I have something I must confess & a question I must ask

[tooldtocare]

I have something I must confess & a question I must ask
In my younger years I knew nothing about the term “sex”.

I grew up believing a man and a woman’s relationship was for the procreation of children and none other. Now with my wife gone and my two sons having children of their own, where do I go from here?

I miss the comforts of a woman but children is out of the question. Is it permissible for me to have a warm relationship with a woman for the pleasure of it or am I sinning for thinking such thoughts-?

Just asking -

 

[Fenner]

Of course you can have a relationship with someone. I don't know if you mean like a companion or wanting a relationship just for sexual reasons, but having a friend or companion is a good thing.


I wouldn't sleep with that person until you're married though. My Mom was widowed for 24 years, had an occasional date now and then and eventually met the man who is now my stepdad. She never rushed into anything, obviously because she was single for 24 years, but many people do remarry after their spouse dies. I think that's what you're asking, I'm not quite sure. I hope I helped though. And if it's awkward for you to respond to me about this because I'm a woman I understand.

God bless you.

 

[Tinuviel]

Are you talking inside, or outside the bounds of marriage?

 

[Depleted]

Really? You think the women you date will be having children, do ya? Then, no, stay celibate, because you obviously are only after sweet young things and will toss them aside when they hit menopause.

It's as if women have no appeal once we hit menopause. We're completely useless.

For you? I'd go with celibacy, because by the time you're in your 60's this question ought to have been left behind decades ago.

 

[Ugly]

That is the Real purpose of relationship. You missed out all those years thinking marriage is nothing but a baby factory. Companionship needs are ingrained within us all. And some get lucky enough to have a companion that is closer than all others. Sounds like you had that anyways, and are finally realizing and accepting it.

 

[AuntieAnt]

Read the Song of Solomon.

 

[tourist]

A relationship between a man and a woman is more than just for the procreation of children. There is no reason why you can't enjoy a warm relationship with a woman for pleasure and comfort, preferably not outside of marriage. There is no sin of thinking such thoughts. Where do you go from here? Give this to God and allow Him to lead you. Personally, I would go for it.

 

[3putter]

Sex and love are not the same thing

 

[Utah]

A relationship between a man and a woman is ...

Better when mute.

 

[Yeraza_Bats]

I would very very much like to fall in love one day, and find that one absolute special best friend that I put before everyone else on this earth, that I can spend my entire life with and share life together.

I also want to remain celibate and not worry about sexual relations.

No, sex and love are not the same thing, Id even go as far as to say they arent even related : p You can have one without the other : p I kinda think of it as like, "are love and eating the same thing?", besides the fact that going without sex wont cause any real harm to you : p

 

[Fenner]

Better when mute.

I have to agree with you on this. Sometimes it's best when you just both shut up and read a book. Or clean the pool or ignore everything you need to do and take a nap.

 

[Test_F_i_2_Luv]

I have something I must confess & a question I must ask
In my younger years I knew nothing about the term “sex”.

I grew up believing a man and a woman’s relationship was for the procreation of children and none other. Now with my wife gone and my two sons having children of their own, where do I go from here?

I miss the comforts of a woman but children is out of the question. Is it permissible for me to have a warm relationship with a woman for the pleasure of it or am I sinning for thinking such thoughts-?

Just asking -

Get married and get frisky.

The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But this I say by way of concession, not of command. Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that. But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

-1 Cor 7:4-9
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[zeroturbulence]

Genesis 2:18 NIV:
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone."

So get out there and find yourself a companion!

 

[SteelToedKodiak]

Gen 2:18
It is not good that man should be alone.

I think women dig being alone though...That's why they have us at such a disadvantage. Lol. Sir, if you find the right person, you will regret the "what if's" of not pursuing that relationship IMO.

 

[hornetguy]

I would very very much like to fall in love one day, and find that one absolute special best friend that I put before everyone else on this earth, that I can spend my entire life with and share life together.

I also want to remain celibate and not worry about sexual relations.

No, sex and love are not the same thing, Id even go as far as to say they arent even related : p You can have one without the other : p I kinda think of it as like, "are love and eating the same thing?", besides the fact that going without sex wont cause any real harm to you : p

Well..... except for that whole "going blind" thing....

Sex and love are definitely related.... in marriage. Your sex life is SO much better when love is involved. I've tried both ways, and while sex for the sake of sex (simply a physical act) can be satisfying, physically, it leaves you with a hollow, "there's something missing" feeling. That "something missing" is, of course, love.

And, we are supposed to abstain from sex, outside of marriage, of course.

To the OP, having a "relationship" with a woman, outside of marriage should be fine... as long as sex is not involved. If you two get to the point of WANTING to have sex, then you should marry.

This is all my opinion, of course... Personally, sex would not have to be involved, necessarily.... just having someone to hold, even sleep with as a friend, would be a good thing, and I'm not sure there would be any sin involved... as long as it was not a sexual relationship..

I'm certainly interested in hearing others' viewpoints...

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

Girls have cooties.

 

[SteelToedKodiak]

And then there's the whole risk of being unequally yoked with a person who is not like minded in the faith as you. Terrible peril. The courting process is important as AuntieAnt suggested the Song of Solomon. There should be no rush. Doh which reminds me gotta do the dishes for my queen, she likes that.

 

[mar09]

1 corinthians 7.28

 

[JesusLives]

Sex is an expression of love especially if you are married. People wouldn't have sex very often if it was just to procreate.... There is nothing wrong in marriage to express your love through sex with your spouse. Sex isn't everything either and you can love someone without the sex, but when put together in a marriage situation as intended by God it is fireworks.

 

[JesusLives]

Girls have cooties.

You are too old to still feel this way....lol