and tease unmercifully. Someone I could trust and grow old with.

I am almost 50. So its a different mindset at my age..than when i was 25. You change and mellow as you grow older. You learn men? not all are bad. (A LOT are!! , yes) but not all. Some men.. will stand the test of time. (my Dad and mom...50 yrs married) (My brother 19 yrs married). I haven't been so lucky. But I still am in the game. I have hope that one day...someone amazing will come along..and "not complete me" but "ACCEPT ME COMPLETELY", As I would him. When you are young dumb and stupid. You base everything on "looks and appearances" sadly...being shallow. ...is the idiot way of life in youth. Men AND women....both guilty of this. (i know i was).

But love? is blind. and kinda dumb. (as it should be). How else can someone last...50 yrs with you? ....if they see only the ugly parts of you. Men? some are quite incredible. True blessings in our world. And no.....*NOT ALL GOOD MEN ARE DEAD OR MARRIED*. Some good ones are still out there. And I know this. I just do.

Well...for the naysayers...being cynical will get your a good game of playing cards. SOLITARE. God answers prayer. I believe in the power of love. Its not perfect. Nor are men. (or women). There is no "fairy tale" in life. But i KNOW in my soul...there is someone out there for everyone who searches. If their heart is in the right place.

It's okay..to need someone special. Don't let anyone say otherwise.

Good Luck to all men...and women...in their quest to find love. Don't give up hope!!!!

It's more than OK to desire to find love with that special one. Pray for God to search and find the man of your heart's desire. A lot of us had our ups in downs in relationships and I agree with you that you must not give up. You wrote a very open and insightful post. I have said a prayer for you.

 

[Messy]

QUOTE=Angelsnow;2652225]Wow...someone is a wee bit bitter. And no thanks....Spider Solitare!!???...lol.... sounds dull. I'd much rather play Bridge. Thanks anyway. And as for "Paul"? He wasn't "searching" for love. And i think he kinda found it...in JESUS CHRIST. NO woman...could ever compare to that love once he had been touched by GOD Paul was alone by choice. NOT by circumstance He found the most amazing love, most of us, never will. He found it in the direct touch from God. Enjoy your Spider Solitare If being married to the WRONG person has given you such a bitterness. Sorry you made some horrible wrong choices. But its kinda dumb...to JUDGE all women...based on your ex. I hope someday...someone comes along..and blows your mind...with a true act of love. God knows..you need a miracle to thaw your frozen heart. Good Luck...and may God bless you!!! And may he also surprise you!!!!

[/QUOTE]

It only annoys me when people talk like that is the only thing that makes you happy.
You said:
"being cynical will get your a good game of playing cards. SOLITARE"
As if that is the only thing you can do when you're single or as if singles do that, it's more likely to do that when you're trapped. Corrie ten Boom and Paul had a great life. She did want to marry a guy, but she wasn't rich enough for him and God had noone else for her, but she had a great life. If God has noone it doesn't matter.
I asked Him after 2 divorces: do You want me to go back to my first ex, second ex or can I marry so and so?
He said: Marry Me, time is short, they were marrying and giving into marriage. Then I got a dream of Him and me on a sailship and He was the Captain. I'm happy. Maybe one day He has some unicorn, maybe the gift of singleness is for the rest of my life, I do not care.