Why can't guys and gals just tell someone that they're interested??
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Why can't guys and gals just tell someone that they're interested??
What is your reason, or why do you think it's so difficult for people to do??
Also, is there a way to make it easier???
I have my own reasons: Fear of rejection, and... uh.. fear of rejection..
Inquiring minds want to know..
What is your reason, or why do you think it's so difficult for people to do??
Also, is there a way to make it easier???
I have my own reasons: Fear of rejection, and... uh.. fear of rejection..
Inquiring minds want to know..
Im all for girls telling boys that they like them btw, not every boy feels that a girl should never do this ever : p
And uhhhh I have never actually told anyone I liked them before, its always been the other way around for me : p Im pretty shy and junk. I figured if I got close enough to someone Id tell them though. As of right now Im not even close to anything like that though : p And Im currently not really interested in a relationship, so its not something Im worried about : p
I often wonder if people who arent shy at all whatsoever have this problem, though. Like if they are afraid to tell someone they have a crush on them. Im sure its an individual thing, though.
And uhhhh I have never actually told anyone I liked them before, its always been the other way around for me : p Im pretty shy and junk. I figured if I got close enough to someone Id tell them though. As of right now Im not even close to anything like that though : p And Im currently not really interested in a relationship, so its not something Im worried about : p
I often wonder if people who arent shy at all whatsoever have this problem, though. Like if they are afraid to tell someone they have a crush on them. Im sure its an individual thing, though.
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I was always way to reserved to make any feelings known. Generally I didn't understand my own feelings, so I didn't act on them. Not only to avoid embarrassment if I was wrong, but just because I couldn't be bothered to take time away from other things I was doing that I thought were more important. If it weren't for rather forward and direct women, I don't know that I ever would have dated anyone.
Guys have always approached me, I've never asked a guy out. Just how it's always worked out. I think it's good to start off as friends to see if you have things in common, too especially when it comes to faith.
Just how it's always worked out. I think it's good to start off as friends to see if you have things in common, too especially when it comes to faith.
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That, and people should be mind reader's. They should know when the other one is dropping hints.
Or, we read what aren't hints and assume interest is there when it's not.
That, and people should be mind reader's Spaghetti is no easy project to read!
I used to have a single's profile that was very blunt about my desires in a mate, as well as what I had to offer. The gal I've been dating for a year+ appreciated my bluntness. From the beginning, we've been forward and open about our feelings/interest in each other. We communicate well. Not necessarily eloquent(especially me), but we communicate a lot and openly.
Why can't guys and gals just tell someone that they're interested??
What is your reason, or why do you think it's so difficult for people to do??
Also, is there a way to make it easier???
I have my own reasons: Fear of rejection, and... uh.. fear of rejection..
Inquiring minds want to know..
What is your reason, or why do you think it's so difficult for people to do??
Also, is there a way to make it easier???
I have my own reasons: Fear of rejection, and... uh.. fear of rejection..
Inquiring minds want to know..
I don't know. Like you said probably fear of rejection. Then again no one has asked me out in like 20 year's. So what do I know?
I agree that they should be friends first, or at least know each other casually, but the question is... how, or at what point does a woman know if a guy is interested in being more than just friends? (Actually, that's not the topic, but it could be a good topic )
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Not even your husband?
I think it's easier to tell someone you are interested via the Internet. In person, it's another story...at least for me. I don't know if I would be as blunt in person as I would be over the Internet. (Dating site or not). I do like being blunt and just saying it but there is a fear of losing your friendship.
I have an experience with a friend. We were both interested in each other. We prayed and realized it wasn't God's will for us. Now, we are very close friends. I think if we all went into relationships or potential ones with God at the fore front it would be a lot easier to navigate it all. Maybe I'm being overly simplistic? I would hope all of my potential relationships that don't work out could end as wonderful as that example I spoke of. I know that's probably naive but I love people and don't like to hurt them.
I have an experience with a friend. We were both interested in each other. We prayed and realized it wasn't God's will for us. Now, we are very close friends. I think if we all went into relationships or potential ones with God at the fore front it would be a lot easier to navigate it all. Maybe I'm being overly simplistic? I would hope all of my potential relationships that don't work out could end as wonderful as that example I spoke of. I know that's probably naive but I love people and don't like to hurt them.
I think it's just fear of rejection and for some just being straight up shy lol. I don't know if there is a way to make it easier; sometimes you just gotta go for it. The worst that can happen is that they aren't interested. Is that embarrassing? Of course it is. It happens. Not to me, but it happens(just kidding lol). Don't let that stop ya.
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lol, Yeah I guess that counts. I already wash his underwear and cook food for him so he already knows if he wants to go to dinner or a movie I'll say yes. I usually plan most outings. Unless there is a new movie out or a comedian he wants to see comes to town. Then he'll ask. I wonder if it would be romantic if I didn't already wash his underwear?
Offering to help with the housework goes a long way and they'll never forget it and give you some sugar....that's the power of Pine Sol baby
I agree that they should be friends first, or at least know each other casually, but the question is... how, or at what point does a woman know if a guy is interested in being more than just friends? (Actually, that's not the topic, but it could be a good topic )
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