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I am definitely a busy mom. I have 2 little ones & a full-time job & it can be overwhelming at times. I'm about 2 1/2 weeks post-divorce & all I can say is that I'm relieved. It's been a rough transition. A piece of advice, make time for yourself when you can. A good book, a cup of tea, exercise or just unwinding by listening to music can boost your mood. It does get easier. 
I am divorced.
I loved her so much.
She was not a christian. And I was asleep in my faith.
She cheated on me 3 times.
I prayed to God to put my heart in the mill and pulverize and kill me.
I sat in my car and was ready to go into oblivion.
I saw my two boys 5 and 7 yrs old before my eyes.
I cried convulsively.
Jesus saved me that time through the love of the childrens eyes.
I completely imobilized. I guess the guys would say im a chicken.
Well not so.
I have guarded my heart since youth to always have compassion.
I wouldnt heditate a second to use the manly violence if it was compatible
with the age of grace.
In sum:
I was personally dashed to pieces wich led to unemployment.
Wich led to my current sit.
My dear boys live in a huge villa by the sea with a new daddy and its to far to see them more than
once a month.
I see them change. There mimics. How they mimic their new role model.
Kids just take what they get and i just pray to God to show me what to do.
I spare the details but this was so evil.
He is 15 years older than she.
We had what we needed but wanted more.
All you dear friends out there.
Dont do like the brainwashed and say like in som stupid movie: "You re always two about what happens in a relationship"
I wanted to take it all on myself. It would have been the easy way.
But to blame yourself is not the same as good.
Its not christian to just load the sack without contemplation.
Adultery is always a sheap disturbed way of getting out.
But i praise the Lord. I have become his totally.
Adultery have become so normal that even christians do it and say "its just sex.
wtf
When the birds of the heart is flown out, the child of God in you is gone.
Then its replaced by the so called mature worldcitizen greybirds wich eateth up your soul and feed it
to Fallen ones.
It breaks my heart every time i hear of cheating.
Even before my own experience.
I couldnt stand watching it on tv.
I was furious and my friends wondered why.
I really dont know.
I loved her so much.
She was not a christian. And I was asleep in my faith.
She cheated on me 3 times.
I prayed to God to put my heart in the mill and pulverize and kill me.
I sat in my car and was ready to go into oblivion.
I saw my two boys 5 and 7 yrs old before my eyes.
I cried convulsively.
Jesus saved me that time through the love of the childrens eyes.
I completely imobilized. I guess the guys would say im a chicken.
Well not so.
I have guarded my heart since youth to always have compassion.
I wouldnt heditate a second to use the manly violence if it was compatible
with the age of grace.
In sum:
I was personally dashed to pieces wich led to unemployment.
Wich led to my current sit.
My dear boys live in a huge villa by the sea with a new daddy and its to far to see them more than
once a month.
I see them change. There mimics. How they mimic their new role model.
Kids just take what they get and i just pray to God to show me what to do.
I spare the details but this was so evil.
He is 15 years older than she.
We had what we needed but wanted more.
All you dear friends out there.
Dont do like the brainwashed and say like in som stupid movie: "You re always two about what happens in a relationship"
I wanted to take it all on myself. It would have been the easy way.
But to blame yourself is not the same as good.
Its not christian to just load the sack without contemplation.
Adultery is always a sheap disturbed way of getting out.
But i praise the Lord. I have become his totally.
Adultery have become so normal that even christians do it and say "its just sex.
wtf
When the birds of the heart is flown out, the child of God in you is gone.
Then its replaced by the so called mature worldcitizen greybirds wich eateth up your soul and feed it
to Fallen ones.
It breaks my heart every time i hear of cheating.
Even before my own experience.
I couldnt stand watching it on tv.
I was furious and my friends wondered why.
I really dont know.
I believe that we play our own role in the fairytale that's littered with broken dreams and promises. We have to rise above the ashes and boldly move forward. I didn't really know what I expected from my disastrous first marriage. I must've been living in a fantasy world. I'm glad that you rescued yourself. Please know that you are not alone in this type of pain. With the grace of God this too shall pass.
A
I thought I was all alone. I am recently separated with 4 beautiful kids, wanted the growing old together but didn't quite get it. It's hard, nobody tells you how hard it is, but I'm glad I have God on my side. I know some people make people like me (Christian & separated - to be divorced) feel like we don't measure up, we did something wrong. I am a believer, I love Jesus, He is my personal Lord and Savior, but I chose not to die in an abusive marriage. I am sometimes confused, lost, hurt, angry, sad, hopeful, expectant... Right now I'm raising 4 kids all by myself, help from him when it's convenient. I have laid everything at God's feet, I believe He is in control, casting all my burdens.
I take a pillow to hug.
Then i lay my leatherbible directly on my skin were the heart used to occupy space.
Then I fill myself with audio and video about God.
No im not joking.
Im serious.
I just do whatever I have to do to stay alive in the spirit.
But i completely agree.
