What do men look for in a woman?

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Someone who is conservative (not politically as I am not a conservative in that sense, but in how they present themselves), much more Christian than myself, great personality, good with children, wants to travel and explore new cultures but is grounded enough that they don't need to be traveling all the time, and does not need to be the most attractive woman in the world....don't get me wrong, good looks are what first gets me interested, but there have been woman that I was not attracted to in the slightest at first but became very attracted to later on because they had great personalities......I would rather be with a less attractive woman who is a true companion than be with an incompatible woman just because she was physically attractive....I want companionship, not fun for the sake of fun.
 

AsifinPassing

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Feminine things? You know...the same things women look for in men. ^_~
 

BruceWayne

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I don't know. I've found that most of these lists and expectations get thrown away. When you fall for someone, you just do and a lot of that other stuff doesn't matter too much. It changes too. What I look for isn't always a constant.

But to answer the question, at the moment I look for her to be attractive, take care of herself physically, match my sense of humor, and not mind the fact that I usually wear superhero t-shirts. As the great Michael Scott once said, keep it simple stupid. :p
 

Yeraza_Bats

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Am surprised I havent seen this thread before.


But uhhhhh with me, Im looking for someone who is like me, shares mys feelings about things and makes me feel comfortable with her and junk. Someone that I feel like I can talk about anything with, and someone who really feels like a best friend, that we both feel we understand each other and junk.

I would definitely say Im very picky about who I would end up with, though not in the way most people would think when they hear that : p I mostly dont care about looks at all, but I will say that the "plain and tall" thing is a very good thing for me : p
 
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A women who knows she isn't perfect and is happy with that and progressing. She must be careful with her words. She loves the Lord and King Jesus the Christ and is extremely happy being single. she works out to keep healthy and fit. Loves herself and loves others. She is not proud and boastful but rather gentle and kind.

Not a lot to ask for, I am some of these things and will do my best to all of them and more for the King.
 
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Does she make cornbread in a round or square pan?
 
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I measured how far she stood from the stove. If she stood away from the stove she was a bad cook. Then I remembered something. My mother was a terrible cook so it didn't really matter. What really mattered was-Was she a Trump voter, or was she a Hillary voter? 4 1/2 years later if she leaves, I'm going with her.
 

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A christian man look for a better half that is first and foremost just a fellow human with a shared mind of Christ.
A person that are fully aware of the diffrent callings between men and women differ here while on earth precisely because of just that...because we are still on earth in a hostile world with all its weakness. In heaven..Then we be as the angels. In christ we are the same and one and yet totally our own character as God created us to grow into. And with the urge to abide in Christ and Joshua and Caleb and Deborah and Ruth-kind of mindset..love and spiritual warfare grow together as a tree. Pathetic to the world but encouraging for the familytree of Jesus.

Ready to bear up each other for the sake of the kingdom. To beleive its possible to really care and grow without Jesus is futile.
 

Born_Again

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I have the perfect answer to this....

One who is smart, funny, loves God and lives to follow Christ. Wants nothing to do with commitment. And most importantly, goes back to her own house at the end of the night. :D LOL

(I'm part of the few whom do not mind being alone. Ladies, you are great as friends, but go back to your own space at the end of the night.) LOL
 
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PROVERBS 31.
 

Calmador

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She "should"? She owes you that? Interesting. The following vomit worthy responses are 100% totally devoid of respect for women, what they've faced in history and in the world today. If you had any respect for yourself and what others read of you on the internet, you would've sat down and done some earnest self reflection and told yourself you're in dire need of an education before you go out and make yourself look so incredibly stupid. Worse still, people actually gullibly influenced by what you've said.




She doesn't mind talking about God vs gives up all things for God, two ends of an extreme.





You really need to be educated about what feminism is and its multi dimensional facets, your comments are incredibly ignorant and dangerous.





That's one of the saddest yet laughable, most ignorant comments I've ever read on this site. I wonder if all the Christ like couples that I know whose marriages expand 20 - 40 years ignore the principles of feminism, like equal rates and equal pay. I wonder if the men said "i hope you're not 'infected' by feminism otherwise that wouldn't be Christ like and that therefore means I couldn't have anything to do with you."

Feminism in today's age has so much more to it than equal rights and equal pay and the society that we live in should be more 'affected' and influenced not 'infected' as you so inappropriately framed it, by feminism. We as woman, have a long way to go in how we're treated by men, the judicial system, by societal attitudes and prejudices and in the work force. I know many women who have had bad experiences at the hands of men, in all those facets. The only thing that I hope for them is that they find those who of the opposite gender and a world that is educated, an advocate for and has an actual informed understanding of feminism and the challenges women face today. That is far more "for God" than anything I've seen in your responses.



I'm sure she'll make an effort to bathe herself properly for you. If she doesn't, you can be standing outside the bathroom door, with a cleansing barometer lecturing her on how Christ like it isn't for her to not meet your clean standards. We wouldn't want her to be 'infected' by feminism and how ungodly that would be.
I know this is from a long time ago but I never replied to Laura...

Yes, she should. That doesn't mean she HAS to. There's a difference. If I want to get in a relationship with a woman, I think by her own will and our relationship she should respect me. She should see me as a capable leader and G-dly man, respect me in that aspect. If she doesn't then it's probably not a good idea for me to go long term with her (marriage) because she'd have to take my lead and I'd have to rely on her to follow me as-well. Also, yes, I should do my best to be respectable. Respect is usually earned. I'd want to earn it. This isn't something that is forced... It's something that is decided on. She would decide to respect me. She doesn't "owe" me it... unless I earned it or have shown myself worthy of it. I just think it's proper if I'm to lead her in marriage.

No, I'm "educated" both formally and informally. Anyways, a proper education is one from G-d... not academia. If it's truth, wisdom, morals,.... how we ought to live life with fellowman... G-d is the proper educator. That being said, G-d clearly states that husbands are to be the head of the household. Laura, the bottom line truth is... these are not my beliefs... I kid you not that I'd probably see it a completly different way if I wasn't Christian. For starters, I don't see myself as a leader. That's one point. Next, if I wasn't Christian I'd probably go with culture and think that it's okay to have a 50/50 leadership thing in marriage. I honestly probably would think these thoughts but because I am Christian and believe that a G-d that exists. A G-d that has laid down principles for us to follow through then I believe that men should be leaders in the household.

About extremes... two extremes... nothing wrong with being extremely honest, extremely loving, extremely just, extremely humble... nothing wrong with extremes.

I know enough about at least a certain kind of feminist to talk about that kind feminism. I'm against the feminism that promotes divorce, promiscuous behavior from women, husbands not being the head of the family... or anything sinful.

Anything that is unfair against women, I'm against. That's as far as I'd agree with feminism. However, the kind of feminism that promotes sin and disobedience to G-d on a social level I'm against.
 

zeroturbulence

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That's almost as long as I take to reply to emails..
 

Yeraza_Bats

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zeroturbulance just reminded me that I need to respond to an email..
 

Sonflower

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That's almost as long as I take to reply to emails..
zeroturbulance just reminded me that I need to respond to an email..
Reading this entire post, being annoyed by some of the responses, being pleased with others and having something all typed out in response to someone THEN realizing how old this post was and deleting it was ALL worth it for these two posts right here. My Tuesday has officially started with laughter.