At times you just dont know what to turn.
Like a rollercoaster of course.
And yes! Keep on praying for copious hunger for The Bible.
May God send you enogh strenght to renew and reboot.
T
Thank you for replying.
I get what you are saying about whatever it takes. I think the only reason for God doing this is to draw us closer to Him. I cannot see any other reason and I realise how far away I was before. I am not sure what I am supposed to do which I wasn't but am trying to find the answers.
God bless you and I will try the pillow
I get what you are saying about whatever it takes. I think the only reason for God doing this is to draw us closer to Him. I cannot see any other reason and I realise how far away I was before. I am not sure what I am supposed to do which I wasn't but am trying to find the answers.
God bless you and I will try the pillow
Im using up all the space here.
But you only live once as they say out there in the world and from the right viewpoint its more accurate than would have ever imagined before.
One life
Eternal or not.
It might be I am just helping myself by writing this. But thats why we are here right.
One of the hardest parts for me was that I couldnt stop to replay my whole marriage looking for answers there, blaming myself wich resulted in more pain.
The answers where far higher above the minds of men, and women.
The longing to find a nice person to live with might always be there. Many remarry.
Its the usual in that sense. To be desperate. To not focus there.
No this might be the One opportunity to follow Jesus.
For me it is.
It would be irresponsible to try to give more detailed tricks to get around.
I have been advised by the bible to whenever I m able just share and give and focus on others as a way to leave it all behind.
I gues for now thats it
plus
Work outdoors
if not
Bicycle
Run like a maniac
in other words sweat
Sweat, and read the bible and use the time and opportunities (if there are any) to read good old reliable evangelical commentaries and multiply thy understanding of the scripture and climb one step at the time.
But never let ones heart be lame and profane and hard.
Thats one of the single most important things I think. To keep the heart unpolluted by the hardness of the world.
Keep the birds locked inside the chambers of the heart.
My wicked self just want to open it up and let the winds in and sweap them away and replace it with iron.
Yes. We can be strong againg. Stronger than any giant of history.
If we fill our souls with the eternal royal blood of our lord and king and saviour Jesus Christ. All the glory to him forever.
Please God let all our words be lifted and understood by your wings. Under your feathers always amen.
And when we look back. Sit still and take a breath and remember the glorious city that is so real our present lives are like some strange corridoor in a huge fallen matrix.
But you only live once as they say out there in the world and from the right viewpoint its more accurate than would have ever imagined before.
One life
Eternal or not.
It might be I am just helping myself by writing this. But thats why we are here right.
One of the hardest parts for me was that I couldnt stop to replay my whole marriage looking for answers there, blaming myself wich resulted in more pain.
The answers where far higher above the minds of men, and women.
The longing to find a nice person to live with might always be there. Many remarry.
Its the usual in that sense. To be desperate. To not focus there.
No this might be the One opportunity to follow Jesus.
For me it is.
It would be irresponsible to try to give more detailed tricks to get around.
I have been advised by the bible to whenever I m able just share and give and focus on others as a way to leave it all behind.
I gues for now thats it
plus
Work outdoors
if not
Bicycle
Run like a maniac
in other words sweat
Sweat, and read the bible and use the time and opportunities (if there are any) to read good old reliable evangelical commentaries and multiply thy understanding of the scripture and climb one step at the time.
But never let ones heart be lame and profane and hard.
Thats one of the single most important things I think. To keep the heart unpolluted by the hardness of the world.
Keep the birds locked inside the chambers of the heart.
My wicked self just want to open it up and let the winds in and sweap them away and replace it with iron.
Yes. We can be strong againg. Stronger than any giant of history.
If we fill our souls with the eternal royal blood of our lord and king and saviour Jesus Christ. All the glory to him forever.
Please God let all our words be lifted and understood by your wings. Under your feathers always amen.
And when we look back. Sit still and take a breath and remember the glorious city that is so real our present lives are like some strange corridoor in a huge fallen matrix.
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Thank you. In that case I boast in him as Paul said.
I would never have had the passion to share and in my own way "try" to comfort others going through the same.
Theres where im at right now in my life.
When I see all this heartbrakes and all the kids being ripped away from a functional family it just shoot right through my soul.
Its so sad.
And yet.
Our hope is huge.
Thats the only thing. Trying to write upon the wings of that hope.
Its survival too.
Greetings to you and your wife.
You are the first swede i have met here.
Nice
Ha en bra dag och må Gud välsigna ert äktenskap för alltid!
I would never have had the passion to share and in my own way "try" to comfort others going through the same.
Theres where im at right now in my life.
When I see all this heartbrakes and all the kids being ripped away from a functional family it just shoot right through my soul.
Its so sad.
And yet.
Our hope is huge.
Thats the only thing. Trying to write upon the wings of that hope.
Its survival too.
Greetings to you and your wife.
You are the first swede i have met here.
Nice
Ha en bra dag och må Gud välsigna ert äktenskap för alltid!